Work

[Danger90]

So, I met this girl at work a couple of months ago. Basically, we text and while texting one day she told me that she had to confess something to me and it would be between "us". Also, she said it's personal. Then a couple of days later, she messages me and then tells me to call her, so then I did but the call didn't take place until the next day. On the call, she mentioned she wanted to talk to me about herself and I told her that I wanted to get to know her. However, the meet up never happened just cause she kept on changing the times/days.

PS. to make things more complicated, I also know that there is a guy at work that has been after her for almost a year and now she is basically ignoring him.

So, what sense do you guys make of this?

 

[Fruitbat]

Spidey senses are saying "accomplished attention *****". They are not all instagram sloots. Some are far more sophisticated in how they procure male attention.

Wait until she starts with this again and call her out "last time you said this xyz happened......why not just tell me now" etc

Even if not, you will be losing ground in supplicating to her meeting demands and allowing her to pull you all over the place. Just call her out.

 

[Serenity]

To answer your question, there is no sense in this.

If she makes up another day and time just tell her straight out you're not going to waste your time on her because you know she'll change her mind. Watch the reaction, if she seems more desperate then tell her it's last chance and if she doesn't seem to care then forget her. If she blows her last chance then stop responding and forget her. Do not ever turn around on an ultimatum, no matter how much she regrets and how hard she tries winning you.

 

[glass half full]

I've been in that situation too. She is an Attention *****, with no guts.
Won't change either. Leave her the **** alone. She has a very boring but safe life and isn't giving it up, just gets a rush that her looks/charm give her power. But she doesn't have the guts to follow up on it.

She will drive you crazy if you let her, and she won't understand why you're mad about it. Move on.

 

[Masculinity]

Ignore this little girl and move on with life. She has some serious making up to do before you even discuss setting up a meeting again.

 

[exhausted]

I've been in that situation too. She is an Attention *****, with no guts.
Won't change either. Leave her the **** alone. She has a very boring but safe life and isn't giving it up, just gets a rush that her looks/charm give her power. But she doesn't have the guts to follow up on it.

She will drive you crazy if you let her, and she won't understand why you're mad about it. Move on.

Agreed. Leave her alone.

 

[GT40]

Ignore this little girl and move on with life. She has some serious making up to do before you even discuss setting up a meeting again.

Liked for truth. Totally agree with poster.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Beware of the Work Chicks who send you mixed messages. Why? Because decisions are not hard for women to make when they're SERIOUSLY interested.

Women who get your attention by flirting as if they will get with you---but actually NEVER really get with you---only prove that all they really wanted from you WAS "your attention".

Chicks who "get off" on your attention have no real need to actually get "with" you---because they've ALREADY gotten off!

That's the Hardcore Truth.

And I can guarantee you that there's many a workplace filled with thirsty, desperate, misled, "blue-balled" guys who have unfortunately found this out the HARD way.


V.U.

 

[Fruitbat]

Beware of the Work Chicks who send you mixed messages. Why? Because decisions are not hard for women to make when they're SERIOUSLY interested.

Women who get your attention by flirting as if they will get with you---but actually NEVER really get with you---only prove that all they really wanted from you WAS "your attention".

Chicks who "get off" on your attention have no real need to actually get "with" you---because they've ALREADY gotten off!

That's the Hardcore Truth.

And I can guarantee you that there's many a workplace filled with thirsty, desperate, misled, "blue-balled" guys who have unfortunately found this out the HARD way.


V.U.

I had an HB10 who was actually getting engaged (but kept everything away from me) basically tell me she was in a terrible, sexless relationship and loved me......she spent hours, months talking to me via facebook, SO convincing, yet could never meet, surprise, surprise.....just need to get away etc etc.

I was suckered so bad, she shared some of the 4K messages we sent each other with people I knew, totally humiliated me in this power game.

I got fat, I couldn't date for 2 years, the scar of this, such a HUGE thing for me, to be suckered so badly....to be made so pathetic....and publicly "shamed" - I got the blame, she was in a relationship and on the surface I was the ******* trying to "break her up", plus it was very unprofessional of me, I could have actually lost my job if she had reported me for "harrasment"....

I am not joking when I say I could have killed myself, I even made plans to. Nothing hurts for a woman you intensely crave and want to just purely toy with you for fun and also to mock you.

Yet, there is nothing illegal.....NOBODY cares. YOU are the "weirdo" who couldn't take a "no", anything you do to retaliate either leads to public ridicule OR being seen as some creep. All you did was respond to a beautiful woman and fall in love.

I am stronger now, I call women out early if I sense this, but my life was effectively ruined for 3 years because I lost all self esteem, self belief and I was too scared to try again with women because I couldn't cope with the risk of another one of these.

These women are evil, not all women of course, but the lengths they go for just superficial attention, and the joy they take in breaking you up and letting you down......they do not care if it kills you.

 

[exhausted]

I had an HB10 who was actually getting engaged (but kept everything away from me) basically tell me she was in a terrible, sexless relationship and loved me......she spent hours, months talking to me via facebook, SO convincing, yet could never meet, surprise, surprise.....just need to get away etc etc.

I was suckered so bad, she shared some of the 4K messages we sent each other with people I knew, totally humiliated me in this power game.

I got fat, I couldn't date for 2 years, the scar of this, such a HUGE thing for me, to be suckered so badly....to be made so pathetic....and publicly "shamed" - I got the blame, she was in a relationship and on the surface I was the ******* trying to "break her up", plus it was very unprofessional of me, I could have actually lost my job if she had reported me for "harrasment"....

I am not joking when I say I could have killed myself, I even made plans to. Nothing hurts for a woman you intensely crave and want to just purely toy with you for fun and also to mock you.

Yet, there is nothing illegal.....NOBODY cares. YOU are the "weirdo" who couldn't take a "no", anything you do to retaliate either leads to public ridicule OR being seen as some creep. All you did was respond to a beautiful woman and fall in love.

I am stronger now, I call women out early if I sense this, but my life was effectively ruined for 3 years because I lost all self esteem, self belief and I was too scared to try again with women because I couldn't cope with the risk of another one of these.

These women are evil, not all women of course, but the lengths they go for just superficial attention, and the joy they take in breaking you up and letting you down......they do not care if it kills you.

If a girl puts me off for a week i am out. Its easy if they are interested in more than attention they will get tog. If not goodbye. F em.