won't let go

[alwaystrapped]

I broke up with my gf a couple of days ago after I found out she was texting some guy from her past. Our relationship started as just fvcking all the time and slowly developed into dating, but I never really wanted it that way, I wasn't looking for a girlfriend but I didn't want to stop hitting that either so I kinda went along. A couple days after we broke up we both explained to each other how we really felt, and I brought back all of her sh1t just to make sure that she wouldn't pop up in my life anytime soon asking for this or that. We both agreed that we could maybe be friends one day, and I felt fine leaving it at that...

So last night she calls me while I'm at work, and I'm like wtf could she possibly want...I don't have anything of hers, there is no way I'm getting back with her, and I definitely told her I needed space. So I called her later to see what she wanted and she said she wanted to drop something off, she made this frame with pictures of me and some of my friends from a recent weekend, specifically excluding pictures of her. She was just there for a second and I was like "oh...thanks" and she smiled and left. Then I'm at a party later at night and she texts me saying "i hope you like what i dropped off", and then calls me and I don't answer.

A small part of me still likes her, but that part is under control. I know she aint gon change and there are better girls out there. The thing is, I need my space, I've been extremely mature throughout this whole thing, basically just not showing her any emotion or acting really affected by it. To me the frame thing is just her way of trying to create some kind of emotional attachment to her, and I don't want it hanging around, so what do you guys think is the best way to return it?

 

[Vypros]

Put it in the garbage?

 

[vp171s]

1. remove all photos from frame
2. rip a photo up
3. put piece of ripped photo into frame
4. return frame

voila, she'll agonize for days over what that symbolizes

 

[amethyst]

Did you check the back of the frame? and why not just keep it ^^ think about it you could take the pics off and put pics of other girls in it. frames are useful things!

 

[alwaystrapped]

Well putting it in the garbage would do, but both your solutions amount to a display of emotion from me, which is exactly what she wants. This girl is a real drama queen and I know she just wanted me to get upset about this, so I'm not going to. I don't want to have it at my place, I want to give it back, I'm just trying to figure out the way to do so.

 

[Vypros]

Well putting it in the garbage would do, but both your solutions amount to a display of emotion from me, which is exactly what she wants. This girl is a real drama queen and I know she just wanted me to get upset about this, so I'm not going to. I don't want to have it at my place, I want to give it back, I'm just trying to figure out the way to do so.

Sounds like she already got a display of emotion from you, even if SHE hadn't seen it.

How is walking something over to the trash can and dropping it a "display of emotion"?

Do you get equally as emotional when you through away other things? Like a banana peel? Or the plastic off of your food? Do you sob uncontrollably as you drop that empty can from your Campbell's Chunky Chicken soup into the trash? Do you weep emphatically when you finish a box of cereal and toss the box into the can? Does depression set in when you don't finish your dinner so you have to make the trek to the trash can to slid the remains into the bag? When the garbagemen come and pick up your trash or you take it to the dumpster or whatever, do you find yourself getting a low-rumble pit in the bottom of your stomach and your eyes welling up?

Comn, man, giving it back to her is just going to create the drama that you said she wants.

 

[alwaystrapped]

Alright you caught me. Part of me still likes her enough that I'd feel guilty throwing it away.

 

[Vypros]

Can I ask you a question? The guy she was texting....could you give a few more details about that?

I mean, was he an ex?
Was she hiding it from you? If so, how long?
Was there anything else going on between them?
Do they work together?
Etc. etc.

 

[alwaystrapped]

after listening to advice from several people, i have decided the best route is to just put it in the closet and not worry about it. amethyst you're right, its a frame and potentially useful. and vypros you are also right, giving it back to her would just drag this shyt out longer and give her exactly what she wanted.

thanks anyways.