Women with new boyfriends

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I've been fortunate enough to observe a few new relationships that have popped up around me lately - a few new couples that have got together.
For all the talk around here about how men desire women more than women desire men, what I'm seeing is interesting.

These women are absolutely giddy. They are so proud of their men, they want everyone to know they have them, they seem to think they are so irresistable all other women will desire them, they talk up their strong points, and they are totally starry eyed. Meanwhile, while I'm sure the guys are happy with their girls, you barely hear a peep out of them.

I suppose this is partly because women focus on emotion, and they are riding high on the rush of new love, and playing it to the hilt. Once that emotion fades, odds are that the women will tire of the guy and be the one to end it by dumping him.

But it's interesting to see how a woman who has a crush or whatever on a guy gets so completely involved and carried away by it, at least in the early days. The guy can do no wrong, he is an absolute hero in her eyes.
 

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Your post reminds me of why I believe some guys cant seem to get into a "relationship" and the girl fades out quick, even after he has sex with her.

I think its because the guy overrides the girls giddy emotions by getting too lovey dovey and giddy himself therefore canceling out her beginning stage infatuation. You are canceling out her rush and she loses desire to continue.

Thats my take anyway, i could be wrong.
 

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I know exactly what you're talking about, Zekko. Girls who have a new boyfriend can never seem to shut up about him. They will find a way to let it be known that they have a new boyfriend in pretty much every interaction.

This also applies to recently engaged or newly married women. OK...we get it! Some guy loves you enough to put a ring on your finger and to commit to being with you for the rest of his life. We don't need to hear about your husband/fiancee ad nauseam.
 

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For all the talk around here about how men desire women more than women desire men, what I'm seeing is interesting......
What you miss is that the men desire the women themselves more than anything else, while those giddy women desire the *status* of having a desirable boyfriend above the boyfriend himself. That's why you get to *hear* a lot from the women, but can only observe the men to conclude if they're happy or not. It's normal, but an important distinction.
 

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its basically over comepensation, when you see it happening, or usually hear it! the woman is usually trying too hard, Ive been the guy, it is cringeworthy and embarrassing. its really all about her. its irritating and nobody is taken in by it. the more she bigs him up, the bigger issues she is covering up
 

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a woman with a new BF or Husband has just acquired a potential or actual nest slave that is financially responsible to her for nearly his whole life with no reciprocity required from her :eek:

she should be happy... in her mind she just won the lottery and a willing slave :yes: of course it is all masked behind the facade of love so no overt blame can be cast to her. :crackup:
 

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Part of what this shows is how the woman becomes a part of a man's life, rather than the man becoming part of the woman's life. Traditionally women have taken their identity from the man they mate with. Like General Custer's wife, for example.

Jitterbug said:
What you miss is that the men desire the women themselves more than anything else, while those giddy women desire the *status* of having a desirable boyfriend above the boyfriend himself.
I think you have a point, but I can't fully agree. If women were only after the status, why are they so fickle? Why do they get tired of their boyfriends and move onto another one? Despite all that's been said about hypergamy, it's been pretty well demonstrated that women often make lateral or even downward choices in mate choice. They get bored with their boyfriend and find a new one. If they were merely after status, why would they need a new one to keep thing fresh?
 

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Some women these days don't look for boyfriend only for sex , they can have more without him ,but only if they think he is a catch .
I played the "catch" game with women and it is very effective , a lot of women now only looking for a bf if he is a catch , to brag in fornt of their friends , and it depend of how long you can play the role of catch before she discover there is no catch and no line of girls waiting on your door .
so what you said prove my theory of girls today **** with sexy alphas , but look for catch bf (not necessary alpha ) he could be famous or very handsome ,or rich , or any thing that she may think other women will die for him
 

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zekko said:
Part of what this shows is how the woman becomes a part of a man's life, rather than the man becoming part of the woman's life. Traditionally women have taken their identity from the man they mate with. Like General Custer's wife, for example.


I think you have a point, but I can't fully agree. If women were only after the status, why are they so fickle? Why do they get tired of their boyfriends and move onto another one? Despite all that's been said about hypergamy, it's been pretty well demonstrated that women often make lateral or even downward choices in mate choice. They get bored with their boyfriend and find a new one. If they were merely after status, why would they need a new one to keep thing fresh?
It's the novelty and excitement of the "new".

It's the very same thing that drives them to devour the Star or whatever the current gossip magazines of the day are.

Novelty. A fresh set of clothes, a new pair of shoes, a new boyfriend. It all makes her feel alive.

They are trained by the media to question "whether they are really happy", or "is this relationship really working". Look at all the quizzes they take in those magazines. They actually talk her into questioning everything, with the sure result of a wandering eye and a readiness to branch swing at the first opportunity.
 

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I'm noticing a quite a few, in My area, kind of an affluent well-to-do area, that women brag within earshot of me working or passing by about her "new boyfriend" or fiance or man, from "Europe" or France, or whatever, then she sees me and she kinda loses interest in that thought about her new beau, but she does not know if I am married or not, and even as I am not, I'd never consider her "long term" cause (I'd only fvck her making her BELIEVE that I'd want to be with her long term) I don't really care for 'fake' or bragadocious females. I can judge character of women instantaneously, on the spot, within a few mins of speaking with her or seeing her interact with those around we are speaking with. I know a woman who is right for me. I know the kind who may/may not fail me. These kind, for me, are almost always tom-boyish, think a little as men, but still have all the very girl parts and ways about them. I prefer the extremely feminine kind too, but they must be kept AWAY, I'd even said that with these kind you should buy some property Way out in the boonies to keep her there as your extremely sheltered wife/indecisive (THAT IS extreme femininity in a nutshell ~ indecisiveness, a Super Model, if you will, a curled up cat, with No girlfriends to whisper into her ears any ideas against you, just You and your children and your parents/her family...That's the Only way to maintain the extreme feminine ones over the long haul. They Can't have a job out in the real world, they can't really visit the store, really, ok??) girlfriend. Now, if the extreme feminine one cannot be got (it's the more expensive route), then I must go the tom-boy knows me/loves me path that does not have to be sequestered as the quiet proper model would have to be. I've met the tom-boy knows me/loves me type girls, 2 in particular, that Really, I felt like, loved me, to the core of my being. They had some ultimo flaws that I could not overlook, so I just strung them along (sex All the time), until she finally realized that I wasn't going to let them into my world full-time, ever, that it's Not gonna happen, until/if they fix there flaws...but How do you #1 tell them what their flaws are (put it out front) and #2 tell them how to fix them?? I wouldn't even know where to begin that convo and to sensitively direct it to achieve the results we'd wanted to make everything right for the long haul. So we moved on, or I moved on and became a disappearing act while she still tried checking back in with me as of July, a full year later and several months without being around each other.

So you must Find the ones who are already "There," fitting the square peg in the square hole for You. They're hard to find, and I still haven't found it/her. I thought I had in 2005 and 2011 with 2 separate girls, both tom-boys. I haven't ever come close to finding the super model extreme femininity kind (that you must lock away) who will have me. One who I'd thought may be getting there was earlier this year, but she really began failing me over the Summer, and as of now, I told her straight up that I will never contact her again. She didn't respond to that. She'd responded to almost every message/phone call, I'd sent her since I'd first met her around New Years Eve. This was really the first time she's not responded, when I said that I'd never call her again, Not because she's ever flaked me, but because she's so aloof about getting back with each other, and Always making excuses, so I tested her once and for all with the "I'll never contact you again, ok?" I needed to cut ties with the highly feminine/quiet almost super model choice. I can have either, the tom-boy or the withdrawn quiet type. There's no in-between girl For Me.
 

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Danger said:
How old are the couples?
How attractive are the women?
How alpha are the men?
The couples are late 20s/mid 30s.
The women are probably a 7 and a 5.
The men are probably both 7s. I dont know how "alpha" they are, but they are both of decent-to-good value. One's tall and handsome, one makes good money.

I don't think the girls are being "fake". I think they are both caught up in the excitement of their new relationships and are genuinely proud of their men. My guess is these relationships are likely to last awhile. One of the essential building blocks of a good relationship is that the woman be high interest.
 

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You don't think younger girls do this with their boyfriends? I do. I don't think it's so much about finding the "right guy" as the rush of excitement and emotion of finding a new guy who turns them on. When girls are in this phase, the guys they are with can practically do no wrong - everything they do is charming.

As for the wall, I know it exists, but I think its importance is somewhat exaggerated (like most things here). I know a woman around my age, she's been married four or five times. Every seven years or so she gets a new husband. Maybe they aren't super alphas, but it's not like she can't find a guy. With this woman, her face is still cute, although her body has long gone south. It's not like a girl turns 30 and all of a sudden no one wants them.
 

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Both of my wives and all girlfriends I've had were exactly like this. They gushed about me everywhere they went.

Everybody loves to be in love. If you're feeling it for some hot girl who's reciprocating, you'll be bragging her up a bit, too.

So, why does it end? In my own case, I got too clingy in my earlier relationships, in my later ones, I made poor choices and gave them all the rope they needed to hang themselves and ruin things instead of enforcing appropriate barriers.
 

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funny, I saw a new couple here and I have only contact with the girl, and I don't remember she saying anything good about him.

what you guys think about that?
 

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Jitterbug said:
What you miss is that the men desire the women themselves more than anything else, while those giddy women desire the *status* of having a desirable boyfriend above the boyfriend himself. That's why you get to *hear* a lot from the women, but can only observe the men to conclude if they're happy or not. It's normal, but an important distinction.
This was also what I was thinking about. Many female secretaries marry their bosses. Opposite rarely happens. They probably married into the status of their boyfriends and are happy to advertise it. Men, on the other hand, have associated themselves with these women in exchange for their intimacy and sex. Buyer happy, seller happy.
 

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Alvafe said:
funny, I saw a new couple here and I have only contact with the girl, and I don't remember she saying anything good about him.

what you guys think about that?
you mean your girl doesn't talk too enthused about you, am I right?

:D
 

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Boilermaker said:
you mean your girl doesn't talk too enthused about you, am I right?

:D

no still single, but I wouldn't mind making her mine :), but that was not the point, I just am trying to understand what is the deal here, normally when everything start you get that blind all is nice and well but when you start something new and you don't feel like taht happy and in less then 2 months you complain about it....
 

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Alvafe said:
funny, I saw a new couple here and I have only contact with the girl, and I don't remember she saying anything good about him.

what you guys think about that?
I'd say that is a very common occurrence.
When I was giving the examples in the original post, I just meant that this was something that happens, not that every girl behaved that way with every boyfriend that they have.

A lot of girls don't appreciate their boyfriends, and it's probably even more common for wives to talk about thier husbands like they were dogs. In some cases, they probably really are lousy husbands, but in others, it's probably a sign of a low quality woman with a sense of entitlement.
 

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