Women who quickly bring up their boyfriends

marmel75

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Depends...

Could be they aren't interested. Could be they've had a long day and don't want to be bothered talking to a random stranger. Could be they are seeing if you are going to go for what you want or let that deter you. Could be its so they get it out in the open and hope you give up because they are afraid they might be tempted to do something with you because they are attracted, so its like a "please save me from myself" move.

Could be for any number of other reasons. It's honestly not worth worrying about.
 

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The problem is that with the stone cold approach [animal], you will pretty much provoke a defensive mechanism in the woman, one that is automatic, and even involuntary. If you can somehow make the approach seem warm [more natural/social], then you have a much higher chance of successfully meeting the woman. I think traditional Don Juan's were well practiced in the art of this kind of approach. Stone cold approach is a modern phenomenon, and tailored to a certain type of girl.....
 

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Only 3 possibilities with that line;

1. When approaching and she opens with that line = u r not attractive or she's the faithful type and please leave me alone.

2. Shes engaging but in the middle of the conversation/flirting she plays that bf line = shiet testing you.

3. She flirts back with strong contact and when things get hot she opens that line = she wants you but says it aloud so that would make her the victim of ur seduction and thus in her mind blameless.
 

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I've dropped this response on the a few times and it usually works. If they have a boyfriend, at least you get to regain some energy after the rejection and if they don't have a boyfriend, their hamster may start spinning.

Her: blah blah blah my boyfriend blah
You: Well, I guess if I were interested in you that would be a problem. But I'm not, so you can relax, tiger ; ] I'm a friendly guy in general. (At this point, I usually give them an excuse to leave; the excuse is so ridiculous that is kind of funny: "Well...I've to go floss my cat. Take it easy it [her name here]!"

This situation usually shocks them.
Actually, I think by coming back with "if I were interested in you", you are validating her rejection of you. Do you think that the Alpha Man feels the need to say something like that? No, it doesn't even occur to him that he was in "pickup mode" since he never is in such mode.
 

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Only 3 possibilities with that line;

1. When approaching and she opens with that line = u r not attractive or she's the faithful type and please leave me alone.

2. Shes engaging but in the middle of the conversation/flirting she plays that bf line = shiet testing you.

3. She flirts back with strong contact and when things get hot she opens that line = she wants you but says it aloud so that would make her the victim of ur seduction and thus in her mind blameless.
I think this is the complete breakdown of all the cases.
Of course is only a guideline, but a very good one!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I've dropped this response on the a few times and it usually works. If they have a boyfriend, at least you get to regain some energy after the rejection and if they don't have a boyfriend, their hamster may start spinning.

Her: blah blah blah my boyfriend blah
You: Well, I guess if I were interested in you that would be a problem. But I'm not, so you can relax, tiger ; ] I'm a friendly guy in general. (At this point, I usually give them an excuse to leave; the excuse is so ridiculous that is kind of funny: "Well...I've to go floss my cat. Take it easy it [her name here]!"

This situation usually shocks them.
 

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I had a girl that I friended on Facebook about a week ago talk to me and the conversation flowed. She is Albanian but in Spain currently, was sitting that night with her boyfriend watching Eurovision and she was going to the bathroom telling me her panties were full of white juices and that she wants me to fack her LOL boyfriend is a boyfriend if he is her most attractive option and if she has a good character (always a doubt with women). Other than that, every situation is different.
 

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Actually, I think by coming back with "if I were interested in you", you are validating her rejection of you. Do you think that the Alpha Man feels the need to say something like that? No, it doesn't even occur to him that he was in "pickup mode" since he never is in such mode.
I have thought about just smiling broadly and chuckling a bit when she quickly mentions the boyfriend, but not saying anything about it and continuing the conversation for as long as I'm interested in it. I feel like that's a good way to covertly indicate that you see what she did and that you find it funny that she felt the need to inject it so quickly when all you did was start up conversation. My approaches haven't been the, "Hey, you're really cute and I had to stop and say hi." My approaches have been just friendly chit-chat that is on-topic to whatever is going on around us.

Anyway, most of my bringing this up is to try to see how much of this I should expect on average. I'd really like to stay away from OLD but I might not have a choice.
 

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I'm likely biased towards OLD and don't as a matter of practise ever go OLD - I get to travel a lot so meeting women is not a problem.

But I do see the value in OLD for those home/city based, it opens up your options and I'm guessing it's a different kind of ball game over there.
 

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If a woman wants the D, if you're a Chad, she forgets about her husband. This is women today.

There's a solution. #nextset
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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Actually, I think by coming back with "if I were interested in you", you are validating her rejection of you. Do you think that the Alpha Man feels the need to say something like that? No, it doesn't even occur to him that he was in "pickup mode" since he never is in such mode.
Meh
 

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A lot of the time when they say this they do have a bf but are still interested. The reason they bring it up is because in their minds it takes the responsibility off them and on to you if they end up cheating, i.e. "I told him I had a boyfriend but he kept persisting so i'm not to blame"
 

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If a woman wants the D, if you're a Chad, she forgets about her husband. This is women today.

There's a solution. #nextset
Sometimes a woman won't put herself in that position. But she won't be exactly normal. There will be downsides to her personality. Maybe it won't be even worth it.
 

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Sometimes a woman won't put herself in that position. But she won't be exactly normal. There will be downsides to her personality. Maybe it won't be even worth it.
Hot/cold, take D out. How's that for ambiguity?

Dtf or next set. Pull? Cool story bro. Next set!
 
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