Women who are engaged in night clubs.

Chamber36

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It's happened to me now twice in 8 days that I meet a chick and she tells me she's getting married soon. First time it was an uggo, and she started qualifying herself to me like she was trying to convince me (and herself) that her choice to get married was the right one. I mean I really don't like getting involved in people's personal lives but whatever. The chick from last week was ugly and narcissistic and she was just a train wreck really, 'damaged goods'.

So last night I get about 9/10 IOI's from this cute chick. She's my age and our lives are entirely different and it was real fun talking to her and stuff, and she seemed really smart for a change and sorta was asking me all the right questions and vice versa. Although I could tell that she wasn't 100% aware of all the game subtleties the way most girls are. I could tell she never went out to the club. Anyway, at the end of the night I started asking what she was doing next week, whether she wanted to meet up and pre-drink. Then she suddenly said that she was getting married in two weeks.

Funny thing is, when she said that I got entirely turned on.

Maybe she was just a tease, but she gave me all those subtle inadvertent subconscious IOI's.

At a moment when a chick tells me she's getting married, but that she's got cold feet and what-not, it sorta puts a lot of pressure on me. And she says that it was her high-school sweetheart from when she was 17. And she's 22 now. Who the hell gets married at 22?

So I start to think to myself 'maybe I should make out with her just to give her an excuse not to get married'. She actually was like: "I already agreed, so I can't back out now!!" And: "I guess I'll just divorce him in a few years".

I wanted to make out with the chick. She was definitely girlfriend material. I just wasn't feeling up to it because, well, I cut my lip a few days ago and its still healing.

I wasn't really trying my best there in the club last night with the kino escalation and stuff. But she was definitely asking for it. Why would a chick who's engaged go to the club and start telling some random guy (me) about her second thoughts?

Is that her idea of a 'bachelorette party'? She was cool and all until she told me she was getting married. It's a bit of a mind-fvck. She seemed like she was totally unsure and so I sorta feel like as a good Samaritan I should have ravaged her. So who can give me some wise words about situations like these? lol
 

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I don't wanna sound rude, or sound like somebody that is a complete master at understanding chicks, but why exactly do you think she's girlfriend material ?

First and foremost, She's getting married dude ! At 22 !!!!! Don't you see it as a red flag ?

Second: The whole thing about she agreed already and can't back out... People should get married because they love eachother, not because there's financial or power rewards in the equation...

Why would a chick who's engaged go to the club and start telling some random guy (me) about her second thoughts?
Well because she's a major attention-*****, or she simply want it to test you and see if she can let you hit it.

By all means if you can, hit it and dump but her being a girlfriend material: HELL NO

Remember, you can't know if a girl is worthy unless you go out with her multiple times, hit it couple times if it's possible and exposed in different environment to see her real character

Hope that helps.
 

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Chamber36 said:
It's happened to me now twice in 8 days that I meet a chick and she tells me she's getting married soon. First time it was an uggo, and she started qualifying herself to me like she was trying to convince me (and herself) that her choice to get married was the right one. I mean I really don't like getting involved in people's personal lives but whatever. The chick from last week was ugly and narcissistic and she was just a train wreck really, 'damaged goods'.

Women are more shallow and narcissistic than men could ever be. She's not marrying you. Are you for some reason interested? If so, just go for the pump and dump.

So last night I get about 9/10 IOI's from this cute chick. She's my age and our lives are entirely different and it was real fun talking to her and stuff, and she seemed really smart for a change and sorta was asking me all the right questions and vice versa. Although I could tell that she wasn't 100% aware of all the game subtleties the way most girls are. I could tell she never went out to the club. Anyway, at the end of the night I started asking what she was doing next week, whether she wanted to meet up and pre-drink. Then she suddenly said that she was getting married in two weeks.

IOI's are not that reliable. IOD's, however, are very reliable. Women are fickle. They know how to play games, and very well.

Funny thing is, when she said that I got entirely turned on.

Oh sh*t.

Maybe she was just a tease, but she gave me all those subtle inadvertent subconscious IOI's.

She's not a tease. She's an attention wh0re. Kinda similar.

At a moment when a chick tells me she's getting married, but that she's got cold feet and what-not, it sorta puts a lot of pressure on me. And she says that it was her high-school sweetheart from when she was 17. And she's 22 now. Who the hell gets married at 22?

I didn't, hell, I'm not looking to get married or have kids anytime soon!

So I start to think to myself 'maybe I should make out with her just to give her an excuse not to get married'. She actually was like: "I already agreed, so I can't back out now!!" And: "I guess I'll just divorce him in a few years".

And I guess that your princess is in another castle.

I wanted to make out with the chick. She was definitely girlfriend material. I just wasn't feeling up to it because, well, I cut my lip a few days ago and its still healing.

Unnecessary use of a pedestal.

I wasn't really trying my best there in the club last night with the kino escalation and stuff. But she was definitely asking for it. Why would a chick who's engaged go to the club and start telling some random guy (me) about her second thoughts?

Because she sees you as a friend. Simple.

Is that her idea of a 'bachelorette party'? She was cool and all until she told me she was getting married. It's a bit of a mind-fvck. She seemed like she was totally unsure and so I sorta feel like as a good Samaritan I should have ravaged her. So who can give me some wise words about situations like these? lol

Nowadays, women will have boyfriends and husbands, but won't tell you early because of the amount of attention that she'll miss out on. You want wise words? Ok, this girl is somebody else's problem. Not yours.
Read betw- Refusing to let this get you down, gaming other women, and understanding that your princess is in another castle is the best thing that is for you. That's my ruling.

Case closed.
 

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W.T.F do you think YOU are???????

Mate, you seem like the biggest a rse hole loser i've EVER come across on SS.

Why the hell do you think you are gods gift????? You say about all the IOI's - but when it comes down to it, she aint interested....get it???

You say that you wanna kinda give her an excuse not to go ahead with her thing, WHY??? Are you a bad loser??? How bout when you come to meet a woman - she goes out with her m8's after you 2 get engaged - if some dumbass like you starts approachin ur girl, u betta sure hope ur girl comes up with something to ward off idiots like u.....

What is it with players these days.....single girls are fair game; lay off other mens women...... (as far as i know i never been cheated on, but i'd sure smack the *****, and some idiot like you UP if i ever found out)

F uck you *****
 

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lol last time I started a thread about a guy's sister and somebody got offended.

TonyBaloney, you're a White Knight.

I saw her today and I just said 'hi, how are you', etc.

The fact she even showed up today, the next day, already let me know enough. I immediately lost interest.

So for all you TonyBaloney's out there: I laid off of her.

And besides: I asked for the number last night and she didn't give me, so I have no reason to talk to her anyway.

I guess she's not girlfriend material after all.

Also, I suppose once she tells me crap like that too, it simply puts me in the friend-zone.
 

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Married/engaged women are often the easiest to pickup because they are generally starved for validation/attention from men because nobody ever flirts or hits on them because they have a man around most of the time. At least that's part of it I think.
 

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TonyBaloney said:
W.T.F do you think YOU are???????

Mate, you seem like the biggest a rse hole loser i've EVER come across on SS.

Why the hell do you think you are gods gift????? You say about all the IOI's - but when it comes down to it, she aint interested....get it???

You say that you wanna kinda give her an excuse not to go ahead with her thing, WHY??? Are you a bad loser??? How bout when you come to meet a woman - she goes out with her m8's after you 2 get engaged - if some dumbass like you starts approachin ur girl, u betta sure hope ur girl comes up with something to ward off idiots like u.....

What is it with players these days.....single girls are fair game; lay off other mens women...... (as far as i know i never been cheated on, but i'd sure smack the *****, and some idiot like you UP if i ever found out)

F uck you *****
well someones had a girl stolen from her lol

and a engaged or married girl will tell u straight up if shes engaged or married

if she doset right away shes got some issues
 

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Cable,

If u think Ive had a girl stolen, think again....

I just have standards, and I'm tired of goin out with girls who have beta morons trying it on with them all the time......

If you think your good enough to be a playboy like me; and I'm tellin the OP this, then you dont need to hit on engaged p ussy - its ends up going wrong one way or the other.......
 

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I wasn't asking for pointers on how to get with engaged chicks.

I think you guys took my statement about her being "girlfriend material" out of context. I didn't mean for me specifically, but just generally. She seemed well-rounded is all. Especially in this situation, if she's engaged she isn't girlfriend material FOR ME, but she still might be for her fiance.

I just felt put under pressure because she gave me some come-ons and then told me she was engaged.

If it was up to me, there wouldn't be any engaged girls in the club at all. That way I could concentrate on the available ones.

Also I figured that if a chick wants to cheat on her boyfriend it might as well be with me. I'm not a homewrecker or anything. I was just willing to scratch her itch. But that's all theoretical. Like I said, I lost most of my interest, so and I am not gonna invest.

Now I am listening some Patrice O'neal and he touches up on the subject why women like to get married fast. He says: "It's like dracula trying to eat dinner with you real fast before 5am comes".... "I gotta get this motherfvcker so that I have an excuse not to be bigger than my vagina. If you stretch out that courtship she's going to have to force herself to be bigger than her vagina". It makes sense to me.

Weird logic. Still makes me wonder why they go out and try and get attention from other men at all...
 
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