I can't agree with this enough. As for your last paragraph, I had a coworker who fit that description. Of course, she has convinced herself that her degree and status make her "intimidating" to men. In reality, she was an insufferable kunt who thought she was superior to any man earning less than her. Her piss poor work ethic and lack of discipline made it incredibly difficult to take her seriously at work.
People fail to recognize that they do carry an energy with them. Perhaps you can call it an "Aura." Some women (particularly in corporate America) are clueless about how disgusting their stench can sometimes be.
Back when I was in Grad school there were always group assignments and I would pair up with women through them, then with the additional classes in the major, i'd get to know them. Some of them I got to know very well, hung out/dated. A good number of them literally slept through the program. I'd wonder how they'd get good grades because it didn't really seem like they knew anything or were even trying hard to learn. Then you'd find out (usually they'd reveal) how they basically just chegg everything, manage to get copies of the assignments/tests, come up with clever ways to cheat, pay people to do their work etc. Used to baffle me because I'd think here you are paying money and spending your time on something that I imagine you want to make a career of but don't even take remotely seriously. I don't doubt some of the guys went these lengths as well to cheat but most of the people I knew doing it were women. Some went on to graduate and find good jobs too or move into better positions, go figure lol.
I kinda touched upon it on the other post -while I don't doubt women are filling a lot of the white collar roles more and more I really doubt most are contributing anything amazing. I was in finance before tech and I noticed the same exact thing. Like in my school example I think women are by and large far better at "playing the part" than men are. When it comes to stuff like giving a good interview, realizing the importance of connections/networking, picking the *right* school, all the superficial stuff, women have a decided advantage. When it comes down to the actual heavy lifting (doing the job) men are the one's that largely keep things afloat.
There is an increasing large percentage of men feeling left behind and we do need to help them. It is a silent, unrecognized crisis. Well I shouldn't unrecognized - it's more like society doesn't care because has an affinity for shaming and beating down men.
