You miss the point. The orgasms women have, if they have a skilled lover, FAR surpass anything a man can experience. FAR surpass. And yes the ****oris is involved. That is where the orgasms come from. Penetration is the least of the sex act.
My ex gf and I had lengthy conversations about this. She told me numerous times how much she felt bad for men that they could only have one.
I have seen their eyes roll back in their heads, their bodies go into convulsions, they have broken into tears, laid in bed shaking for 10 seconds afterwards. I was in disbelief sometimes.
If you have never seen this, you are doing ALOT wrong.
Now sex DRIVE is a different matter. They have 12-17 times less testosterone than men. But once you get them into the act, their ability to experience pleasure far exceeds ours.