women keeping exes as friends

[pyros]

Is it just me or do you guys also noticed that nowadays more than half of the girls you hang out are still 'friends' with their exboyfriends?

This is something that really annoys me cause the few times I met a girl that was still friends with her ex (fb, twitter, same group of friends etc) they still had this 'thing' going on you know? they were just friends but the chance of getting back together or at least having sex was high.

There are other girls that keep being friends with their exes but they are sad and depressed cause the guy dumped her but he wanted to remain 'friends'.

All this makes the girl unable to really start a new fresh relationship with another guy cause she's still attached, somehow, to her ex. YOu know, if they keep texting each other, keep seing each other, keep having sex from time to time...this is no way to start a new relationship with someone else.

One decade ago when there was no fb, no whatsapp etc, once you broke up with someone it was pretty clear that you would not keep that person as friend, and you would not keep any contact, so you actually forgot about her/him and you were ready to start a new relationship in a good way.

I bet you've 'dated' a girl or even had sex with her just for her to go back to her ex a few weeks or months later cause they kept being 'friends'. It happened to me twice. Other times I saw this from the begining so I did not take the girl seriously and stopped seing her.

Have you experienced this as well?

 

[nismo-4]

Only if the ex dumped her first. If she dumped him and they never banged, he's a beta orbiter. Now, every woman has exes. Telling a man not to date a woman with exes is like saying don't date.

 

[Fireballs]

I don't stay in contact with my ex's out of respect for my girlfriend and I expect the same from her even though I'm pretty sure I have a few still on my fb.

If she still talks to/hangs out with her ex, that's a red flag in my book. Do you think you're the number one guy in her life if she's in contact with ex's? Nope.

I have never said this directly to her and she doesn't keep contact with her ex but if she started to talk to him I would not hesitate to walk. Once again, it's about respect.

 

[Meisterman]

Doesn't matter how it ended. If she still wants to see him/be friends with him but they aren't fvcking, she's an attention wh*re. And the dudes likely a beta orbiter depending on who dumped who (or if they ever fvcked at all).

 

[GS750]

The friends with exes thing is horse sh*t. I dont think it matters who ended it, or if they dated for a short period or a long one. She's keeping him as a "friend" because:

She misses him or his company
She's open to dating him again in the future
She likes the attention he provides, or possibly he provides something the new guy doesn't

 

[mikey2012]

Is it because there are so many beta orbiters out there now?

What's the point in being friends with your ex? Assuming she dumped you. Waiting around if she change her mind?
I can't think of anything more humiliating for a man.
Once its over, its over. Just forget she even exists.

Of course she wants to remain in contact at her whim. That's because she's a selfish attention seeking hore.

Don't feed the hamster. Cut her off for good.

 

[stevo]

Girls do not often cut ties completely especially if they fcuked the dude and if the dude broke up with them.

It's easier for the man to move on except the one off cases of girls who are plain heartless beeches, they just rip that heart out and keep it moving.

As to friends with exes. I do not have taste for it, there are rare occasions I'm friends with a girl (ex or not), I'd have to be tapping that.

Now a plate can be friends with her ex, shoot she can be friends with whoever she wants (it's a free country) as long as they're not fcuking, being sneaky, she's not doing anything disrespectful and I do not suspect anything. This however would be counted as a baggage against her.

 

[beyondunplugged]

This is something that really annoys me cause the few times I met a girl that was still friends with her ex (fb, twitter, same group of friends etc) they still had this 'thing' going on you know? they were just friends but the chance of getting back together or at least having sex was high.

As outlined above, there could only be several reasons to keep in contact with a person who tried to be in a relationship with but it ended. First of all, why did you end the relationship and then want this person still around?

1. Unsure about breaking up with them.
2. Trying to get their attention or change them.
3. Keep them as source of attention/beta orbiter.
4. Keep access to sex.

All this makes the girl unable to really start a new fresh relationship with another guy cause she's still attached, somehow, to her ex. YOu know, if they keep texting each other, keep seing each other, keep having sex from time to time...this is no way to start a new relationship with someone else.

Have you experienced this as well?

A girl I was very interested in and we have been on and off for years actually just did this. And she actually told me straight up that she still had contact with her ex-boyfriend and that was stopping her from being in a relationship. I "nexted" her and went NC because in my mind, she chose him over me. She got so pissed when I told her I didn't want her in my life that she called me at 2:00 AM on her way to pick up her ex who was drunk. Basically, she was telling me she was going to fvck him. :nono: It actually became a weapon that she used against me. Too bad I just replaced her. :crackup:

 

[GS750]

Chase had a good article on this that may shed some light on it:

http://www.girlschase.com/content/her-ex-boyfriend’s-still-picture-what-do

 

[skinnyguy]

I read an article about women who are still banging their ex husbands. Seems pretty accepted these days. It's also very acceptable to cheat on your spouse and have multiple babies by mutiple women out of wedlock.

 

[Rainman4707]

Hmm my girlfriend has a beta orbiter.

She goes to the cinema with him once a week. I entered a LTR with her last night.

Anyway she told me she was in a 6 month relationship with him in 2012. He never even tried to kiss her during this relationship

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Notice how (wittingly? unwittingly?) by doing so, by keeping their exes around, they're using that as massive leverage against guys. Most of us hear about how she's still friends with one, two, five, eight of her exes, and we freeze up for a second, flushed with a quick wave of dread. "If things ever go south between us, the slightest tiff, she's got any one of those dudes on tap to make a beeline toward. I don't know if she will, but she definitely can..." Maybe we should put an end to burning bridges to with our exes, at least to simulate the appearance that we too have other pvssy on tap if she does not behave herself. My ex once told me that I really kept her "on her toes" our first go around (we basically had two separate relationship periods), and although I never probed for the reason why, I still fondly remember all her cute, clever little attempts - and there were many - to try to get me to open up and reveal whether or not my ex was still in the picture. I strongly suspect that atmosphere of doubt was a key reason why, paradoxically, she stuck around.

 

[Yorkex]

Let me she'd my light.

Dated a chick for 3 years , she really loves me but I broke it off. She found a new man and I talked to her and these are her words. " If someone asked me if I loved my boyfriend i would say no because deep down I don't but if they asked if I loved you I will say yes". Again I don't know if she is lying or not.

Honestly I don't really care. Girls/Women these days no NOTHING about loyalty and forgiveness. They always have some next chump willing to go out his way to give her attention or take them out. It's so messed up that even a girl that's 6/10 WILL get a date within 2-4 hours if she wanted. I sit down and think marriage and relationships are not worth it anymore ..it holds not value. Of course there are a few exceptions but good luck finding them.

I'm 22 now and I just want to look for a girl that we have a mutual understanding ...get her pregnant and we both raise the kid ...no attachment , she can do what she wants I can do what I want as long as I can see my kid on demand.

 

[skinnyguy]

I'm 22 now and I just want to look for a girl that we have a mutual understanding ...get her pregnant and we both raise the kid ...no attachment , she can do what she wants I can do what I want as long as I can see my kid on demand.

Lol I can't believe what I just read and I've seen a lot of jacked up **** on this site

 

[Rainman4707]

Lol I can't believe what I just read and I've seen a lot of jacked up **** on this site

His comment dose'nt come across as shocking to me, a little different yes.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Double....oops

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Let me she'd my light.

Dated a chick for 3 years , she really loves me but I broke it off. She found a new man and I talked to her and these are her words. " If someone asked me if I loved my boyfriend i would say no because deep down I don't but if they asked if I loved you I will say yes". Again I don't know if she is lying or not.

YES true story....b*tch was actual honest!

Any broad that was in an LTR 25 or older is more than likely still loves or has feelings for EX! They are emotional beings, get f*ckin use to it. The guy could be the biggest scumbag, RAY RICE type guy but they will still have feelings for them, pathetic & stupid 9I know!

So YES it's a load of bullsh*t. Monkey branching/weighting their options. My ex grilled the sh*t out me in the begining. Do you still talk to ex's/ex wife etc. I told her straight up, when it's over I move on I don't do friends with ex. So another words it was kind of like a sh*t test. If I was still talking to ex's she probably wouldn't have liked that & moved on. F*cking couple months later I find out she's talking to an ex(he lived states away) BUT still wait a minute here...WTF?

In the past most ex's would come clean & tell me hey so & so contacted me blah blah. She hid it, thats just straight up deception. Pretty big red flag. As soon as I find out there are lingering ex's I dont take them serious 1 bit. So anyway I end it with & she wants to be friends. ARE YOU RETARDED I TOLD YOU I DON DO FRIENDS....she thinks she's the exception to the rule imagine that!



Dont waste my mother f*ckin time!

 

[Poonani Maker]

It has to do with YOUR Masturbation Generation, but more importantly with the GAY agenda being pushed in our society/schools/workplaces/CHURCHES even etc. Gays' attitudes are FLIPANT. It's "everythang's Rel-a-tive," "don't JUDGE me" etc etc etc. Basically these birds, we call women, chirp chirp chirp and lol that "oh, you dumped me, but we can still be 'friends' (CAUSE I'M GAY)" It's our society's GAY attitudes that befall us. The powers that be would love ALL of us to be GAY so that they can better hoodwink us and steal all our money. It's working, has been working, and will continue to work. There is no more Rock, there is no more solidity of morality in our society anymore. NO ONE stands for ANYTHING. People's morals, now, are Flipant and Flatlined. It's all about self pleasure, and no other "thinking of others' feelings" Thought or denying Self is ever even considered nowadays. It's ALL about MEEEEEEEE...Especially with WOMEN, because they are supported from/on all angles: parents, BOYz, government, teachers, emotional support, 1000s of not-for-profits just for THEM. She doesn't have to think about anyone other than herself, her pleasure, her wants and desires, NOW, right now, in the moment. There are no Rules in woman-world. She does as she pleases.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

YES true story....b*tch was actual honest!

Any broad that was in an LTR 25 or older is more than likely still loves or has feelings for EX! They are emotional beings, get f*ckin use to it. The guy could be the biggest scumbag, RAY RICE type guy but they will still have feelings for them, pathetic & stupid 9I know!

So YES it's a load of bullsh*t. Monkey branching/weighting their options. My ex grilled the sh*t out me in the begining. Do you still talk to ex's/ex wife etc. I told her straight up, when it's over I move on I don't do friends with ex. So another words it was kind of like a sh*t test. If I was still talking to ex's she probably wouldn't have liked that & moved on. F*cking couple months later I find out she's talking to an ex(he lived states away) BUT still wait a minute here...WTF?

In the past most ex's would come clean & tell me hey so & so contacted me blah blah. She hid it, thats just straight up deception. Pretty big red flag. As soon as I find out there are lingering ex's I dont take them serious 1 bit. So anyway I end it with & she wants to be friends. ARE YOU RETARDED I TOLD YOU I DON DO FRIENDS....she thinks she's the exception to the rule imagine that!



Dont waste my mother f*ckin time!

And that's why, from now on, I think it's a good idea to tell a girl (assuming she asks of course, or it makes sense in the context of the conversation): "my exes? Oh yeah, I'm still cool with them" and keep it at that, perhaps also adding something about how you don't understand why you keep hearing stories about people loathing their exes. Something short, but a bit vague. If she probes, this a good sign, at which point it's probably best to shrug it off, maybe laugh while spewing out some dumb cliche like "past is in the past, I'm not a fan of dwelling on it", then redirect the conversation to something else. It doesn't matter if you're actually doing the whole no contact/Fvck that treacherous wh0re thing - perception is reality. Give her the impression that you're cool, but 'armed'. The game is ALWAYS on.