Women have difficulty accepting their actual SMV; how will they finally see it?

[christie]

Them "complying " will become less and less until it's just not done anymore...

Do you think I should have stayed home on welfare and spent my energy and focus on a tight body, lots of rest and stressfree life so my SMV would be a tiny bit higher right now in my life?

Or are there some people inevitably going to be undesirable?(I chose to not have or raise children "I did not comply")

The way my Dad explained it was I might as well work in the steel related industry in some capacity and why not welding? It was abstractly similar to painting.

Then I could buy the expensive nutritious food and fruits and vegs from all over the world that I liked. I could buy as many thrifted used clothing that I liked, as many books as I liked, I would always have a new bike if I wanted it......all if I chose to work at something that was higher than average pay, that kept me exercising all day long and depending on job, got me outdoors.

I think both my parents realised when I passed my peak year of 22 and was still talking and working on getting sterilised, that my dating choices basically disappeared.
Never did they bring up dating advice again.

This sosuave site is the best dating advice I've learned and I've concluded that I'm still no better off now than before.
I'm such an extreme minority in the world that chose not to have or raise children. I also don't drink, do drugs or smoke cigarettes.

I have not met one man anywhere or heard of him anywhere on the internet that's like me.
I decided recently that a bodybuilder archetype may be my best option.If he's sterile, it may not be by choice, but because of roids or whatever and hopefully he is completely substance free recreationally(no alcohol, drugs, cigarettes) simply by the nature of demands on his sport.
Bingo, its almost perfect match!
I just need to keep working on how I can best serve him, what does he require of me? What measurements does he want of my body?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Do you think I should have stayed home on welfare and spent my energy and focus on a tight body, lots of rest and stressfree life so my SMV would be a tiny bit higher right now in my life?

Or are there some people inevitably going to be undesirable?(I chose to not have or raise children "I did not comply")

Well the poster acted as if women are expected to bend their schedule and priorities to the man. My comments was directed at that.

In your personal case you should enjoy a fit physique that does what you need it to. People will desire you.

 

[christie]

Well the poster acted as if women are expected to bend their schedule and priorities to the man. My comments was directed at that.

In your personal case you should enjoy a fit physique that does what you need it to. People will desire you.

oh thanks! I edited to add more to that post you just quoted above.

I would like his physique to be able to do some specific things but I'm not in that frame of requesting he make changes....I'm the one that must scurry around pleasing him to keep him. I should recognise if I score that prize, I want to spend the rest of my life keeping it. (not marriage)
Not bad hey mrgoodstuff? I learn relatively quickly!(about a year its been; on here, reading fulltime)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

oh thanks! I edited to add more to that post you just quoted above.

I would like his physique to be able to do some specific things but I'm not in that frame of requesting he make changes....I'm the one that must scurry around pleasing him to keep him. I should recognise if I score that prize, I want to spend the rest of my life keeping it. (not marriage)
Not bad hey mrgoodstuff? I learn relatively quickly!(about a year its been; on here, reading fulltime)

So put some good pvssy on him, and keep it on him... Sounds good.

 

[christie]

So put some good pvssy on him, and keep it on him... Sounds good.

oh yes, haven't even investigated technique yet as a study. Kegels and kama sutra; maybe breathwork and timing, maybe stripping-for-your partner lessons, maybe belly dancing-for-your partner, massage types, ......are probably best to study and implement/be willing to learn.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

oh yes, haven't even investigated technique yet as a study. Kegels and kama sutra; maybe breathwork and timing, maybe stripping-for-your partner lessons, maybe belly dancing-for-your partner, massage types, ......are probably best to study and implement/be willing to learn.

Practice on a boyfriend

 

[christie]

Practice on a boyfriend

I don't know how to maintain having a boyfriend when he starts with that dread/competition anxiety garbage. My attraction wilts to zero and I immediately hear doors closing permanently.

I feel nauseous to continue pretending I'm attracted to him.

I don't know why my brain thinks like a man in that regard, except for the reason I've been working and communicating mostly with men for a few decades.


None of you guys would put up with the lack of respect if some girlfriend did the dread/competition anxiety garbage with you.

You all would #next her so fast.

I'm telling you, its ingrained in me to do the same.

Dread/competition anxiety game is just a way to tell your mate that you have low interest/disrespect for them. I agree it works on majority of women who don't think like men(women with low self esteem etc)

First world problems. This is just my major red flag I have to screen for before intimacy. It sucks because there's never enough time to get to know a guy before sex to see this behaviour. I have to get into religion/social circle game. Its the best ways to keep notch counts low while screening.
I just remembered about a Christian bodybuilder I boldly friend requested when I was still on fb. I know where he works out. I have some dating skills now. I can probably try to game him.
Let him tell me my SMV is too low. I will not disqualify myself like one of the iron rules of Tomassi states. I'll assume attraction.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I don't know how to maintain having a boyfriend when he starts with that dread/competition anxiety garbage. My attraction wilts to zero and I immediately hear doors closing permanently.

I feel nauseous to continue pretending I'm attracted to him.

I don't know why my brain thinks like a man in that regard, except for the reason I've been working and communicating mostly with men for a few decades.


None of you guys would put up with the lack of respect if some girlfriend did the dread/competition anxiety garbage with you.

You all would #next her so fast.

I'm telling you, its ingrained in me to do the same.

Dread/competition anxiety game is just a way to tell your mate that you have low interest/disrespect for them. I agree it works on majority of women who don't think like men(women with low self esteem etc)

One of the dating coaches admitted that the best game is no game.

 

[christie]

One of the dating coaches admitted that the best game is no game.

Nice. Do you remember which guy? We know no female decent dating coaches exist. So I know it was a guy.

I edited my post again after you quoted part of it. I think of something and I add it, almost like adding to a journal post.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nice. Do you remember which guy? We know no female decent dating coaches exist. So I know it was a guy.

I edited my post again after you quoted part of it. I think of something and I add it, almost like adding to a journal post.

"C Boogie". The premise is if your authentic self won't work with them you shouldn't want it. You don't and shouldn't put up with games and bull sh1t.

 

[christie]

"C Boogie". The premise is if your authentic self won't work with them you shouldn't want it. You don't and shouldn't put up with games and bull sh1t.

thank you sincerely mrgoodstuff.
My dating memorybank can scan several tiny but regular instances where the boyfriend at the time tried that garbage and ultimately, all those relationships ended.
Most importantly, taking accountability, those tiny moments were key turning points where my personality/attitude/girlfriend role shifted noticeably. Only instead of shifting the way it should work on other women that dread game and competition anxiety work on, it only started distancing me. I found that I picked fights and found excuses to silence/distance myself. Sex changed with me having to force myself to pretend arousal, less penetration more oral sex, eventually no more affection or touching. I start overeating or dressing sloppy on purpose---essentially daring him to dump me already. I started to look around at other guys for myself because I felt like the bat signal was sent out by him, that the relationship would be ending soon.

Now I understand this all had a name and its called dread/competition anxiety. Now I understand and accept the authentic me refuses this and I promise, I will immediately disconnect instead of the slow and damaging withdrawal.

If a boyfriend wanted to change my behaviour for the positive, why not use EXTRA guidance and encouragement, EXTRA kindness?





I remember one boyfriend did that EXTRA guidance, encouragement, kindness move and I believe he did that to get us having more sex and better sex and it worked.
Near the end of the relationship was when he tried the dread/competition anxiety. I wonder why he didn't do the extra guidance, encouragement and kindness thing again instead when it had worked years before? There must have been some other behaviour he was trying to change in me but I was not picking up on his covert(effeminate) cues because I think more like you guys....overtly, and need blunt requests for changes to my behaviour. I even wonder if there was anything I was doing wrong or was he just tired of me?

Not a naturally gifted leader-----he got sick of leading, sick of me, had a yearning for strange/yearning for variety I guess.

 

[christie]

I found two Iron rules of Tomassi that if I switch out the word woman for man, I want to apply to my evolved dating style and essentially...makes this thread title a moot point if I seriously stick to these 2 Iron rules