Women hate me after I sleep with them ...

[Firefly]

While sending a FB message to a friend, I noticed that the girl I had previously had a one month fling with which ended two months ago had removed me and blocked me, even though I thought we ended on friendly terms.

It got me thinking about how most of the girls I have dated or had flings/ONS with in the last couple of years end up actively disliking me or being embarassed by the fact we got together, with one even claiming I took advantage of her a year ago which lead to a lot of my friends stopping speaking to me.

I am wondering what the heck I could be doing wrong to get such bad reactions. I am usually not a nice guy before I start sleeping with a girl, but I usually try to be friendly after we break up. It seems the girl is ok with being friends for awhile, and then they suddenly decide I am evil. Is there something I can do about this, or is this just a normal thing that I need to accept?

 

[sodbuster]

WHY do you change how you treat them? She thought you were all alpha...she sleeps with you and you go nice on her like all the beta's. SHE thinks you tricked her into sleeping with you because you were different than the rest of the guys

 

[Warrior74]

Need more facts. Something is missing.

 

[st_99]

She thought you were all alpha...she sleeps with you and you go nice on her like all the beta's.

i've been guilty of that. gotta say, they do despise that and promptly LJBF you.

 

[Firefly]

Need more facts. Something is missing.

What in particular? Happy to oblige.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Firefly,
Very much a Western Womans thing.....Breaking up is usually mutual,the skill is being able to subtly tone it down and keep them as plates..The Western Woman has to see herself as a victim,its their culture,to maintain the respect of her friends,she must be seen to have realised that you only wanted her for her body,that things were going nowhere...this realisation empowered her to send you packing,thus revealing her feminine powers and control over the Men in her life...Thus Wonder Womans ego is triumphant....Do yourself a favour,try Eastern Women....Sure there are down sides,but you don't get this stupidity!

 

[evan12]

While sending a FB message to a friend, I noticed that the girl I had previously had a one month fling with which ended two months ago had removed me and blocked me, even though I thought we ended on friendly terms.

It got me thinking about how most of the girls I have dated or had flings/ONS with in the last couple of years end up actively disliking me or being embarassed by the fact we got together, with one even claiming I took advantage of her a year ago which lead to a lot of my friends stopping speaking to me.

I am wondering what the heck I could be doing wrong to get such bad reactions. I am usually not a nice guy before I start sleeping with a girl, but I usually try to be friendly after we break up. It seems the girl is ok with being friends for awhile, and then they suddenly decide I am evil. Is there something I can do about this, or is this just a normal thing that I need to accept?

a couple of girs blocked me and all have the same thing , they think after breakup I ll spend my days crying after her , when they find it was not a big deal to me , they hate that fact and block me because that mean they didnt worth that , or I am higher value than them and they lost me and both are bad deals for them .
I read fro a while a woman adivse another woman telling her if he come after you after the breakup or block your FB then you did the right decision and he deserve it . look how much men different from women , we would say in that case give her another chance , but for women it mean you were higher value than him .because blocking of facebook mean they are angry to loose you

 

[zekko]

This is part of why men and women ultimately can't be friends. There is almost always that sexual tension on the part of one or the other, and that can cause hard feelings.

 

[Boilermaker]

hehe, never heard a guy complain about that one before.

There could be a few things, I am not sure.

i) their perception of you changes drastically after the fact although it's unlikely because there's no counter on a woman's forehead that tells who she fvcked and how many times therefore they can easily forget you peacefully if they want to ...

ii) they want more and they end up being resentful for not containing you after having sex with you.

I hope it's ii) . Probably you can figure it yourself.

Or give more general details about these cases, Warrior is adept at solving these things.

 

[BMX]

This has happened to me with after all 3 of my FWB's dumped me. They start getting too involved emotionally even though they forewarned me that they would not let anything like that cloud the good times with me (HA). As far as my ex's, I've gone no contact and cut them out of my life whether they were good or bad to me. I'm also getting the feeling they don't think that they are good enough for me. You ever think that with any of the women you've banged out?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

WHY do you change how you treat them? She thought you were all alpha...she sleeps with you and you go nice on her like all the beta's. SHE thinks you tricked her into sleeping with you because you were different than the rest of the guys

^^^

Winner.

 

[BabyFaceComplex]

Its not you its them, its part of their daddy issues and misandry, if they liked you they will end up hating you.

It can happen if you are nice or not, its just because they couldnt get you to commit, whether you are nice or not just changes their rationalization to why they hate you.

One mistake I see with advice with women is assuming the outcome is due to your actions and not the girl herself, chances are she is like this with most if not all guys in a similar situation, you just wont always hear about it or see it.