Women don't want to be chased!

[Lolapo]

The word chasing has a negative tone imo.
If you show her your interest and initiate this and she clearly gets this, she will in her turn show interest and confirm you, otherwise she's just playing games thus you should just turn your back and leave the building.

I agree with YOU being the prize, even with girls that have lower interest, there's a level to which you can show your interest and initiate.

 

[zekko]

One of the best pieces of advice that I have gotten on SS is that "YOU are the prize". This is so true if you think about it. If you chase, you completely negate this and make her feel like she's a deity when she's not. Women should be asking us out, not the other way around. It seems like women these days get to be "chased" while having the same rights, pay, and status as men.

I agree you should not "chase", because chasing sounds like you are running after the woman in an undignified manner. Which is not cool, you should NEVER give up your dignity for a woman.

"I am the prize" is an indispensable attitude, IMO. But saying you are the prize doesn't necessarily make you the prize. You have to actually BE the prize. Improve yourself, build up your value. Know WHY you are a prize, then you can say it and believe it.

Women sometimes ask guys out, but most of the time they play the passive role. And this isn't just "these days", it's been that way forever. Unless you are like a 9.5 on the looks scale, I don't think any guy can be truly good with women without doing some initiating. Go after what you want, but if she's not receptive, go on to the next.

 

[nismo-4]

You are the prize is a great mindset, but you can't tell a broke, homeless guy to walk around as such and he'll have a Sports Illustrated model blowing him two weeks later.

Don't chase. Also good. But you do have to show some interest. Most of us are not male model millionaires. You can't just "relax and let women come to you" when you're average. Your results won't be that great. So take action. Forget that passive sh*t.

Make your move. If she rejects, move on!

 

[TheGambino]

You are the prize is a great mindset, but you can't tell a broke, homeless guy to walk around as such and he'll have a Sports Illustrated model blowing him two weeks later.

Don't chase. Also good. But you do have to show some interest. Most of us are not male model millionaires. You can't just "relax and let women come to you" when you're average. Your results won't be that great. So take action. Forget that passive sh*t.

Make your move. If she rejects, move on!

That's it :yes:

 

[:-)]

You are the prize is a great mindset, but you can't tell a broke, homeless guy to walk around as such and he'll have a Sports Illustrated model blowing him two weeks later.

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You're being short-sighted. You're using one example to prove a point against the other.

It's all relative. A homeless guy with an 'I am the prize' mindset might not get blown by a Sports Illustrated model but he might get blown by another homeless girl in the same situation as him.

Now take a successful guy making tons of money with the same mindset - bingo. There's your Sports Illustrated blow job.

Question is - would someone with such a mindset be homeless or making tons of money? Depends on what you call a prize and what your priorities are. For some it's integrity, for others its money. It's all relative.

 

[skinnyguy]

You're being short-sighted. You're using one example to prove a point against the other.

It's all relative. A homeless guy with an 'I am the prize' mindset might not get blown by a Sports Illustrated model but he might get blown by another homeless girl in the same situation as him.

Now take a successful guy making tons of money with the same mindset - bingo. There's your Sports Illustrated blow job.

Question is - would someone with such a mindset be homeless or making tons of money? Depends on what you call a prize and what your priorities are. For some it's integrity, for others its money. It's all relative.

Right. And to expand on that, I know some broke guys who clean up with women. Meanwhile the rich guys are masturbating to porn and going on POF.
I'd take the bada$$ persona over money all day, every day.

If a guy believes he is the **** he can increase his value overnight. After all women are quite stupid, so if a guy knows how to sell his status most women will buy it. This is better than chasing because it makes the woman the chaser.

 

[Roni_88]

I would change the word chase for persue, and for me its a no brainer..you show interest and she should follow if shes interested, and you continue and the rest will fall into place. No games no flakes.. if she does it once ,,,chao.

 

[Poon King]

You are the prize is a great mindset, but you can't tell a broke, homeless guy to walk around as such and he'll have a Sports Illustrated model blowing him two weeks later.

Don't chase. Also good. But you do have to show some interest. Most of us are not male model millionaires. You can't just "relax and let women come to you" when you're average. Your results won't be that great. So take action. Forget that passive sh*t.

Make your move. If she rejects, move on!

Indeed.

Make her an offer she can't refuse. Women like to shop. Dating is like shopping to them. The hamster brain can't resist what seems like a "good deal" or a "bargain".

What is a "good deal"? Any situation where a person believes they can get something for nothing or something good for a low price (low cost / high benefit situations). Successful con men and players know how to take full advantage of this approach.

Always remember.. people will CHASE what they believe is a good deal. Con men swindle people out of millions of dollars convincing them to do things that are bad for them. They know how to appeal to human greed. Gaming women is no different once you know how their minds work.

The "bait and switch" is another popular con. Lure them in with something exciting.. then once they are invested.. change the terms. B!tches trick men into marriage with this technique every day. :crackup:

 

[Serenity]

Chase, pursue and hunt is pretty much the same act in general. Using any word over another doesn't clarify anything. We could just as well say "persisting in getting the woman you want" and define that as chasing. But I hope guys on here is capable of differentiating between "persisting in getting the woman you want", annoying the sh!t out of her and straight out stalking. The difference lies in how she feels about it and responds, the only thing a guy has to do is to pay attention and adjust.

I would appreciate more detailed information rather than just another dumb "thou shall not chase". Besides this has been repeated a billion times over by guys who severely fear getting their hearts broken, and who thinks that women magically likes you because you don't give a fvck. Which is true to some extent, but only when actions show that the last thing you do is to not give a fvck.

 

[ColonelKilgore]

Women absolutely do want to be chased. By guys they are interested in. Most likely the guy not chasing.

They don't want to be chased by guys they are not interested in. Most likely the guy who is.

You summed it up perfectly. Women do want to be chased and they give clear signals of that. But the alpha doesnt chase so that makes them even hornier.

 

[ColonelKilgore]

Chase, pursue and hunt is pretty much the same act in general. Using any word over another doesn't clarify anything. We could just as well say "persisting in getting the woman you want" and define that as chasing. But I hope guys on here is capable of differentiating between "persisting in getting the woman you want", annoying the sh!t out of her and straight out stalking. The difference lies in how she feels about it and responds, the only thing a guy has to do is to pay attention and adjust.

I would appreciate more detailed information rather than just another dumb "thou shall not chase". Besides this has been repeated a billion times over by guys who severely fear getting their hearts broken, and who thinks that women magically likes you because you don't give a fvck. Which is true to some extent, but only when actions show that the last thing you do is to not give a fvck.

The answer, my friend is YOU DO NOT CHASE

If a woman likes you, she wants you to chase her and the right move there is to not chase her. Thats how you show value and abundance. You ask her out and try to bang her but you do not chase.

And if a woman doesnt like, she doesnt want you to chase her. This one's pretty clear.

 

[Serenity]

Upon further reflection on the situation I'm currently in I agree. That's how I actually feel about it, and usually my gut is right about these things. Time to drive her slightly crazy. Explicitly I would not chase much, but implicitly that's part of the chase. Sort of knowing what you want and taking the least obvious course of action.

 

[foreverAFC]

jesus christ, all the mental gymnastics is making my head hurt