Women at work

[cablecow15]

I know its idiotic to even consider them as options , but what about making one a female friend / female wingman ? .

There are some pretty attractive women at my work , but im smart enough to know I shouldn't sh!t where i sleep .My question is , how do I make it clear that i just wanna be friends with these girls ? I don't want any of them thinking im after them, seeing as their coworkers, but i can see them being able to give me great fashion advice , and defiantly peeking others women's interest if they see me with them.

Ive just never actually perused a woman for friendship , if im going to peruse this , id love to hear some ways other guys have done it .

 

[ilikecharlene]

Just talk to them normally, but with no sexual overtone. They would get the picture, and probably friendzone you, but you want to be just friends with them anyhow.

 

[Mike32ct]

I know its idiotic to even consider them as options , but what about making one a female friend / female wingman ? .

Female friends are ok for networking purposes, such to meet other chicks.

Finding one to be a wingwoman, I'm not sure how to do that. While I'm sure it works VERY well, I don't know of many females interested in that role.

There are some pretty attractive women at my work , but im smart enough to know I shouldn't sh!t where i sleep .

Good.

My quetestion is , how do I make it clear that i just wanna be friends with these girls ?

Be friendly but don't make any moves. Friendzone is the default setting. If some of them have secret crushes on you, then they are orbiters in friendzone. That is even better.

I don't want any of them thinking im after them, seeing as their coworkers, but i can see them being able to give me great fashion advice , and defiantly peeking others women's interest if they see me with them.

Yeah, you could be invited to parties or happy hour, which is great. Then rather than a wingwoman, she's more like a pivot or female friend for social proof.

Trying to get fashion advice is a double-edged sword. On one hand, some good looking chicks are quite knowledgeable about fashion, and they really enjoy giving advice on that subject. But you shouldn't ASK for their fashion help TOO directly, or you come across as a clueless guy. She'll brag to the other girls how she helped you pick out clothes because women love to talk about shopping. But despite her good intentions, other women will read it as "He needs help." Then you lose social value.

It has to be more casual, like if you're at the mall with a female friend, you can say, "Hey I'm going to xyz store. I want to get your opinion on such and such clothes."

Or if you need serious fashion help, pick a (good looking) female friend that is NOT in your work circle or main social circle. Then you can ask all the questions you want without her making you look clueless to the others.

(I'm sure you are already fairly knowledgeable about clothes, but I'm making this point to help newbies reading this.)

Ive just never actually perused a woman for friendship , if im going to peruse this , id love to hear some ways other guys have done it .

The other thing I learned is the women are just as shallow for friendship as they are for dating. If you want lots of female friends at work or anywhere for a social circle, it's still important to do the standard "increase your attractiveness" stuff like working out. Women can be condescending, rather than friendly to guys they perceive as "beneath them" lookswise, even when dealing with friendships.

I used to think that looks and game didn't matter if you only wanted to be friendzone with a girl. I mean if you aren't trying to b*ng her, can't you be as AFC as you want? Unfortuantely, no. The problem is, being AFC doesn't REALLY put you in friendzone. It gets you rejected as in "I want nothing to do with you. I just said 'Let's just be friends' to let you down easily." To TRULY be HER FRIEND, you have to have some value.

(I know you already know all this. This is just for the benefit of others reading this.)

 

[cablecow15]

Thanks man I appreciate that .

I didn't even consider a chick telling her friends about helping me with fashion advice , id always heard that they can be helpful with that , didn't even stop to think about how close they should be with your group to safely do that .

 

[Trump]

I know its idiotic to even consider them as options , but what about making one a female friend / female wingman ? .

There are some pretty attractive women at my work , but im smart enough to know I shouldn't sh!t where i sleep .My question is , how do I make it clear that i just wanna be friends with these girls ? I don't want any of them thinking im after them, seeing as their coworkers, but i can see them being able to give me great fashion advice , and defiantly peeking others women's interest if they see me with them.

Ive just never actually perused a woman for friendship , if im going to peruse this , id love to hear some ways other guys have done it .

Why would you pursue a woman, especially an attractive one, for friendship? A wing woman wont help you meet other girls, theyll just keep you around for their own ego.

If you want help to dress better, read magazines, books, watch tv, movies, read up on current fashion, but you shouldn't depend on girl coworkers to improve your image with other girls. Stand on your own two feet, you'll look much better in the eyes of others and have more confidence.

 

[cablecow15]

Im not depending on anyone to improve my image , but i dont have many firends in this town , any friend ,would mean more possible contacts for me , and as long as i dont mess it up , it can mean multiple avenues for more friends and chances to get out there , I was just listing all the pluses i could think of and heard others having from female friends

and honestly i wont need them to help me meet other girls , but any woman seeing me with this attractive woman , will automatically wonder once she notices us , either what im doing with her , or what shes doing with me , and if i start flirting with a girl after she sees me with a woman it will really intrigue her. there's some good old articles about it , but im sure id have a time trying to find them now

 

[PapiChulo]

You can date and hook up at work even though it is not advised by the majority. In fact many do! Just make sure the risk is worth it. I find it hard to believe that people have this much self-control when they spend a lot of time with a hot coworker. Keep in mind that many of her friends will put you in the friendzone by default, which might not be the result you had hoped for.

 

[Mike32ct]

Thanks man I appreciate that .

I didn't even consider a chick telling her friends about helping me with fashion advice , id always heard that they can be helpful with that , didn't even stop to think about how close they should be with your group to safely do that .

No problem, happy to help.

The ideal is to get fashion advice from outside your social circle. Then when you show up with new clothes, you can take credit for it yourself.

HBs: Wow you got a great new outfit.

<downplay it slightly>

Mike: Thanks. I picked up a couple new things.

That is MUCH better than this:

HB: Cool clothes. I heard Amy took you shopping.

HB: <OMG the poor guy can't even pick out clothes by himself.>

 

[ananursing]

A side lady probably won't help you fulfill other ladies, they will just keep you around for their own ego.If you want help to outfit better, study newspapers, guides, look at tv, films, study up on present style, but you shouldn't rely on lady colleagues to increase your picture with other ladies. Take a position on your own two toes, you'll look much better in the sight of others and have more assurance.

 

[cola]

A side lady probably won't help you fulfill other ladies, they will just keep you around for their own ego.If you want help to outfit better, study newspapers, guides, look at tv, films, study up on present style, but you shouldn't rely on lady colleagues to increase your picture with other ladies. Take a position on your own two toes, you'll look much better in the sight of others and have more assurance.

Or be an individual and where what the f#ck you want.