Originally posted by al77
Maybe I didnt make myself clear.
I try: if she figures out I date some other women, you really think a decent women will accept her position as a fvck buddy?
Not if you just tread her as a FB and nothing else.
but do you really want to deal with her since she also fvck other guys? A fvck buddy who fvcks other guys is a sl*t and who want to deal with a sl*t??
Why would I care what she does if I'm not dating her? I don't know about you but I don't mind fvcking a few different women when I'm not in a committed relationship. That's what makes me the 'Man Wh0re' that I am!
No matter how much attractive you are, how much attention you give her, a decent woman will not stay and accept her fvck buddy position....
You'd be surprised how many will stick around if you show them respect when they are around and if you can make them orgasm consistently. Yeah, it makes them want you even more, but you can still keep them around for quite a while since they are willing to work to make you an honest man.
Maybe I am just too sensitive? I have been there..when she says "I was busy" and it was clear she was fvcking somebody else... not a good feeling really.
If she was just a FB, what's the big deal? If she was more than a FB, there were bigger things happening (or not happening) in the relationship.
Anyway, I was primarily interested in that "consistent with your answers" part. What do you mean? The only good answer as you said " I was busy". Did you mean I have to just consistently repeat this answer over and over and hope she doesnt't have enough brains to get that I see other women and fvck other women? Any woman with at least some brains after hearing "I'm busy" often enough will figure out I put her into a position of a fvck buddy. Why do you think a decent woman would accept that position?
That's what I mean, but not in the sense of
hoping that she doesn't figure you out. I wrote a post a while back about managing a woman's expectations especially if you are seeing a few at one time. If you seek balance, you can see each of them as little as once every week to 10 days. If they are really into you, it could be stretched out to a few months or even longer. I've had a couple from my past look me up recently just to 'get together' for old time sakes. Yeah, I know what they want...
I sure miss something here.. a piece of the puzzle. What is it?
The fact is most women do this all the time. They all may not sleep with everyone they go out with, but how many of them actually turn down an invitation to dinner? They do it by not talking about the specifics about their personal life and balancing how often they see each guy, no difference.
So if THEY can do it with all of the other drama that they have in their lives, why can't guys do it more effectively since most of us are more logical and are better planners than most of them? Yeah, there will be times that you are going to wish that you had done things differently but that's when the ideas come and before you know it, you are in a better position that you were previously!
Here's an example; just last week two women I'm friendly with were on the same club ride (bike) that I was on. My bike club has about 1400 members, so what are the chances they would be on the same ride? Well, "I" was there and I hadn't seen either for at least a couple of weeks and they knew that I was usually on this ride! (my stupid buds told them
).
Well, I was waiting for one when the other rides up. We talk and I tell her that I would catch up with her and that I was waiting on a friend. She knew what I meant. I waited for my other friend and ride for a while and guess what happens, we all end up in the same pack, I chit chat with the first friend and she introduces herself to my second friend!!! Oh yeah, good times.
Long story short, I ride with my second friend in the morning and set up a date with her in the evening. I ride with my first friend in the afternoon and make out with her before my date with the second. I see the second one that evening and spend the night at her place. The next day, a third comes over to my house to spend the day (no, she didn't meet up with either of the others but I just want to illustrate what I mean about keeping a balanced rotation).
You may be asking what I told them when one asked about the other when we were in private. Well guess what, THEY DIDN'T ASK!!! They both know that I would not talk about anything other than HERSELF when I am with them, and each prefer that I focus all my attention on them when we are alone.
So there's an example of how it can work and the importance of managing their expectation. It's true that not all women are willing to share your attention. But then again, would you really want to be with a woman that needed to monopolize your time?
Personally, I wouldn't commit to a relationship with a woman like that. I have to many other interests that may or may not include her. If she couldn't deal with that, she's wouldn't be worth my time.
