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I'm of the mindset that the moral fiber of peoples' views on relationship has deteriorated to the point where it's a commodity, not a necessity.
When did a career path or job become more fulfilling than love or relationships?
When do objects mean more than subjects?
It sickens me to hear so many people feel so cynical about the essence of human life.
On the one hand, the player lifestyle is defense against the current shift in relationships and societal thinking.
On the other hand, they are exacerbating the state of relationships, as they delude many women to believe ALL men are like that, and if they're not, then they're not worthy to be with.
People talk of "experiences," but isn't another person and that relationship the greatest experience you can have?
I'm reminded of my newest friend Kev I met on a booze cruise with work. As a new recruit, he was nearly twice my age, but due to service, etc, I was a willing mentor able to impart knowledge for his future growth. Had I not befriend him, lots of other experiences wouldn't have happened either.
The best comparison I can draw to the poor assumptions made about relationships and dating relate to public schooling. Yes, public schooling.
Anybody who has made a habit of reading self-improvement, investing, dating, sexuality, psychology, business, and marketing books, know's that a greater education exists at Barnes and Noble, than all the public schooling, state education, and private education combined. Having read Jim Rohn profusely, I can attest to his teachings be MORE valuable in terms of quality of life and usability than a renowned writer like Shakespeare. While I appreciate Shakespeare's works, it makes infinitely more SENSE that a Jim Rohn or Napolean Hill could influence more people younger than the Lit classes we took. Yet, year upon year, we send kids through school teaching them "technical" details about topics THEY EASILY forget.
-parts of the body.
-all 50 states.
-all the presidents.
-literature.
Yes appreciated, remarkable in context of historical achievements, and to a degree important, BUT HARDLY useful in terms of SURVIVAL AND GROWTH in our modern society, right?
Is it possible that the system of values around relationships, fvcking, dating, etc, is warped? That 'whoever' imparts the values of what's trendy, is WRONG? Most of what people see as the 'trend' or 'norm' is caught on late night shows, hit tv sitcoms, top selling ads, sexed up mags, and the like. I say this all as a guy who's become quite jaded with his own choices in relationships, in hooking, etc, and realize 2 things...
-Have the skills of a player, PUA
-Attempt to realign values for a better future
Both are necessary, for personal, spiritual, and financial growth, as well as fall back plans.
My thoughts.
A-Unit
