women and their male "friends"

[toast]

what is everyone's opinion on women and having male "friends"? At first agreed with the people that said nothing good can come of it and there were probably some other motives involved but then i got to thinking I have a good friend who is friends with a pretty good looking girl. They have been friends for a couple years and even though he admits that she is attractive, he says he has no chance with her because she is out of her league and he thinks of her as a sister.

I've hung around with them for awhile it seems like a completely harmless friendship he never flirts with her or really even touches her, though he gets uncomfortable when other guys flirt with her. They will call each other up and talk for 45 minutes for no reason, they will go out to dinner together and go to each other rooms just to hang out all the time. He will help her with her homework all the time and they even buy each other gifts for birthdays, like $50 cologne and stuff! And i realized if this girl was my girlfriend and i didn't know this guy i would be freaking out. I don't really get it, what do you think?

 

[JT47319]

It's **** on the side.

In case of Emergency, break out ****.

Revenge ****, feeling horny, whatever. Why go out when you can get milk at home?

 

[SikWitIt]

I have alot of "friends" that are girls lol, but id only do all the stuff you mentioned with my girlfriend. Maybe they both like each other alot but are afraid to say anything?

Back when i was a nice guy i knew this girl who had a crush on me, but i never paid attention to her cuz i was too dumb to notice the signs. So we were just friends for like 3 years then, she grew on me and i fell in love like a dumbass but then she was gone

Maybe they have a strictly platonic relationship if i wrote that right.

 

[NRM]

If she came out of the bathroom naked and wanted to have sex with him. Would he do it? Or would he decline in fear or ruining their friendship? Even if he does think of her as a sister, I think if a girl he thought was attractive wanted him, he'd go for it. It's just that he has no chance now.

 

[toast]

i think he would be with her if he was given the chance, but i don't understand why he just hangs around and puts himselft through it

 

[NRM]

Well, if he doesn't hit on other women, then he's just an AFC waiting around for his moment, especially if she flirts with other guys. Lots of guys watch those dumb romantic comedies and figure, "Hey, my life can be one too. I stick around and one day she'll fall in love with me."

WRONG.

I'm not saying your friend is like that, but it's a possibility. If he doesn't already hit on other ladies, do him a favor and take him out looking for girls or something. Also, yeah, I wouldn't appreciate my girlfriend having a male best friend like that, and I'd let her know, and she'd stop if I meant enough to her.

 

[Barbillus]

THe girl I am dating now has a lot of guy friends. However, they are all AFCs and herbs.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by NRM
If she came out of the bathroom naked and wanted to have sex with him. Would he do it? Or would he decline in fear or ruining their friendship? Even if he does think of her as a sister, I think if a girl he thought was attractive wanted him, he'd go for it. It's just that he has no chance now.

If that is the gold standard we're going to use for judging these situations, then ask yourself this question... if she went to the gas station and told the 19-year-old kid behind the register that she'd f*ck him in the bathroom in five minutes, would he do it? Because if he would, then maybe we should reconsider letting our girls go to the gas station.

The point isn't "what would happen in this hypothetic situation", the point is reality. Is your girl the kind of chick that would come out of the bathroom naked and want to have sex with one of her male friends? If so, dump her. But most guys will have sex with any reasonably attractive woman who came out of their bathroom naked and wanting sex.

 

[NRM]

You seemed to have missed my point. The second option was declining in fear of ruining the relationship. If people have fully platonic relationships where they are just REALLY good friends, then they won't ruin that friendly relationship over a quick sexual encounter. What I was getting at is he JUST a really good friend or is he straddling around for something more (a relationship).

My REAL point was not about the girl. It was about the guy and his REAL feelings. Of course, you shouldn't date a girl who comes out of bathrooms naked to fuck randoms. That's just silly. I actually jacked that situation from the Ladder Theory. It makes sense to me.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

There has been a lot of discussion here recently that guys shouldn't let their girlfriends have male friends. That's where I was coming from.

The fact that a guy would have sex with a girl does not prevent him from being friends with her. A guy could be friends with a girl that he enjoys hanging out with for completely non-sexual purposes, but if she threw herself at him, he'd probably take it.

I'm friends with a few girls myself. There are some girls who, if they came out of their bathrooms naked and wanted to have sex, I'd say, "Thanks, but no thanks."

Some, I might have to think about it. Others, I probably would say, "Sure."

But sex (or the possibility of sex) isn't the reason I hang around with any of these chicks. I think a guy can legitimately be "just friends" with a girl that he wouldn't mind f*cking if the situation ever arose, and still be completely fine if that situation never does arise.

And yeah, there might be some guys who hang around with a chick as a "friend" because they think it will give them a better shot of getting in her pants... but we know on this site that isn't successful all that often.

 

[Ebach]

I can't be friends with women. Either I find her attractive or I find her repulsive. If I find her attractive I'll get with her anytime. If not then I don't want her near me because the repulsive ones usually I can't stand them. Anyway... that's my rant for today.

 

[NewMan]

The fact of the matter is.....

It's all about trust - you either trust her or you don't. If you don't then you should not be going out.

This is the one and Only GOLD STANDARD

It's all about trust.

Think of this as well....

If she has guy friends - then guess who get's to have girl friends?

And guess what - she would probably be more concerned about YOU fvcking one of these girl friends.

All in all it's almost guaranteed that the guy will fvck her - there are exceptions for sure - but if your girl is hot, then almost all guys will want to fvck her.

Trust is your answer.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Another 'friend' thread - talking ABOUT BEATING A DEAD HORSE!!!!!

 

[triple_ultima]

Originally posted by toast
what is everyone's opinion on women and having male "friends?"

Absolutely not. That ho should have NOTHING to do with ANY other being that has a penis. After all, you're incredibly lucky that she's even taken interest in you. You have to do everything possible to keep her under control, even if it means forbidding her to have friends



Of course, you could always be a man and not care about her male friends. *shrug*