Woman says she might be pregnant, please help.

[kjtempl]

I met this woman online and we casually dated for under a month and we had unprotected sex 4 times in two weeks. Our first time was just over 2 weeks after her last period. She has a daughter and she said it took 2 years of unprotected sex to have her with her ex husband. She said she cannot be on birth control because of the hormones. She really liked me and wanted a full relationship but I am almost graduated from college and once I did I was going to move back home until I found work and it was to far away. I shared this with her upfront. I decided to just end it a few days ago and now she told me she might be pregnant. I told her that if she was pregnant that I was not ready. She said it took guts to admit that and said her family would support her and that they were not mad at me. Yesterday she sent me a text saying "not pregnant". Today I got a message from facebook saying she has not gotten her period yet. She thought she was getting ready to start it. If she was pregnant she would go for child support. She was hoping I would be a real man but said I was a scared little boy. Saying now her family is pissed off at me. Saying it would be unfair for her to carry the child for 9 months and not be able to date or do anything with her life and how I could go on like nothing happened. Now I know the obvious about not wearing the condom and all that. She said there was one other guy that was a one time time thing but she said he wore a condom. Please help.

 

[backbreaker]

lol what you mean help, she has you hook line and sinker. you bought the hormones story, she probably even told you to take the condom off so she can "feel you inside her lol" and you feel for it and know she's knocked up and without hesitation mentioned child support

although my dad did cheat on my mom,and they got a divorce, not one of my dad's baby mommas (he has 3 lol), ever had to file a dime of child support on him. they all genuinely loved him, and when it didn't work out, he was still a good dad and made sure we had everything we needed and wanted. If my wife got a divorce from me she wouldn't dare file child support, she wouldn't risk pissing me off to where i would not want to be a part of my childs life because of spite to her, plus she knows the little knucklehead would get me for all i have just by looking at me the right way anyway, there is no need for it.

my dad woudl give my mom like 50 bucks a week for food for me, and take my clothes shopping whenever i wanted/needed clothes, plus any other **** i needed or wanted. i was under his insurance as well. i had surgery on my ACL when I was 16 and his company covered it.

the fact that she doesn't even know for sure she is pregnant, and she's already talking about child support, son you got had.


wrap it up folks.

PS- screw her feelings and the fact that she can't date. and get a paternity test. lol she is showing you right now as clear as day she isn't datable.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear KJT,
Good that you posted this News.....You are one of the Unlucky Ones....We have all been there...Me?...Sure,when I was 21 I had a few ONS's with a Girl who was being Posted to Japan with the Embassy...Cut a long Story Short she wrote a Snail Mail from there,saying she was in the "Pudding Club"....Hmmm....telling some of the Likely Lads down the Pub and one of them laughed his head off....He had a Letter too,his Demanded Marriage!!!...Those Days No DNA testing....We were both off the hook,both mentally and to us morally.

 

[kjtempl]

Oh I know she is not datable and I don't want a relationship with her. Red flags were starting to show and my moving date was close. Why would she tell me shes not pregnant and then say she might? I would like some advice and not the obvious of how I was suckered in or how unlucky I am that there is DNA testing. I'm not working so I don't know where the support money will come from and neither is she or her entire family.

 

[L B]

Oh I know she is not datable and I don't want a relationship with her. Red flags were starting to show and my moving date was close. Why would she tell me shes not pregnant and then say she might? I would like some advice and not the obvious of how I was suckered in or how unlucky I am that there is DNA testing. I'm not working so I don't know where the support money will come from and neither is she or her entire family.

She was testing to see how stupid you are and how much resistance you would put up if she were pregnant. When you didn't response well to her nice guy approach, she, used the bad guy approach with all the shaming

Only thing you can do right now is hope she's not pregnant or your fukked with a crazy bish for 18 years. Good luck.

btw, a woman can be late on her period for a variety of reasons. Confirm if she's really pregnant first, then decide if you want the kid. Make sure the kid is yours.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Invigilator,
Another exceedingly well written letter,from a New (Boy?),with an obvious answer,suggest you deny him that pleasure.

 

[Desdinova]

She really liked me and wanted a full relationship but I am almost graduated from college and once I did I was going to move back home until I found work and it was to far away. I shared this with her upfront. I decided to just end it a few days ago and now she told me she might be pregnant.

Honestly, it sounds like she's trying to rope you in for the long haul. Women will do 5hit like this when they don't want you to leave.

On the whole 'period' thought, I've found that sometimes when you fvck a chick who hasn't been fvcked for a long period of time, the very act of sex can bugger up a woman's cycle. This may be the case here.

On the pregnancy note, if you don't want any kids but want them in the future, wrap your d1ck up. You CANNOT trust a woman when it comes to birth control. You can only trust yourself.

Now, if you don't ever wanna have kids, go get yourself a vasectomy.

 

[Colossus]

KJTEMPL--

#1: Please put your age on your profile or your thread will get moved to the main forum. Thanks.


Now on to your topic. Dude, you have NO evidence she is actually pregnant. I think she is toying with you, personally. You can tell her that if she can prove the child is indeed yours (which she cant until it is born), that you will man-up and take responsibility for the kid. BUT----she's saying yes, then she's saying no, I think she's full of sh!t. Plus, she said she slept with another guy during that time period. So you are under no obligation whatsoever to her at this point.

Women have been doing the "I might be pregnant" racket since the beginning of time. You take a woman of lower socioeconomic strata, no forseeable future for herself, so she capitalizes on an incidental pregnancy (real or not) to secure male provisioning. She's relying on guilting and shaming you into "doing the right thing" to get a lifestyle she's either too lazy or incompetent to provide for herself.

 

[kjtempl]

Now she is asking me to buy a pregnancy test for her because she does not have the money to, should I? She is now a day late, told me her period is usually the 14th-17th.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Now she is asking me to buy a pregnancy test for her because she does not have the money to, should I?

Tell her to have the other guy she slept with buy it.

By her telling you about the other guy, that's the best thing for you. She can't try to shame you anymore, because she's the one who was sleeping around.

I'd tell her, you don't like the games she's playing and do not see a future with her in a relationship. If she is pregnant, and a paternity proves the child is yours, you will make sure the child is well taken care of.

Don't sign anything, Don't admit anything. If anyone tries to make you look like the bad guy, tell them she's the one sleeping around with a bunch of dudes.

Tell her you'll see her in 9 months.

EDIT: This appears to be the classic example of Rollo's dynamic. Woman sleeps around and gets pregnant, then tries to pick the best beta provider chump to shamed into slaving away for her.

 

[Slickster]

I find this story a little tough to believe.

How can someone be so irresponsible with his own life?

1. Find out if she's pregnant

2. Find out for sure if it is yours

3. Before you have any more sex, educate yourself!!!

 

[kjtempl]

the other guy she slept with just before me wore a condom. I'm not sure how I could be so irresponsible either. Everything I do I think it through first except for this one time. I just don't know why I didn't. I haven't slept in 2 days, can't eat cause it won't stay down.

 

[sodbuster]

My dad told me never sleep with a woman you don't want to marry.... I'd say never have unprotected sex unless you want to marry her. IF she isn't quality enough for you to marry, why would you want to give her your genetic material and chance having a kid with a woman that is going to dilute your gene pool?

1 day late means NOTHING. Wait for the birth and see if it's yours...then pay up

 

[Mr.Positive]

the other guy she slept with just before me wore a condom..

How do you know? Were you in the room watching the guy putting the condom on?

If she slept with you without a condom, I'd wager that guy wasn't wearing one either. In fact, that guy is most likely 5 guys, all without condoms.

This chick is nuts. Don't let her lie to you.

 

[iwanttofight]

Change your name, grow a mustache, and move to Nebraska then you will be ok