You should sit yourself down and if needed literally take a pen and some paper ( or make a thread here) describing YOUR demands. Regardless if those are realistic TODAY.
Then you go about your life. You will meet women and be able to hold them up against your standards. You'll very quick learn that it's extremely difficult to find one and it will feel like " looking for a needle in a stack of hay".
I can give you some examples but mind you; I can keep going on and on..
- low bodycount, educated/well read spoken, introspective, cooperative, no crazy tats, take care of her health, no drugs, no alcohol addiction, not too many male friends, all male friends must have a credible back story, her own money, no gold digger, no toxic friends, no vacation addiction, no social media addiction, positive feminine energy, socially calibrated, a great cook, good with children, good with elderly, sympathetic, not overly jealous, not overweight or working on improving that constantly,
I'll stop here for now...these are just examples of things that will INSTANTLY make me second-guess her existence in my life aka NEXT. Some...might...be negotiable but ...
You see? Feck the " just be nice and hb6" mindset. Because all of the above and way more will come to the surface anyway. Yes, that is nothing but experience, experience and experience.