Woman i've been dating/seeing officially unofficial type relationship

[Gamisch]

Would you make an example of it in real life?

You should sit yourself down and if needed literally take a pen and some paper ( or make a thread here) describing YOUR demands. Regardless if those are realistic TODAY.

Then you go about your life. You will meet women and be able to hold them up against your standards. You'll very quick learn that it's extremely difficult to find one and it will feel like " looking for a needle in a stack of hay".

I can give you some examples but mind you; I can keep going on and on..

- low bodycount, educated/well read spoken, introspective, cooperative, no crazy tats, take care of her health, no drugs, no alcohol addiction, not too many male friends, all male friends must have a credible back story, her own money, no gold digger, no toxic friends, no vacation addiction, no social media addiction, positive feminine energy, socially calibrated, a great cook, good with children, good with elderly, sympathetic, not overly jealous, not overweight or working on improving that constantly,

I'll stop here for now...these are just examples of things that will INSTANTLY make me second-guess her existence in my life aka NEXT. Some...might...be negotiable but ...

You see? Feck the " just be nice and hb6" mindset. Because all of the above and way more will come to the surface anyway. Yes, that is nothing but experience, experience and experience.

 

[jhonny9546]

You should sit yourself down and if needed literally take a pen and some paper ( or make a thread here) describing YOUR demands. Regardless if those are realistic TODAY.

Then you go about your life. You will meet women and be able to hold them up against your standards. You'll very quick learn that it's extremely difficult to find one and it will feel like " looking for a needle in a stack of hay".

I can give you some examples but mind you; I can keep going on and on..

- low bodycount, educated/well read spoken, introspective, cooperative, no crazy tats, take care of her health, no drugs, no alcohol addiction, not too many male friends, all male friends must have a credible back story, her own money, no gold digger, no toxic friends, no vacation addiction, no social media addiction, positive feminine energy, socially calibrated, a great cook, good with children, good with elderly, sympathetic, not overly jealous, not overweight or working on improving that constantly,

I'll stop here for now...these are just examples of things that will INSTANTLY make me second-guess her existence in my life aka NEXT. Some...might...be negotiable but ...

You see? Feck the " just be nice and hb6" mindset. Because all of the above and way more will come to the surface anyway. Yes, that is nothing but experience, experience and experience.

Finally, I have a clear image of what you intended.

By the way, I understand that I am searching for a woman with those characteristics, but what if this woman has some traits that contradict them? For example, I've met someone who possesses all the qualities mentioned above but have "vacation addiction," "social media addiction," and also "gossip addiction."?

What do you do in this case? Do you compromise or move on to someone else?

 

[Gamisch]

Finally, I have a clear image of what you intended.

By the way, I understand that I am searching for a woman with those characteristics, but what if this woman has some traits that contradict them? For example, I've met someone who possesses all the qualities mentioned above but have "vacation addiction," "social media addiction," and also "gossip addiction."?

What do you do in this case? Do you compromise or move on to someone else?

Move on. As harsh as it sounds, eventually one drop of poison is enough to kill whatever you try to grow.

It will spiral out of control and it's a seed of destruction.

If my SO wants to spend her money on needless vacations we are not compatible.
If she prefers her social media followers over a genuine bond with me ,we're not compatible.
If she gossips and talks bad about everyone while I prefer to refrain from gossip, we're not compatible.

Those are all major issues. I can break em all down but it mostly comes down to things that eventually will work against ME. E.g the gossip one. Eventually she'll have a gossip partner AKA a " manager " that will whisper negative shyte about me in her ears, and she'll value her gossip partner more than she does me. Can be a family member, " male friend" /work husband/ orbiter/ ghey bestie , a neighbor, ect ect. It will be difficult for me to grasp the gossiping because they will smile in my face. Something as stupid as " not liking my vibe that day" can be the reason for gossip aka planting seeds of destruction, let alone bigger things.

Just one example.

 

[jhonny9546]

Move on. As harsh as it sounds, eventually one drop of poison is enough to kill whatever you try to grow.

It will spiral out of control and it's a seed of destruction.

If my SO wants to spend her money on needless vacations we are not compatible.
If she prefers her social media followers over a genuine bond with me ,we're not compatible.
If she gossips and talks bad about everyone while I prefer to refrain from gossip, we're not compatible.

Those are all major issues. I can break em all down but it mostly comes down to things that eventually will work against ME. E.g the gossip one. Eventually she'll have a gossip partner AKA a " manager " that will whisper negative shyte about me in her ears, and she'll value her gossip partner more than she does me. Can be a family member, " male friend" /work husband/ orbiter/ ghey bestie , a neighbor, ect ect. It will be difficult for me to grasp the gossiping because they will smile in my face. Something as stupid as " not liking my vibe that day" can be the reason for gossip aka planting seeds of destruction, let alone bigger things.

Just one example.

Nice!

And won't you ever try to work with her, on let her understand this facts, and try to shape her to not do it?