With Success Comes Envy

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You will always have problems in life.

When you came here, you could not get laid.

When you figure out how to get laid, your problems don't disappear, you just get new, sometimes even, more challenging problems to deal with.

When you were a single AFC, you had no social life. you figured, any life would be better than what I have now.

However, the minute you start to become half ass successful at anything, the minute that the lobsters keep trying to pull you back in the bucket.


I'm going to give you some bad news... that you are going to have to accept.

people are going to ****ing hate you, regardless if you are successful or unsuccessful. The only difference is, the group of people changes.

Show me 1 successful person in the media and I can show you 100 people that hate his or her guts.

I usually give very very general advice, but I'm going to actually teach you a technique today, on how to deal with AFC Envy.

AFC Envy can not even be with women.. it can be at work... it can be in sports, it can be anywhere.

the problem with being a star is that you can't stop being a star. You are going to shine, and when you shine, people are going to notice and some aren't going to like it becuase you are outshining them without even trying sometimes.

I remember, and this was years ago, when I checked myself into rehab for my crack addition, I was there for 45 days and... well.. let's just say, it did not take long, nor was it very hard for it to realize, that I was smarter than everyone else there.. even the teachers.. granted, this is not saying much and I'm not trying to boat by stating it but it was true. I was just more intelligent.. without even trying. I had different interests, I could read (seriously, half of them could not read), I could put a sentence together, etc.

There was a (actually.. rather hot) nurse that worked there that everyone wanted her attention and I'm quite sure I could have ****ed the **** out of that woman if I wanted to. Howver I took my rehab very seriously and was not there for nooky

People would come to me for help, and some guys in there, just did nto like ti AT ALL. I was threatening their.. hell I don't know what i was threatening but it pissed them off to no end.

I had been pretty sheltered up until then and I did not handle it very well. I snapped and cursed the guy out, we almost went to blows becuase he started questioning everything I said in group and then said mother****er you think you know everything don't you.. **** like that...


as I stated.. didn't handle it well.

Today I see it for what it is.. that was what...a little over 4 years ago.

The key is, well.. COMEDY




huh?


make em laugh. even better.. use yourself or make everyone else in the group laugh with you.

okay okay here is an example.. this actually just happened yesterday and made me think this would be a good topic.


I hit a pretty nice exacta yesterday.. I hit the Florida derby exacta, I had it boxed... strictly what I saw off the post parade. Now, we (My fiancee and I, her friends and her friends friends) all at the track.. about 15 of us in all. I don't bet by the window, I take my iphone with me and use my online account so I dont' go anywhere actually when I make a wager.

so this guy, who I could tell within 5 minutes of meeting me, was **** measuring the second he saw me, goes out of his way to let everyone know I really did not make a wager and how I was lying, blah blah blah.. whatever. to the point where he was getting irritating to be with.

instead of pointing him out or "proving" myself... motherffcker who are you that i have to prove **** to you, anyway i digress.. we go back to my house for a mini get together and we had.. just so happened been playing monopoly the night before (she kicked my ass for the record) and did not put the game up.. i was like dude.. this is perfect.

so I grab like 2000 in monopoly money, go into the room, and get the money out my pocket and tell my fiancee to put it "in the piggy bank".. everyone is looking at us and she says "this is monopoly money why do you want me to put it in the piggy bank", and I say "well that'st he money that we won remember! isn't that what shawn (the guy's name) said? he said that I made a bet with monopoly money"

Everyone there was crying laughing, the guy was red as can be, and a situation was 10000% defused becuase what the hell can he do from there? If he continues he looks like even MORE a douche.. everyone there thinks higher of you ("and if you were there by yourself.. you might even get someone more interested in you by showing him up without really showing him up).. not only that the guy got dumped basically for being an *******.. me and the guy's GF are good friends at least she is with my fiancee and she did not appreciate his behavior, and she did not be associated with someone being pissy to the host (all of this is in my house mind you)


don't ever, ever, ever let a person get the best of you.


don't ever get caught arguing with someone and especially with a GUY.

when a guy does **** like that, all they are doing is showing how insecure they really are. you threaten them. weather it be standing with their women, their job, something. they are threatening and pissing you off or getting to you makes them feel better.

I'll even take it a step farther.. If too many guys do like me I'm doing something wrong. If I walk into a get together and every guy is leaving me along with their women in the room, letting me talk to whoever I want when I want where I want, they don't view me as a threat.

when guys go out of their way to show their "distaste" for me or "PROVE ME WRONG" it tells me I am doing something right.
 

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Exactly.

There have been threads before on haters, and I've always advised people to step back and think of why. Why would someone hate on you like you owe him money or fvcked his mom when he doesn't know you from adam?

It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him.

And don't be one of these guys, either. Jealousy is a stinky cologne.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
Exactly.

There have been threads before on haters, and I've always advised people to step back and think of why. Why would someone hate on you like you owe him money or fvcked his mom when he doesn't know you from adam?

It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him.

And don't be one of these guys, either. Jealousy is a stinky cologne.
I've worked really hard on this. If someone is blessed with some great talent, you should be happy for them - all good thing some from God.

If someone is better than you at something, it's fine to be competitive but focus on improving yourself instead of trying to bring others down.

I'm working on that a lot.
 

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Some of my friends trying to discourage me when I'm getting better at anything at all, like "stop wasting your time at ______ you'll never get better!" I find it stupid and funny at the same time.

It's kind of like ugly girls/girls with bad relationships trying to ruin everyone else's relationships. They can't bear seeing you be successful at something they aren't and try to drag you to their level.
 

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"Men shouldn't be jealous that's a female's trait" - Jay-z


I might sound full of sh!t but I honestly do not think I am jealous of anyone at all. I am actually happy for all of my friends and push them to go further. Having friends who drive x6 at 24 or ones who have millions in the bank, and I am happy for them, I can come and chill at the big house and get inspired to do my own thing!
 

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ArcBound said:
Some of my friends trying to discourage me when I'm getting better at anything at all, like "stop wasting your time at ______ you'll never get better!" I find it stupid and funny at the same time.

It's kind of like ugly girls/girls with bad relationships trying to ruin everyone else's relationships. They can't bear seeing you be successful at something they aren't and try to drag you to their level.
every girlA I have dated for any type of real period of time, she always has a "friend" who always becomes my "buddy".. you guys know what i'm talking about. "oh man that's my brother right there".. calling me, showing up, doing ****.. then.. one thing leads to another, and they tread likely but make it known basically you can **** them whenever you want. never fails. ever.
 

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It's interesting that ancient cultures regarded Envy as the most evil of all sins, what with so many to choose. From Greek tales of the green eyed monster to Christian depictions of Envy causing the downfall of men, envy was more villified than murder or incest.

They say for every yin there is a yang, surely envy must be the counterpart to such a sweet victory as success.
 

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That humor tactic is good.But envy can be a good catalyst for success.
 

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I agree... and at the same time I would like to add that... YES you will find haters... but at the same time there will be people out there who love you just as much as the other people hate you. So your mission becomes RUN the away from the haters... and keep the lovers in your life.
 
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