Will it matter to you if your wife had been with 3 to 5 guys before?

[vagrant]

Yes or no? Please explain your reasons.

Is it a big deal or a small deal? I need someone to share different perspectives so I can start reprogramming my mind. It seems very hard to imagine that your wife had been with lots of different men. I think this is one aspect of me being an AFC that I need to handle. Please feel free to share your thoughts. :yes:

 

[trent81]

My wife will be a virgin both vaginal and anal. At least mentally.

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Seeing as how I've had sex with 13 women and fooled around with a lot more, no I would actually be happy about that. Now... 3-5 guys at a time... thats a different story
I've thought a lot about the difference and double standard for women and men on sexual partners recently. I've come to the conclusion that I do care and I don't know why, and thats ok. I wouldn't seriously date a woman who'd been with 13 or more guys. No. I don't think I'd marry a woman who'd been with upwards of 10.
I'm not the type of person to try and sleep with everything I see, although I won't pass up something free.

 

[f283000]

We have to be realistic. Most people in this forum are either from America or Europe where women are sluts. It shouldn't affect us at all since this is the norm and this is what we have to live with/pick from unfortunately.

But let's say you were a guy in China and you found out about your gf going thru 5 guys then you would have a reason to be upset. In China and a few other conservative countries it is still the norm for most unmarried women to be virgins.

So most of us are in a marketplace where the goods (women) we really can't expect much when it comes to purity. It would be like buying an American car and getting upset it doesn't work right when everyone knows they are bad! We know what we are getting when we get women from our countries. We have no right to be upset or shocked we already know what's up.

 

[Proselytiser]

I don't think I'd marry a woman who'd been with upwards of 10.

Good luck with that

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Good luck with that

It won't be hard.

 

[Kerpal]

:crackup:

3-5 is nothing. I think most girls that are at least moderately attractive have been with 5 guys by the time they're 17.

 

[King_Supreme]

3-5 is an extremely low number. if i had a woman who had a number that low i would think she was the most pure thing on the planet. most women are in the double digits or close, no point in getting bent out of shape about it, its just reality. u shouldnt even be askin a chick for her number of partners cuz it could fvck u up. all that matters is that u are with her now.

 

[handle]

Can you explain what the issue is with her having a varied sexual past? I'm not sure I understand. What would the problem be, would you be nervous or something?

 

[trent81]

Can you explain what the issue is with her having a varied sexual past? I'm not sure I understand. What would the problem be, would you be nervous or something?

It means she has a loose pusvy. It also means she will compare you to thirty other guys she was with. It also means that if you take her out on a date, one of the thrity guys will smile at you and ridicule you for marrying a sluvt. It also means she is a sluvt. Does that make it a little more clear for you?

 

[vagrant]

It means she has a loose pusvy. It also means she will compare you to thirty other guys she was with. It also means that if you take her out on a date, one of the thrity guys will smile at you and ridicule you for marrying a sluvt. It also means she is a sluvt. Does that make it a little more clear for you?

For me not one of those at all. It's more like if I care so much about the girl then the thought of her being f*cked by another guy before kills me a little bit. Pictures in my head are too graphic. I have issues I know that's why I started the thread just to see what are other people's view on it and maybe I can adapt to some of them and I can close the door on this issue for good.

As long as the girl is not cheating on you, really cares for you, the past is the past right? Or maybe..it's just sex? Not a big deal. I don't know. Anymore encouraging words I need to hear to get past this?

I'm by no means in a hurry to be in a serious relationship. By the time I'm ready I'm sure no chicks out there would still be a virgin. I expect it and I need help dealing with it.

 

[SmoothTalker]

I seem to go through phases.

Originally I cared a lot, and had a strong preference for virgins. Then I realized that was stupid and unrealistic, and honestly didn't care too much, as long as she was clean, never had a baby, and it's been long enough to get all signs of him off her body, it's all good.

Then I found out a girl I was sleeping with had slept with a guy who is kind of known around here for being hung like a ****ing horse. Even though it happened when we were not involved, that hurt for some reason. I mean, I'm a bit above average myself, never had any complaints, so I didn't have any real reason to worry, but still, it leaves an annoying feeling.

Fortunately I've gotten over that and now it's back to the best perspective in my opinion.

I don't particularly care what she's done in the past, and she shouldn't worry about what I have or haven't done. If we're both disease free and at least some time has passed since the other people, it doesn't matter.

Oh and come on, the stretched out thing is stupid, girls don't become loose from too much sex. Especially if she does kegels it's really not an issue unless you're tiny.

 

[theunflushables]

It means she has a loose pusvy. It also means she will compare you to thirty other guys she was with. It also means that if you take her out on a date, one of the thrity guys will smile at you and ridicule you for marrying a sluvt. It also means she is a sluvt. Does that make it a little more clear for you?

Just because she's been with a lot of guys doesn't necessarily mean she will have a loose pvssy. I've slept with two girls who had their numbers in the 20s. One had an average pvssy, the other was like fvcking a glass of warm water. I'm sure there are a lot of factors that go into pvssy elasticity than the number of guys she's been with.

The other two issues you point out is lack of inner game. You have no clue how good or bad the other guys she's been with were. Maybe you're the first good lay she's had in a while. And if she is seriously considering a serious relationship with you, you must be doing something good. Who'd want a serious relationship with someone who sucks in bed?

As for getting ridiculed, seriously, when is the last time some stranger openly ridiculed you in public? You're just going on the assumption that he's ridiculing you in his mind. But its much like bumping into someone you know while at a strip club. You both know what each other are there for.

If you happened to get ridiculed, fvck him, why do you care what someone else thinks?

 

[WC2]

Just because a woman has had sex with many men doesn't mean she has a loose *****.

In fact, some of the sluttiest women I've been with have had the TIGHTEST pvssies.. I find it more depends on ethnicity and waist size. Women are meant to shoot freakin babies out of there; no amount of d!ck is going to enlarge her for good.

I think 3-5 sexual partners is moderate to low this day in age. Then again, everyone is different. The social groups I'm involved in don't necessarily see sex as something so sacred, so 10 - 20 might be more of an average number for all of us.

It's a tough call because usually a person's past will dictate their future.. however not always. Just because a woman has had sex with 10 - 15 men her whole life does not mean she will continue to do so.

It's possible that all her friends around her were having sex with MORE men and she was just trying to keep up in hopes that she wouldn't be looked at as prude or 'not in'.

Then again a woman who's had sex with 3 - 5 men may have not hit her sexual 'peak' yet and might go RAMPANT when she hits 30.

You never know. The best you can do is to trust your instincts and look at your relationship from up above (outside perspective).

 

[DonGorgon]

She has been with many more that 3 to 5..lol you will never know how many men have Fed her.. and if you are gonna obsess over that dont get married..

 

[Prodigy746]

My prefrence would be to marry a girl that has been 0-5 parnterns.

In reality that would be very hard to do because i live in US. I dont know a single girl that has under 5 partners right now and i am 22.

 

[Nutz]

:crackup:

3-5 is nothing. I think most girls that are at least moderately attractive have been with 5 guys by the time they're 17.

And by the time they're college aged that's just one month if they're very attractive and have a decent social life.

 

[vagrant]

Are these all true? I wasn't born in the US.

5 to 7 different guys is almost like the norm? Where are these guys not getting laid?

 

[KontrollerX]

"Yes or no? Please explain your reasons.

Is it a big deal or a small deal? I need someone to share different perspectives so I can start reprogramming my mind. It seems very hard to imagine that your wife had been with lots of different men. I think this is one aspect of me being an AFC that I need to handle. Please feel free to share your thoughts."

Its a non issue.

Why?

Your supposed "virginal princess" can simply lie to you and say she's never been fvcked before you, then after the both of you are hitched and she's sensed she's got you well "hooked" she'll feel the need to drop the "truth bomb" in your lap because she's then confident you won't leave her over it and simply find some way to deal with it. The b!tch...

You need to understand women are very hoe like and deceptive, they possess a "whats in it for me" mindset these days due to the influence of the degenerate anything goes society we live in today allowing them to be their true amoral selves.

She's going to say what she has to say to get what she wants.

So in short I'm telling you that when it comes to women unless you hire a private detective: YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THE FULL TRUTH!

If she says you're the only one that she's let hit it that means she's been gangbanged by the football team.

If she says she only slept with three guys during her lifetime multiply that by 3 and you'll get closer to the true answer.

Chances are she's been with so many guys she's truly forgotten the real number so just throws out a low tally so you don't think she's too much of a hoe to be with.

What guys like you that are bothered over this sh!t need to do is institute your own don't ask, don't tell policy.

You don't want to know how many partners she's fvcked or what she's done with other guys, all you need to be concerned with is how into you and your new relationship with her she is.

Thats literally all that matters.

Not whose c0ck is bigger or if you made her cvm as hard or if she thinks about this that or the other guy while you're railing her.

You'll just drive yourself mad with that sh!t and even if you make her give you the rundown she'll just lie to make you happy and even if she tells you the truth you'll be mad that you heard it and be back on here asking if you should dump her.

No...

Again the only thing a man of sense needs to be concerned with is if the girl is currently loyal to you and your relationship with her.

And don't be asking her what kind of kinky sex she had with other guys.

If you want that sort of sh!t you find a kinky girl to be your girlfriend so you don't need to be guilt tripping your new b!tch into giving you what the last man had without asking.

Thats weak game.

So anyway I hope we're clear? :yes:

 

[Leporello]

3-5 is nothing. Girls who have less than that by the time they get married have probably gone a long time without sex...which can have all kinds of unpleasant psychological effects.