Will I ever get a gf?

[Legday]

i am very socially awkward, i do lift though.

I am in first year of unviersity big uni far from my hometown

i have no friends (Second semester now) and i asked a girl on study date via text

but she turned me down

idk what to do anymore it feels pointless i dont see a point in trying if you arent super outgoing with tons of friends you cant get a gf

 

[adam225]

Your journey starts here - http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

READ... and stick around the forum. You have a lot to learn...

 

[VladPatton]

I'm not gonna sugar coat it, but you're 100% right. The more people you know, the easier it is to ask chicks out and eventually hook up. Forget about getting a gf right now. Be a cool dude, man, and socialize your ass off in college. Those connections can last for years, or decades.

You're around a lot of people with similar interests as you (and a shiat-load of chicks!). This window eventually closes, and there are no other ops in life to be around this many same-age people as right now, so make full use of it. Things will come as a result.

 

[fieryheart]

Do not, ever, ever, EVER ask a girl out via text, unless you already asked her out in person and are just closing out with her. Unless the girl is already hardcore into you and wants to **** your brains out, (common if you have nice long hair, nice smile + six pack abs) and under <8% bf. Focus on becoming more awesome first, the girls will automatically notice, trust me. Build value first, and ALWAYS BE SEXUAL WITH A GIRL!!!! not the overt creepy but the laughing, touching, teasing type. Girls are 400% more comfortable with a guy they know wants to **** them, and are turned on by it.

 

[Legday]

I'm not gonna sugar coat it, but you're 100% right. The more people you know, the easier it is to ask chicks out and eventually hook up. Forget about getting a gf right now. Be a cool dude, man, and socialize your ass off in college. Those connections can last for years, or decades.

You're around a lot of people with similar interests as you (and a shiat-load of chicks!). This window eventually closes, and there are no other ops in life to be around this many same-age people as right now, so make full use of it. Things will come as a result.

i cant make friends with anyone i try but fail everyone expects you to have friends by now. Everyone just wants to go out on weekends and drink, the way to make friends is to invite them out with you but i dont go out bcus i know no one therefore i know no where to go and even if i did id have to ask that one person and itd just be me and him

 

[JoeMarron]

Start working out, working on your style, read the bible and apply it, and start getting out there and being social. The only way you're going to stop being socially awkward is by pushing out of your comfort zone. Start talking to everyone, make baby steps if you have to (going from a simple hi to small talk). If you actually get off your ass and get to work, and if you're not an absolute monstrosity in the looks department (hint: no one is this hideous), eventually you'll find success with women and building a social circle.

 

[Maximus Rex]

You're on the Right Track

i am very socially awkward, i do lift though.

This will help a lot. Unlike women who have undergo anesthestia, have evasive surgery and have foreign objects inserted and injected into their bodies to" improve," their appearance. We as men all we have to do is eat properly and exercise. You're doing that so keep up the good work.

I am in first year of unviersity big uni far from my hometown

This another big advantage that you have to utilize. You're on a big campus so except for your classmates, nobody knows you. You need to use this to your advantage.

i have no friends (Second semester now) and i asked a girl on study date via text but she turned me down.

I know that it seems utterly frustrating that women don't seem to find you attractive, but you have to keep in that that was the only woman at your school that you have of approached in roughly six months.

Speaking as somebody who is also socially awkward, the only way to combat this is head and you have to engage more people. I'd suggest that you join some clubs or run for student government. The point isn't to win, but to get you acclimated to dealing with people as you campaign for their votes. You also should undergo the "newbie drill." The purpose of the newbie drill is to say, "Hi," to (I think,) fifty people a day for a month to again, get you accustomed to speaking to people.

idk what to do anymore it feels pointless i dont see a point in trying if you arent super outgoing with tons of friends you cant get a gf

My friend, you shouldn't be so down on yourself. You're a wonderful individual with a lot to offer a female. You just have to be taught the proper way of conveying those positive traits of your personality to the women that you approach. Rex would be lying to you if told you this was an easy task that will happen in a week's time. It's not. You have to unlearn bad habits that have become ingrained into your subconscious over the course of your life. To unlearn those bad habits will time, discipline, and a extraordinary amount of work. If you have no friends to go out with, them you'll have to develop a social circle. Here on So Suave there's a Wingman's Forum where you can seek out other DJ's in your area and you guys can go out together.
I know it seems bleek now, but you have to keep an optimistic view.

 

[abe0]

You are at a university...look at all the activities going on there. You have sports, concerts, intramural activities.....it is time that you attend those events. Make it a habit of going to a concert and sit next to a good looking chick....The rest will eventually take care of itself if you learn from this site.
Always take advantage of an opportunity....when you are in a book store, cafeteria, dorm, watching tv in the student union....smile and strike up a conversation with males, females,....anyone.
One last thing...at your age you do not want a gf...what you want is lots and lots of pu**y....and have fun.
Best, Abe

 

[FairShake]

I don't think you have to be socially smooth to have friends or even get a girlfriend or three. Maybe to be extremely popular or have a harem of hoes you do but to have a little social circle and girls to date you can be awkward. A lot of people are awkward at first!

I'm awkward at first (and always really) and I still have friends who introduce me to girls and almost always have at least one thing going on with a woman. The key is to be awkward but not be completely obnoxious or weird. Be a laid-back, normal awkward good guy. I find it harder not to be weird personally. I can only recommend talking a little less and thinking before you speak.

 

[Mike32ct]

Great advice in this thread. Not much to add.

But definitely think about which activities you are interested in. The sooner you can get started on it, the sooner you can get better at it and build a social network through it.

Whether it's a ballroom/salsa/etc dance club or social group/committee on campus or student government or whatever.

Which activity do think you might enjoy doing (or learning) even if you didn't hook up or date? I would start there.

I do dance now, but wish I started 10 or 15 years ago.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Do not, ever, ever, EVER ask a girl out via text, unless you already asked her out in person and are just closing out with her. Unless the girl is already hardcore into you and wants to **** your brains out, (common if you have nice long hair, nice smile + six pack abs) and under <8% bf. Focus on becoming more awesome first, the girls will automatically notice, trust me. Build value first, and ALWAYS BE SEXUAL WITH A GIRL!!!! not the overt creepy but the laughing, touching, teasing type. Girls are 400% more comfortable with a guy they know wants to **** them, and are turned on by it.

how do you be sexual with a girl? because I think a lot of us guys have been negatively brainwashed because we are told it will make the girls think we just want to get in their pants and that will make them reject us

 

[Yewki]

i cant make friends with anyone i try but fail everyone expects you to have friends by now. Everyone just wants to go out on weekends and drink, the way to make friends is to invite them out with you but i dont go out bcus i know no one therefore i know no where to go and even if i did id have to ask that one person and itd just be me and him

It sounds like you are suffering from a self-fulfilling prophecy, as in you're expecting people not to like you before you meet them... and then act surprised they don't like you. Trust me, this type of attitude and insecurity is quickly picked up by people and it's not appealing. Notice how in the above quote everything you wrote is polarized. I bolded the obvious parts. Would you want to be friends with someone who was always down on himself? Your title of the thread is "Will I ever get a gf?" but I think a more suitable title is "Will I ever be happy?"

 

[JaegerPilot217]

unfortuneately OP, being socially awkward is obviously much worse if you are a guy, gotta fix that