BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
logicallefty said:^^This^^
Also, throw a little bit of "woman logic" at her:
"I did this for you. From the way you have been acting towards me lately I thought you were getting sick of me being around the house so much so this will get me out and out of your hair more often. I was thinking of you, not me."
LOL. Yep. I tend to work on a lot of things at home so this would actually work well because it's more the exception that I'm going out and doing something. She's done and "done stuff" plenty of times before which I have no issue with but whenever I make plans, usually it's 20 questions. I made plans to hang out this weekend and meet some new folks I'd like to ride with when I get my bike. Short convo went like this:
Me: I'm meeting up with some folks this weekend, people who ride from around the area.
Her: When is it?
Me: Sunday.
Her: But we're going to church on Sunday.
Me: I'm not going.
Her:
It's not gonna kill anyone to miss church a few times but what got me was how she trying to use church as the reason why I shouldn't go. I think since I've started re-asserting myself a little more in the last year she's starting to take more notice of it and probably doesn't know how to react. Which leads me to a short story actually....
One of my friends, he is married to a woman who is most definitely 'old school' wife material. They are both from eastern europe so I think that has a lot to do with it. She is the only woman I've met in my life who is like this. Bear in mind she is younger than me (early 30s). Consistently, every time we meet up, she is very accomodating of him and trying to take care of him. Whether they are at our house, we at theirs, or just meeting somewhere else, she will check if needs more to eat, something else to drink, making some kind of plans for the week asking what she needs to do to help him out, never says a bad word about him or even so much as hint that she might be a little peeved at him.
Now me being married as long as I have, I realize every couple will have fights and I'm sure they have. But the point is that she doesn't let that show and she doesn't keep that junk in mind when talking about their marriage. Such as when some women talk about their husbands and they might like to make fun of something he did or even go so far as to put him down.... "Old Captain Save-a-Buck didn't want to call a plumber/electrician/mechanic, etc." She will never do this. Instead she takes the exact opposite approach and say something like "They're working him too much at his work" or "He gives so much of himself there, and he works so hard for everything we have. We're very blessed."
I admit I am slightly jealous, but not for his wife really, rather I wish more women were like this. To me, this is a prime example of the detrimental impact modern feminism has had on women today.
