Why your biggest competitor will always be yourself

CornbreadFed

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I see parrelels between dating advice and weight loss advice. The advice that sells is the short term instant fix advice. The advice that actually works is the long term make changes advice. The BP and new RP advice is no different than the useless weight loss advice you see being mass marketed. How so?

Let’s take your typical BP follower that is currently struggling with women and magically make him a 6ft 4 Chad with a sexy car or something. Here are the things that will apply to him automatically.

1). He is still going to be competing against high smv man. In fact, it will get worse for him if he increases his standards. Competition and Hypergamy doesn’t go away for any man.

2). He might get a few layups, but will they matter? Sure One night stands are cool, but they aren’t as fulfilling and you don’t learn much from them. All of my One night stands have been from purely looks alone. I didn’t really learn how to fully deal with women until I started converting first time lays to second lays.

3). He will just turn in to a blue pill slave to the first mildly attractive woman that sticks around- Without the proper knowledge and tools, this guy is just going to fall hard for the first girl slobs his knob consistently that meets his looks criteria. God forbid, this woman not be a toxic female and not take him to the cleaners.

4). But he is better off than the way he was before? Maybe, but he will more than likely just revert back to his former incel form, but maybe trapped in a toxic relationship or marriage. Just like crash diet advice, the person just gains the weight back. Just like lottery winners, the winner just loses the money.

In conclusion, developing yourself means working on your inner game, emotional connectivity, getting your armor dinged in the dating world, learning what works and what girls you naturally attract, and much more. Without this knowledge, you will just be a Bugatti with a broken engine competing against Bugattis with working engines. Nothing good in life comes easy unless you inherited it, so quit crying about everything being hard and cruel. There is no instant fix to your dating troubles, it starts with you taking accountability and moving forward.
 

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In conclusion, developing yourself means working on your inner game, emotional connectivity, getting your armor dinged in the dating world, learning what works and what girls you naturally attract, and much more. Without this knowledge, you will just be a Bugatti with a broken engine competing against Bugattis with working engines. Nothing good in life comes easy unless you inherited it, so quit crying about everything being hard and cruel. There is no instant fix to your dating troubles, it starts with you taking accountability and moving forward.
This is the biggest problem I see with the majority of guys. Most are too soft to handle the struggles.
 

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They'll bench 135 someday. Until then, you get to put up with their yuppie, bullshi t chatter ;)
 

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They'll bench 135 someday. Until then, you get to put up with their yuppie, bullshi t chatter ;)
It took me 5yrs before I could bench my body weight and I never was a fat ass. Gotta put the work in and keep pushing. Small steps will get you there.
 
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