why you should not say "you're so beautiful"?

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It actually irritates me that I censor myself, based in part on stuff I read on the Manosphere (because I don't want to make myself look like these dopey AFC schmucks who say such things). Because if I really DGAF, if I really didn't care what anyone else thought, why should I stop myself from saying something that I actually think? If I actually said what I thought, wouldn't I actually be coming across as more congruent? I suspect that I would.
Exactly!

I don't mean this as a criticism, but I can't help but notice it, based on some of the conversation here lately. You're doing the same thing as the guy you're complaining about - the guy who gives the "beautiful" compliment. In the sense that you are using compliments that "have never failed for me". You're saying you're giving these compliments because they "work" for you, you're expecting something in return. The only difference might be the creativity.
Not really. I don't expect anything from it, it's not something I think about when I say it. It's just an observation of myself, this is automatic behavior in me, I say what I feel like saying. If I felt like saying a woman is beautiful then I'd say it without censoring myself, but I don't happen to say it often. The reason I compliment the other things probably has to do with me being more intrigued by those aspects.
 
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