On the contrary, I tend to always speak the truth, or more like be truthfull, speak my mind (not always I wasnt like that, I was secretive and lying before and it lead me nowhere), and be very open with them about anything that happens\happened in my life, when I talk about myself I speak the truth, always logically assesing my strenghts and weaknesses and be very open about both, and not pretend to be more than I am, you must know yourself, when I talk about my feelings towards them though, I dont talk at all
I may be burning on the inside, but the most they will get is "I like you". Or "I enjoy spending time with\talking to you".
The last time I said "I love you" it all went down in flames so that put things in perspective, you should never confess feelings, especially to the wrong person, I stayed strong for a long time, but then it went down in flames. I would confess my feelings when I pick the mother of my children, but there is alot of time, until then I keep my mouth shut...
I think if you focus more on their lies, and not fixating on lying to her, you will be better.
People say watch what women do not what they say. I call bulll****. LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY and then compare it to what they do. When they tell you something, and then the next day the tell you something that contradicts with it, you get ammo.
I'm talkin high caliber ammo. Couse when you call her on her BS, she understands she cant **** with you, and you get bonus points for paying attention to what she says.
You know what a girl told me recently, like one of the ones I opened up to:
"I wish I had a man that is smarter and more evil than me so I dont have to do all the thinking"
and: "I dont date the people I love as a rule" and stuff like that. This means strong feelings make her unstable (BPD... BPD everywhere yo), and she failed every time she loved, and she dates only because its expected of her. I get them singing like birds, telling me everything I need to know, couse a person who is open about himself becomes instantly trustworthy. See I have love for this girl, we even share a birthday, both are left-handet blah blah blah... but will I confess? No, she is from another city, and this **** dont work as a rule, I know it from experience. So confess feelings? Never. Plenty o fish in the sea feelings come and go. But love is important.
See I can relate and understand her perfectly. But you wouldnt get this much insight into a person if you dont open up yourself.
Maybe American females are so bad, you cant even allow yourself to do that, but I doubt it...
Just express yourself man. Anytime you lie, you are only lying to yourself, and **** I got nothing to hide, I got nothing that can be used against me, Im not a criminal, I pay my taxes, I like nice pijamas and nice suits although I cannot afford them yet. I like sweets and stakes. I like overthinking stuff couse I become dangerous when I dont. I like pretty women. I like blues music and play the guitar. I like alcohol. I like the sea. I sometimes talk to myself out loud when I dont pay attention. I like working, but sometimes just lie in bed doing nothing, but if I dont work I feel like Im dissolving. I used to eat my snots when I was little. I once **** myself in kinder garten. Ive cheated on every GF I had. Ive always felt my parents are more infantile then me. So what? See, its not that hard. (kidding about the pijamas) (but pijamas are cool ok?)
And there is now way any female BS can affect me currently, so why lie?