Why would a woman ask if you are a player?

[RickPound]

Agree and amplify, amused mastery, vague/playful answer. Whatever you wanna go with here - and milk it for as long as you can until they need a little comfort game to balance it out. Even if you don’t do anything to come off as a player, the girl brain assumes you are because she’s attracted or seeyou as high quality enough that other girls should be.

It takes a little calibration to not shoot your self in the foot in case she will disqualify you if she senses “player vibes”, but it’s easy to recover from if it happens.

“I don’t kiss and tell, but what slot in the rotation do you want? Wednesdays?”

 

[Macadellic]

But in this case, I'd ask why is this "friend" needing her friends to set her up in today's dating market?

Grown a/ss women playing high school games.
Play dumb games get dumb rewards.

 

[sceneparade]

Agree and amplify, amused mastery, vague/playful answer. Whatever you wanna go with here - and milk it for as long as you can until they need a little comfort game to balance it out. Even if you don’t do anything to come off as a player, the girl brain assumes you are because she’s attracted or seeyou as high quality enough that other girls should be.

It takes a little calibration to not shoot your self in the foot in case she will disqualify you if she senses “player vibes”, but it’s easy to recover from if it happens.

“I don’t kiss and tell, but what slot in the rotation do you want? Wednesdays?”

If she does come back with more information dogging?

Also, have I shot myself in the foot? I just mailed and laughed when she asked. She then smiled and laughed back and said I was.

How do I correct if I have?

 

[sceneparade]

Thx for the correction. Generally, when I get this question being older it's a cue to run some comfort game. In this case, agreed it's vetting and her friend may not actually be insecure. The co-worker could well be covering her ass in case the OP and the friend together and it goes wrong.

But in this case, I'd ask why is this "friend" needing her friends to set her up in today's dating market?

The lady who asked is not insecure - NO WAY. She has no problem talking yo ANYONE. She is very confident. Her friend who she may be "vetting" me for, does come across as shy and introverted.

 

[RickPound]

If she does come back with more information dogging?

Also, have I shot myself in the foot? I just mailed and laughed when she asked. She then smiled and laughed back and said I was.

How do I correct if I have?

No, you did good. But you still gotta keep your game tight to maintain the vibe that you actually might be.

 

[sceneparade]

No, you did good. But you still gotta keep your game tight to maintain the vibe that you actually might be.

Clearly it will get back to her friend. Will her thinking I am a player increase her attraction for me or will it put her off
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And what do you mean by comfort game

 

[RickPound]

Clearly it will get back to her friend. Will her thinking I am a player increase her attraction for me or will it put her off
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And what do you mean by comfort game

“player” or in other words “successful with other women” is good and will increase her attraction. You don’t want too much of the reputation of screwing girls over version of player though. She won’t really know, but if her and her friend are talking about you it’s good.

comfort game is when eventually, once you start hooking up or dating, you gotta give her some of the soft side in small doses. Like joke with her for weeks that you’re a player with all kinds of girls, but then finally tell her she’s promoted. Or don’t do anything romantic until she’s begging for it, then finally spoon feed her a nice gesture.

 

[sceneparade]

“player” or in other words “successful with other women” is good and will increase her attraction. You don’t want too much of the reputation of screwing girls over version of player though. She won’t really know, but if her and her friend are talking about you it’s good.

comfort game is when eventually, once you start hooking up or dating, you gotta give her some of the soft side in small doses. Like joke with her for weeks that you’re a player with all kinds of girls, but then finally tell her she’s promoted. Or don’t do anything romantic until she’s begging for it, then finally spoon feed her a nice gesture.

I know at some point they will ask if I am in a relationship or seeing any women. What's the blest answer

 

[sceneparade]

Why is it she tells her friends about me, which is why they ask if I sleep with multiple women, but yet cannot seem to look at me. If we are walking towards each other, she focuses on a point and looks straight at the point with no eye movement but dead on. If I look, and she looks, her face seems to react/light up but she instantly looks away, within microseconds.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Stop waffling bro, **** or get off of the pot, you’re wasting too many processing cycles on this.

Why is it she tells her friends about me, which is why they ask if I sleep with multiple women, but yet cannot seem to look at me. If we are walking towards each other, she focuses on a point and looks straight at the point with no eye movement but dead on. If I look, and she looks, her face seems to react/light up but she instantly looks away, within microseconds.