Why would a girl give me her number then not respond....

[TheManOfSteel]

put yourself in the shoes of an average to mildly hot girl. I don't know if you have ever seen their day to day lives, but they can get hit on quite a lot. On the bus, on the beach, in the store, at the gym... As a result, some have perfected the art of blowing random dudes ( read you) off. Sure, she might come off as interested and even give you a fake number, but its all an act to convince you that you succeeded so you won't persist. Obviously it works like a charm.

You lost me after you said she had mastered the art of blowing random dudes...

I would tend to agree, I think it's just a defense mechanism... similar to "I have a boyfriend" when they may actually not have one.

 

[Robert28]

amd girls say they hate guys who lie:crackup: hello pot, meet kettle.

 

[teacha]

I just made a thread yesterday telling guys to stay away from Facebook. A girl in this thread admits she uses it to reject guys, albeit nicely.

If a girl offers you her FB, decline and next.

If a girl asks for your number after you've asked for hers, decline and next.

They are both rejections.

not everything is set in concrete. Never assume anything...

 

[CuriousGirl]

Reading what you wrote irks me. I don't understand how a lot of you girls do this and call it being "nice" because you didn't want to hurt the guy's feeling. You don't give a damn to begin with. It's a free world and if you are not interested in someone. Simply tell them "I'm not interested in you' especially if you know right away you are not interested. Now, if you feel you might be interested after hearing the guy out then do so and if you are not interested still tell him that. If he can't handle it and keeps pestering then he deserves the fake # coming his way or you just maintain your stance on not giving your number.

It's not like that at all, otherwise most girls would just be rude wouldn't they?

You say this annoys you when actually you don't realise how annoying it can be to know that a guy is only talking to you because he wants to shag you. What always springs to mind with this kind of thing is when I was in a busy bar once and got chatting to the guy stood next to me while we were waiting to be served, it was packed so we were stood there for about 20 minutes chatting, and before I left to find the girls again he said that he couldn't believe I was talking to him, to which I questioned why and he replied "because you're hot and I'm not". And I just think it's a shame that a lot of people these days need a reason or alterior motive to speak to someone, and it's certainly more true of guys.
So yeah, I'm sensitive to the fact that people don't like rejection but I'm also well aware of the fact they were only interested in getting a quick shag anyway. I actually like chatting to people for the sake of chatting to people and being friendly, and as soon as you reject a number the guy will make a quick exit because he realises it isn't going anywhere and he's not gonna get his **** wet and you know what, that's not nice either.

 

[KingofHearts]

It's not like that at all, otherwise most girls would just be rude wouldn't they?

You say this annoys you when actually you don't realise how annoying it can be to know that a guy is only talking to you because he wants to shag you. What always springs to mind with this kind of thing is when I was in a busy bar once and got chatting to the guy stood next to me while we were waiting to be served, it was packed so we were stood there for about 20 minutes chatting, and before I left to find the girls again he said that he couldn't believe I was talking to him, to which I questioned why and he replied "because you're hot and I'm not". And I just think it's a shame that a lot of people these days need a reason or alterior motive to speak to someone, and it's certainly more true of guys.
So yeah, I'm sensitive to the fact that people don't like rejection but I'm also well aware of the fact they were only interested in getting a quick shag anyway. I actually like chatting to people for the sake of chatting to people and being friendly, and as soon as you reject a number the guy will make a quick exit because he realises it isn't going anywhere and he's not gonna get his **** wet and you know what, that's not nice either.

There is a lot of BS in this post, but it brings up a point.

Women get annoyed by men that just want sex.
Men get annoyed by women that just want money or other resources.

UNLESS, the initiator is very attractive. Then we take it as a compliment.

 

[kingsam]

It's not like that at all, otherwise most girls would just be rude wouldn't they?

You say this annoys you when actually you don't realise how annoying it can be to know that a guy is only talking to you because he wants to shag you. What always springs to mind with this kind of thing is when I was in a busy bar once and got chatting to the guy stood next to me while we were waiting to be served, it was packed so we were stood there for about 20 minutes chatting, and before I left to find the girls again he said that he couldn't believe I was talking to him, to which I questioned why and he replied "because you're hot and I'm not". And I just think it's a shame that a lot of people these days need a reason or alterior motive to speak to someone, and it's certainly more true of guys.
So yeah, I'm sensitive to the fact that people don't like rejection but I'm also well aware of the fact they were only interested in getting a quick shag anyway. I actually like chatting to people for the sake of chatting to people and being friendly, and as soon as you reject a number the guy will make a quick exit because he realises it isn't going anywhere and he's not gonna get his **** wet and you know what, that's not nice either.

sounds pretty fair....

guys who get annoyed with this...its only coz you are a low value man who takes rejection too personally that it offends you.... other wise its just the way it is and your not phased by it...

the guy talking to her had a big jump to conclusion that just coz she is chatting to him she must like him... she should have said "just coz im tlaking to you, dont mean im attracted , i like any social human like chatting"

most people men and women dont like being mean...

 

[2crudedudes]

put yourself in the shoes of an average to mildly hot girl. I don't know if you have ever seen their day to day lives, but they can get hit on quite a lot. On the bus, on the beach, in the store, at the gym... As a result, some have perfected the art of blowing random dudes ( read you) off. Sure, she might come off as interested and even give you a fake number, but its all an act to convince you that you succeeded so you won't persist. Obviously it works like a charm.

Even not-so-hot chicks do this. Its just their way of not dealing with clingy dudes. They give you a number, the guy thinks "success" and hope that he forgets about you by the next day.

 

[Veridin]

One thing people usually miss is this: a girl can be honestly interested in you in the evening, when the sun is down and she is out partying and things look more exciting, but when daylight comes things change. She is back to reality. Back to classes, work, her usual routine, her usual social circle and habits. Things look different then.


Never call a girl the day after! Wait. And then you text her asking if she wants to come with you to some interesting event. Then she doesn't have to commit to liking you and getting into romance, she just has to commit to going to a harmless event. If nothing else is coming up, you could pick something very simple - just anything that doesn't say DATE, if you haven't safely reached that stage yet.

 

[jafyk]

It's not like that at all, otherwise most girls would just be rude wouldn't they?

You say this annoys you when actually you don't realise how annoying it can be to know that a guy is only talking to you because he wants to shag you. What always springs to mind with this kind of thing is when I was in a busy bar once and got chatting to the guy stood next to me while we were waiting to be served, it was packed so we were stood there for about 20 minutes chatting, and before I left to find the girls again he said that he couldn't believe I was talking to him, to which I questioned why and he replied "because you're hot and I'm not". And I just think it's a shame that a lot of people these days need a reason or alterior motive to speak to someone, and it's certainly more true of guys.
So yeah, I'm sensitive to the fact that people don't like rejection but I'm also well aware of the fact they were only interested in getting a quick shag anyway. I actually like chatting to people for the sake of chatting to people and being friendly, and as soon as you reject a number the guy will make a quick exit because he realises it isn't going anywhere and he's not gonna get his **** wet and you know what, that's not nice either.

I'm thinking your reasoning here is that 2 wrongs make a right. You've been on this site long enough to know in the end shagging will be involved (but that is just a part of the whole equation). You make it seem like the only reason a guy would ever want to have anything to do with a girl is to shag. if that's what you believe as implied by your post "but I'm also well aware of the fact they were only interested in getting a quick shag anyway." then you are saying all guys who talk to you are that shallow. Some times someone sees you likes you and wants to talk to you and if you make a good impression the person may wanna pursue some sort of relationship with you. Like I said just because a guys wants to shag you doesn't mean he's not interested in anything else about you. I know that I could've been in relationships that I didn't connect with the person on other levels and still be getting my shag but I chose not to.
You don't have to be rude about telling a guy you're not interested. You can politely decline and say so. It's another matter if the guy becomes pushy. Thing is sometimes you girls want to throw sh*t tests to see if the guys would just give up and walk away; thereby disqualifying him because he gave up easily. I've had a few girls honestly tell me they weren't interested (it's better when they give a reason) but even if I was disappointed. I did appreciate their honesty. You doing what you are doing with the facebook thing is you being a wuss and covering it up by saying I didn't want to be rude or hurt his feelings. It's not that you decline it's how you decline.