Why would a girl give me her number then not respond....

[Slick101]

I found it very interesting and stupid at the same time...

I talk to a girl shes interested.. now she gives me her number AND even tells me to call or text her the next day.. THEN, when I do it... She never responds...

Or they do respond and then Flake on a date or so....

What are your thoughts on this...

 

[synergy1]

put yourself in the shoes of an average to mildly hot girl. I don't know if you have ever seen their day to day lives, but they can get hit on quite a lot. On the bus, on the beach, in the store, at the gym... As a result, some have perfected the art of blowing random dudes ( read you) off. Sure, she might come off as interested and even give you a fake number, but its all an act to convince you that you succeeded so you won't persist. Obviously it works like a charm.

 

[Young Juan]

Ego boost, found something better to do, self validation, lack of interest....pick one and move on. Get another number and try again.

 

[Slick101]

GREAT!.... What to do then? LMAO.. Dont get the number

 

[Kailex]

Next time, get the number, and then DON'T call on the day she told you to call.

Handing out a phone number doesn't GUARANTEE anything.
It's not about what to do if she flakes or doesn't answer, it's about how YOU respond to such a situation that can make or break you. In this case, if I called and she doesn't call back, STRIKE ONE.

I try in a few days again, same result: STRIKE TWO and she's out.

You keep getting the numbers. Don't stop.

What men don't realize is although women do this for ego validation/boost or whatever reasons, it eventually becomes OUR sh!t-test for them. We already know that this is a woman that is not accountable, not reliable, and as such, not "dateable". Two strikes is more than enough to decide whether this girl is worthy of your member within the inner realms of her vaginal cavity.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I found it very interesting and stupid at the same time...

I talk to a girl shes interested.. now she gives me her number AND even tells me to call or text her the next day.. THEN, when I do it... She never responds...

Or they do respond and then Flake on a date or so....

What are your thoughts on this...

Something went wrong in your rapport and comfort building. You probably asked for the number too early. I'd suggest you ask for the number after you've successfully bounced her to another location. If you can bounce her, then more than likely she'll be receptive to receiving and returningyour calls.

 

[Slick101]

Next time, get the number, and then DON'T call on the day she told you to call.

Handing out a phone number doesn't GUARANTEE anything.
It's not about what to do if she flakes or doesn't answer, it's about how YOU respond to such a situation that can make or break you. In this case, if I called and she doesn't call back, STRIKE ONE.

I try in a few days again, same result: STRIKE TWO and she's out.

You keep getting the numbers. Don't stop.

What men don't realize is although women do this for ego validation/boost or whatever reasons, it eventually becomes OUR sh!t-test for them. We already know that this is a woman that is not accountable, not reliable, and as such, not "dateable". Two strikes is more than enough to decide whether this girl is worthy of your member within the inner realms of her vaginal cavity.

True.... I agree... Number doesnt mean anything I noticed... We cannot make women act like men.. because they are not... I picked her up on the streets she was heading into the train station

 

[thefonz]

In this case, if I called and she doesn't call back, STRIKE ONE.

I try in a few days again, same result: STRIKE TWO and she's out.

I gotta disagree with the give up after 2 calls. Don't stop gaming other girls obviously, but if you really want to see the girl again, keep trying. This game is not supposed to be easy on guys who look for high quality.

Persistance pays off and is just an important character trait to have in general. Setting the the frame that you're too good to persist is only useful advice IF YOU ACTUALLY ARE TOO GOOD!! And if that's the case, I probably shouldn't even need to give you this advice

I've had numbers come back to life after 4 months because they had a bf and just broke up with him. There's plenty of reasons why they won't answer so don't assume the worst.

 

[teacha]

I gotta disagree with the give up after 2 calls. Don't stop gaming other girls obviously, but if you really want to see the girl again, keep trying. This game is not supposed to be easy on guys who look for high quality.

Persistance pays off and is just an important character trait to have in general. Setting the the frame that you're too good to persist is only useful advice IF YOU ACTUALLY ARE TOO GOOD!! And if that's the case, I probably shouldn't even need to give you this advice

I've had numbers come back to life after 4 months because they had a bf and just broke up with him. There's plenty of reasons why they won't answer so don't assume the worst.

i think you need to understand the difference between persistence & desperation.

why would you keep trying if she doesn't answer your calls or keeps flaking on you repeatedly?

 

[Slick101]

i think you need to understand the difference between persistence & desperation.

why would you keep trying if she doesn't answer your calls or keeps flaking on you repeatedly?

I had girls do that... I dont understand why alot of them are like that.... Some dont do that.. But I find most of them dooo

 

[teacha]

I had girls do that... I dont understand why alot of them are like that.... Some dont do that.. But I find most of them dooo

it doesn't matter, you shouldn't waste your precious time analysing the things women do. Like Kailex said, keep getting the numbers & don't stop.

 

[thefonz]

i think you need to understand the difference between persistence & desperation.

I do,

It's so easy to constantly write girls off and making excuses not to to pursue. I see this ALL the time...it's more about prematurely rejecting yourself. If you've been out in the field long enough, you should know that unless your successful or have banged a ton of girls you can't go out with this "I am the prize mentality" when you haven't done anything yet.

Girls appreciate persistence, and it works. Don't stalk the *****, just periodically contact with her until she makes it verbally clear to you she is not interested....make her reject you!!!

In this case, if it was just off the street it might not go anywhere but who knows? Seeing it as a numbers game helps eliminate the pressure, but when you meet girls you are attracted to and want to pursue....you need to man up and take action.

 

[teacha]

I do,

It's so easy to constantly write girls off and making excuses not to to pursue. I see this ALL the time...it's more about prematurely rejecting yourself. If you've been out in the field long enough, you should know that unless your successful or have banged a ton of girls you can't go out with this "I am the prize mentality" when you haven't done anything yet.

it doesn't matter whether you haven't kissed a girl in your life or banged loads of women but what matters is that you always think and act like you the best man a woman can get.

i think pook said it best:'In order to be successful in the world, you must be successful in your mind.

“As you think, you shall become.”

ASSUME you are the Great Catch, THINK that you are, and as you think you shall become. It becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy. Treat your hobbies as if they have more value then the women do (or treat your hobbies as if they WERE other women). When you think you are the Great Catch, you will act like it and the women will KNOW that you are'.

 

[thefonz]

it doesn't matter whether you haven't kissed a girl in your life or banged loads of women but what matters is that you always think and act like you the best man a woman can get.

Fake it til' you make it is a painful strategy, and it is void of any social calibration in real life (which is one of the main qualities of getting better). I'm all for positive thinking, but seriously dude, don't lie to yourself.

I'm not saying a guy who has never kissed a girl can't bang a hotty, but it's rare as **** and I'd like to give the guy practical advice about his expectations. You have to know what your strengths and weakness' are and act appropriately. You need experience and success to go out there and get consistent results. You need to take action, and when you're that inexperienced the best thing you can do is push these types of social interactions as far as you can.

 

[tihash]

Happens all the time. Don't take it personally, and don't let it mess up your game.

It could be any number of reasons. My favorite reason I like to tell myself is that in that moment when you were talking to her she was really, really into you. But with time (hours or days) she lost state and began thinking about her bf, how "weird" it is to meet a random stranger, how she needs to wash her cat, etc.

The solution: volume.

Go out and get lots and lots of numbers. Then you will have more dates.

I think about a 25% turnover from number to date is a really good goal. That means 3 out of 4 numbers go nowhere.

 

[nismo-4]

I found it very interesting and stupid at the same time...

I talk to a girl shes interested.. now she gives me her number AND even tells me to call or text her the next day.. THEN, when I do it... She never responds...

Or they do respond and then Flake on a date or so....

What are your thoughts on this...

This is a very simple case you have given Judge Nismo.

Women know how to feign interest. Sometimes you'll get a girl's # and feel like a king, then have your ego deflated when you find out it's a pizza parlor.

Getting a phone number doesn't guarantee sh*t. Something has to actually develop.

Don't call on the day she tells you to. She might call you if that happens, which is good. But don't chase women.

If a woman flakes or doesn't answer, her ego was stroked. And she just wasn't that into you.

A woman will decide just how far she'll let you get with her, so you gotta be on your game, even with a HB1!

Case closed.

 

[perseverance]

It's happened to me a few times, though the weirdest thing I've ever come across was when the girl asked me for my number and then refused to answer my two calls and my one text. In the end I decided to delete her number, erase her from my facebook and forget she ever existed.

The lesson I learnt from that was "that all women are mentally unhinged".

 

[CuriousGirl]

She's just not interested enough. If she's interested she will make the effort, if she's not then she won't.

I used to give out my number with no intention of contacting these guys again rather than just saying no....for all sorts of reasons really, it's just easier. You get guys who might then question why not and push for it and that's annoying and awkward, but what's worse is when you get the guys who are supposedly fine with it but you see the flash of disappointment on their face and you feel bad about it. Yet obviously giving them your number you are just delaying the rejection which isn't nice either which is why facebook is such the perfect alternative.
I only use my phone for people close to me or someone I'm interested in, so now if someone asks for my number and I don't want to I instead give them my facebook, it's softest form of rejection because it's not a complete rejection and they've actually got more chance in me responding to them because it's less effort and not so perosnal. There could be a random chance that you get chatting and you realise actually this guy isn't so bad and you give him your phone number or whatever. But on the other hand it's also good for the opposite situation, you can sometimes just accept the friend request and never really contact each other again.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

I just made a thread yesterday telling guys to stay away from Facebook. A girl in this thread admits she uses it to reject guys, albeit nicely.

If a girl offers you her FB, decline and next.

If a girl asks for your number after you've asked for hers, decline and next.

They are both rejections.

 

[jafyk]

She's just not interested enough. If she's interested she will make the effort, if she's not then she won't.

I used to give out my number with no intention of contacting these guys again rather than just saying no....for all sorts of reasons really, it's just easier. You get guys who might then question why not and push for it and that's annoying and awkward, but what's worse is when you get the guys who are supposedly fine with it but you see the flash of disappointment on their face and you feel bad about it. Yet obviously giving them your number you are just delaying the rejection which isn't nice either which is why facebook is such the perfect alternative.
I only use my phone for people close to me or someone I'm interested in, so now if someone asks for my number and I don't want to I instead give them my facebook, it's softest form of rejection because it's not a complete rejection and they've actually got more chance in me responding to them because it's less effort and not so perosnal. There could be a random chance that you get chatting and you realise actually this guy isn't so bad and you give him your phone number or whatever. But on the other hand it's also good for the opposite situation, you can sometimes just accept the friend request and never really contact each other again.

Reading what you wrote irks me. I don't understand how a lot of you girls do this and call it being "nice" because you didn't want to hurt the guy's feeling. You don't give a damn to begin with. It's a free world and if you are not interested in someone. Simply tell them "I'm not interested in you' especially if you know right away you are not interested. Now, if you feel you might be interested after hearing the guy out then do so and if you are not interested still tell him that. If he can't handle it and keeps pestering then he deserves the fake # coming his way or you just maintain your stance on not giving your number.

To the Poster. Women who you've described were probably fake and decided to save face by giving you a number and not returning your call. To the people who talked about fake numbers? Don't you read the sosuave site? if someone gives you a number read it back to them and change one of the #s if they were sincere they'd correct you thinking you made a mistake. If a woman is really interested in you why would she not respond to your calls. You will even realize that some women would respond because they like the attention but they will never be available for anything solid to unfold. I just went through my phone and facebook and got rid off a few people. Relationship of any kinds should be a 2-way street.