Why we go on online dating sites even though it sucks

[skinnyguy]

Cause we're beta.

We know that if we go to a club, we'll just get shut down in person. Getting shut down online is easier. Even if there is a slither of a chance that we'll get a response from a girl in an online profile, we are willing to spend that time. Being beta actually induces laziness, and since we are on our computers all the time, we figure why not go on online dating sites since we're not losing anything in the process.

#Win

 

[Masculinity]

I think this is one of the few things you've posted that actually has some value :rockon:

 

[BeDJ]

Skinnyguy,

Kneel down as I shall knight you a Green Square.

 

[Mike32ct]

Because if she rejects you online, a porn site is only a click away LOL.

In all seriousness, I won't knock online because I know some guys like it.

I personally don't care for it though.

 

[Renegade357]

We know that if we go to a club, we'll just get shut down in person.

So you're suggesting that a club has better quality women than online dating sites? I don't know about that. Online dating is just freaking efficient.

 

[iamnobody]

Online dating is wrong on so many levels. It creates a bad mindset where you admit that you don't have the balls to approach someone in person. That mindset reinforces itself. It's self defeating and a self fulfilling profecy. It's a statement of powerlessness that works against you.
I never did and never will use online dating when there are so many tasty chicks ready to spread 'em out there.

 

[Stagger Lee]

One thing, of many, that sucks about online is so you got a girl to meet up in person. But there you are out at the bar hanging out with your date you met online and noticing all the girls in the venue you'd rather meet lol.

It's a catch 22. The guys who are attractive enough to do good online and with the online meet ups could do good with just approaching in the field. And guys who do poorly online will usually do poorly in the field with cold approaches.

 

[HedoRick]

For some of us it's just another source to meet women, not a replacement for IRL. Meet women in as many places as you can. As Pauly Janka said, snatch is the next most abundant commodity on earth next to water.

 

[Robert28]

I used to be big on online dating back before it became this phenomenon it is today where EVERYONE and their brother is doing it. As I get older (31) and being a self-employed business owner the one thing I'm all about is using time wisely. Time = money, if I'm wasting time doing something that's not making me money then it's useless to me. Same mindset I have with online dating today.

I am one of the few guys would would MUCH rather be shot down in person and I'll tell you why. Time. Yeah being rejected sucks but what did I lose, 15 seconds of my life? Perhaps a couple mins? Now, compare that with emailing a bunch of girls, hopefully having a few email you back, send them a few emails back and forth and try to get the number (which doesn't always work because there's a lot of girls that won't give you their number right away because they met some creep who screwed it up for everyone else). Then you have to sit there and do a bunch of texting and at least talk on the phone once (I'm not going out with anyone I haven't talked on the phone with at least once). Then you have to go on a date, which costs money and your precious time (sorry fellas but 99% of girls out there won't come to your house with the way the world is today and all the freakshows out there who scare women to death). You spend an hour or two on the date and you may or may not get a second date. It's hard to tell because most women will send all the right signals and say all the right things a girl who's interested in you would do but they really aren't interested. In the end you've wasted a sh!t load of time and effort on one girl and end up getting rejected anyways in the end. screw all that bs. It doesn't piss me off that I got rejected, it's knowing I wasted all that time for nothing. Oooo I got to meet someone knew, big whoop.

To me and the way I think now, dating boils down to time. I don't have time to fvck around and chase b!tches all over kingdom come. Either they like me in the first few mins or they don't. My way doesn't always work, and most would say I need to give a girl more time but I'm here to tell you that I have yet to ever land a girl I've chased for a length of time. Ever. It's fairy tale crap that the girl will like you oneday if you just keep at it. Yeah, maybe after she's been divorced twice and has 4 kids and got fat and wrinkly, THEN she might be ready for you but why would you want her then?

Online dating wastes too much of my time and that's why I won't do it anymore.

 

[Korrupt]

You @$$h0les. Online dating can be fantastic if used it correctly. Albeit you WILL waste time, but not as much as you're making it seem.

Reasons why I use online dating:

-Easy
-Busy as hell
-No real/consistent social circle
-Loathe the bar scene
-Don't have people to go out with too often
-Cold approaching in places you frequent isn't always the best idea unless you already know the girl

There's nothing "beta" about it unless you use it because you're "afraid" of women in real life, which means you won't have success anyways.

 

[Robert28]

You @$$h0les. Online dating can be fantastic if used it correctly. Albeit you WILL waste time, but not as much as you're making it seem.

Reasons why I use online dating:

-Easy
-Busy as hell
-No real/consistent social circle
-Loathe the bar scene
-Don't have people to go out with too often
-Cold approaching in places you frequent isn't always the best idea unless you already know the girl

There's nothing "beta" about it unless you use it because you're "afraid" of women in real life, which means you won't have success anyways.

Convenient? Yes. Easy? That's up for debate because while it is easy to do, the success you get from it isn't necessarily easy.

You have to learn how to be subtle when cold approaching. You can't make it SEEM like you're cold approaching them for a date or because you're interested. It takes practice but you have to learn how to hit on girls without them knowing you're hitting on them and next thing they know they're handing out their phone number. What I mean is you can't make them think the reason you approached them is to get their number. You walk up to almost any girl and try some cheesy @$$ line or try to act like you're Don Juan and you're going to get a knee to the nuts, the cops called on you, or she will roll her eyes and walk away.

 

[skinnyguy]

I used to be big on online dating back before it became this phenomenon it is today where EVERYONE and their brother is doing it. As I get older (31) and being a self-employed business owner the one thing I'm all about is using time wisely. Time = money, if I'm wasting time doing something that's not making me money then it's useless to me. Same mindset I have with online dating today.

Yet you are posting on SoSuave, which is an even bigger time waster than online dating

I am one of the few guys would would MUCH rather be shot down in person and I'll tell you why. Time. Yeah being rejected sucks but what did I lose, 15 seconds of my life? Perhaps a couple mins? Now, compare that with emailing a bunch of girls, hopefully having a few email you back, send them a few emails back and forth and try to get the number (which doesn't always work because there's a lot of girls that won't give you their number right away because they met some creep who screwed it up for everyone else). Then you have to sit there and do a bunch of texting and at least talk on the phone once (I'm not going out with anyone I haven't talked on the phone with at least once). Then you have to go on a date, which costs money and your precious time (sorry fellas but 99% of girls out there won't come to your house with the way the world is today and all the freakshows out there who scare women to death). You spend an hour or two on the date and you may or may not get a second date. It's hard to tell because most women will send all the right signals and say all the right things a girl who's interested in you would do but they really aren't interested. In the end you've wasted a sh!t load of time and effort on one girl and end up getting rejected anyways in the end. screw all that bs. It doesn't piss me off that I got rejected, it's knowing I wasted all that time for nothing. Oooo I got to meet someone knew, big whoop.

To me and the way I think now, dating boils down to time. I don't have time to fvck around and chase b!tches all over kingdom come. Either they like me in the first few mins or they don't. My way doesn't always work, and most would say I need to give a girl more time but I'm here to tell you that I have yet to ever land a girl I've chased for a length of time. Ever. It's fairy tale crap that the girl will like you oneday if you just keep at it. Yeah, maybe after she's been divorced twice and has 4 kids and got fat and wrinkly, THEN she might be ready for you but why would you want her then?

Online dating wastes too much of my time and that's why I won't do it anymore.

I could argue that online dating is more efficient, because the girls are guaranteed to be single. If you cold approach, there's what, a 75% chance she has a boyfriend? (I'm assuming you are approaching attractive women, not ugly ones)

If I were still in college, then yes, I would just talk to the girls in school. But post-graduation it is much, much more difficult to meet women who are single and actually compatible with you.

 

[henrea4]

Congrats, skinnyguy. Finally out of the red.

 

[GS750]

Yeah now stay out of the red brother.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yeah now stay out of the red brother.

I will try

 

[djgirl]

I used to be big on online dating back before it became this phenomenon it is today where EVERYONE and their brother is doing it. As I get older (31) and being a self-employed business owner the one thing I'm all about is using time wisely. Time = money, if I'm wasting time doing something that's not making me money then it's useless to me. Same mindset I have with online dating today.

I am one of the few guys would would MUCH rather be shot down in person and I'll tell you why. Time. Yeah being rejected sucks but what did I lose, 15 seconds of my life? Perhaps a couple mins? Now, compare that with emailing a bunch of girls, hopefully having a few email you back, send them a few emails back and forth and try to get the number (which doesn't always work because there's a lot of girls that won't give you their number right away because they met some creep who screwed it up for everyone else). Then you have to sit there and do a bunch of texting and at least talk on the phone once (I'm not going out with anyone I haven't talked on the phone with at least once). Then you have to go on a date, which costs money and your precious time (sorry fellas but 99% of girls out there won't come to your house with the way the world is today and all the freakshows out there who scare women to death). You spend an hour or two on the date and you may or may not get a second date. It's hard to tell because most women will send all the right signals and say all the right things a girl who's interested in you would do but they really aren't interested. In the end you've wasted a sh!t load of time and effort on one girl and end up getting rejected anyways in the end. screw all that bs. It doesn't piss me off that I got rejected, it's knowing I wasted all that time for nothing. Oooo I got to meet someone knew, big whoop.

To me and the way I think now, dating boils down to time. I don't have time to fvck around and chase b!tches all over kingdom come. Either they like me in the first few mins or they don't. My way doesn't always work, and most would say I need to give a girl more time but I'm here to tell you that I have yet to ever land a girl I've chased for a length of time. Ever. It's fairy tale crap that the girl will like you oneday if you just keep at it. Yeah, maybe after she's been divorced twice and has 4 kids and got fat and wrinkly, THEN she might be ready for you but why would you want her then?

Online dating wastes too much of my time and that's why I won't do it anymore.

Agree with this %110. They either like you or they dont, i dont have time for bullsh1tting around.

The other stupid thing about online dating is they can be all into you online and then when they meet you its a different story. They will nit pick your every flaw if your not up to their fairy tale standard they hoped youd be

 

[djgirl]

come to think i wonder if some of these problems can be fixed if you skyped them/video chatted with them before you met them? atleast that way they have an idea of what your like and what to expect when you meet?

 

[adam225]

Cause we're beta.

We know that if we go to a club, we'll just get shut down in person. Getting shut down online is easier. Even if there is a slither of a chance that we'll get a response from a girl in an online profile, we are willing to spend that time. Being beta actually induces laziness, and since we are on our computers all the time, we figure why not go on online dating sites since we're not losing anything in the process.

#Win

Please stop with all this negative BS. If your mindset is negative then what hope have you got with anything in life let alone women ???

 

[Stagger Lee]

Agree with this %110. They either like you or they dont, i dont have time for bullsh1tting around.

The other stupid thing about online dating is they can be all into you online and then when they meet you its a different story. They will nit pick your every flaw if your not up to their fairy tale standard they hoped youd be

You should read this thread if you haven't http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208275

come to think i wonder if some of these problems can be fixed if you skyped them/video chatted with them before you met them? atleast that way they have an idea of what your like and what to expect when you meet?

Yeah but the problem here is if you were going to go through all the trouble and are willing to have your real time conversational/verbal game and your nonverbal/body language scrutinized, then you might as well go out in the field and approach. Plus it's hard enough to get girls to answer your messages online or to answer the online instant messenger chat, let alone get them to video chat.

But actually if online dating had videos and a video chat app like say yahoo chat had, it wouldn't be a bad idea. A lot people did webcam chat. Video cams can be low resolution though so it can make some people look better than in person, and nothing totally replaces in person conversing when it comes to females determining attraction.

 

[Solomon]

More online dating crap

This thread use to come up monthly now daily almost...I posted this in another thread

Unless your really good looking you're not banging 7+'s on the regular via online dating

Let's be honest How many guys on this site are "cut up" or "Jacked up" if most of us were we probably wouldn't have problems online dating or dating women in general. Should you work out and be in the best shape possible? of course but if that's the reality then you wouldn't need online dating.

How many of these women would you approach in real life?

I counted maybe 10 out of 28, IRL your odds are higher of meeting a better looking woman at a bar, if you messaged those 10 women how many would be most likely to respond?

aaaarrgh now I'm getting into mental masturbation


The truth is this most women online who were the easiest to bang were 3-6's for me and that's me being honest. But there is no pride in banging a 3, just shame and then the worry about possible having contracted an STD because the chick came to phuck you after only messaging you for a day

Here is a profile of my buddy

Here are the types of girls who message him

Girl 1

Girl 2

Girl 3


:nervous: :crackup:

He needed help with his profile so I did, IRL he can and has done waaaaaaaaaaaaaay better. would you bang any of these 3 women pictures I posted?

This is how the average pof women looks like in my area. I would have no problem showing further pics of his inbox.

This is the reason why I'm so adamant that men hit the field. Unless you're in a big metro area maybe online dating will work for you cause you have a higher selection of or caliber of women. But in my area most of the women are plain janes or just horrid. Going out to the field It's not unusual for me to run into women like these

Girl 1

Girls 2


Girl 3

Girl 4

These are a sample of some women I approached and yes the pics are real. These type of women would never give me the time of day online especially with being a minority. But IRL I have no problem meeting and dating these type of women with effort.

A lof of guys just wanna do it the easy way and approach women online, whilst that is convenient. Being in the trenches build your confidence. There is no substitute!

About Herpes and STD"S

I dodged a few STD's. I think the paranoia is real, when I had a chick come over after messaging for only 45 minutes you gotta wonder how many other times she has done it. Online women are *****s who are fuccing and succing off multiple men! ETC STD's are real Here is a text messaging exchange before I shut my profile down with another chick

Read this

Then this

I never hooked up with her but she was the third chick who confessed to having had herpes.

Tread lightly