Why was this awkward?

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About two months ago, I went on two dates and they went really really well and of course I screwed it up by not closing either one with a kiss... Seriously don't ask why.... I know I f'd it up. So I ask for the third date and I get the run around.

I've stayed in touch in her by texting once a week and she always replies back the next day.

A couple of weeks ago, I hung out with friends and she was there (We have mutual friends). It was awkward. It was the first time we've seen each other since the 2nd date. I can tell both of us felt awkward and uncomfortable throughout the night. I played it cool the whole night. I socialized with everyone and really didn't focus on her at all. When we did talk, it was more flirty than anything else.... At the end of the night, I felt really bad cause I should have broken through the awkwardness and just make both of us feel comfortable. So the next day, I sent a text apologizing for the awkwardness knowing I could have broken it. She replied back the day after, "No worries. Just another night out with the guys. Good to see you again."

I haven't spoken to her or seen her since then... so that's 2 weeks and yes, I've been seeing other women.

So a couple of questions:

1. Why was it awkward between us?
2. I know I'm in the FZ but why not give it last hoorah. I was thinking of asking her if she would like join me when I go to the museum. Something non-threatening..something I would do on my own anyway? So how much longer should I wait to contact her? Any suggestions? Anything I should do differently? If she said yes...I know what to do. Trust me!
3. If she says no...how do I play it out?

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If you really really like this women then what you need to do is cut contact with her, then get out there and get some experience with some other women. Get out there and date 20 different women, your gonna strike out with a lot of them, but more importantly you'll get better at different things, you'll become more successful and better at the game.

After you do that, then you can come back to this one because right now with your skill set, your only going to chase this women away. You've already put yourself in the FZ. Your only going to dig yourself deeper. Dating these other women will only give you confidence and social proof which will help you with this women.
 
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