Why this site is both the elixir of love and happiness and the poison of madness

[bugsquish]

It's a scary time for me too, I'm currently giving up much of what I've learned on this site to embrace the closeness of a relationship. And yes I've found myself doing things that I wouldv'e cringed at a few months ago.

The main thing I've gained from this site is that I'm my own man. She lives in my world not vice-versa. We don't need to play games. If she even tries to play games with me she gets a playful spank on the ass. I am man, living my life; she comes with me or doesn't. If she comes with me she gets all the benefits, which include affection and returned calls

I'm about to get kicked out of the library so I didn't have time to read all the posts. I printed yours Tesuque cuz I know I will probably benefit again from your words.

Peace DJs.

 

[jbbrain]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
JB.....

You're inquisitive, thoughtful, a smartarse, knowledgeable,and really frickin hot into the bargain. I wish you well kid.

*gives you a cyber hug*

what does "really frikkin hot on the bargain" mean in canadian english baby?

 

[ShortyBrown]

It means I think you're a honey.

 

[jbbrain]

I like you too sho'ty

now explain to me why you think im such a smart ass?

 

[ShortyBrown]

You Canadians take these things so personally!!!
then again I didn't really articulate myself all that well....
In my neck of the woods being a smartarse isn't always a bad thing....you don't mince your words, you tell it like it is in your own way, and that's very cool. Most Australian's would love you for that, so you'll have to come visit some time.

 

[CLOONEY]

this is a really hard questoin, but a VERY good one. You want to protect your heart, and you really should, but if you dont leap you cant fly, or so to speak.

I think you have to trust her but not with total ignorance!

You really need her initial interest level to be there from the start, without this you WILL have a VERY hard time raising it! If she truly loves you, you need to be stupid and funny, do rediculous things, that you and her both find really funny, if you guys are right for eachother you shoudl have the same sense of humor.

Still be ****y and funny sometimes, just make sure you also show your very seriously side. Always live your own life, however make her a big part of your life. You two guys have to grow together to acheive a great relationship. You need to mirror her, but this should happen naturally, you will start using the same words and probably make up a few really CORNY and stupid things that ONLY YOU TWO understand and find cute and funny!

You need to keep the relationship exciting, doing crazy things, going on holidays still, like at the start, and not just get into a routine where things get boring. You both need to realise THE MOST CRITICAL THING is that both of you need to be sympathetic, and not be selfish along with admitting you are both wrong at times and not just TRYING to change the things you do that annoy eachother but ACTUALLY CHANGE THEM, if these changes dont come about instantly keep reminding eachother about it.

Dont just sweep fights away for them to keep coming back, you have to actually FIX the problem. You will always have good times and bad times, but you just have to work through the bad times, and she needs to realise this also, and not just break up when things get tough.

I had a few other things to say that are really important for a good LTR but I cant think of them right now. Take it easy and good luck, a good LTR can be VERY fulfilling (however usually after time things fall apart, these are the times that make or break your relationship).