Why the Questions?

[princelydeeds]

I told this chick I wanted to see her last night. She asked me why? So I gave her the first answer that came to mind. Then she asked what do you wanna do when you get here, why me, why are you attracted to me? The questions went on and on from there. I could not have been more annoyed. Why do women do all that questioning sh!t? I've already boned this chick twice and every time there are a million and one questions. I realise it's part of her anti-slut defense but DAMN! 1001 questions every time Italk to her, is the most annoying thing in all the world.

My response halfway through her questioning was to get a lil agitated, stop her and ask why coming to see her has to be like solving pie, or doing my taxes. I told her that if I wanted to answer 1000 questions I'd go retake my SAT's. Then I said "I want to see you! I didnt think I had to have a reason for wanting to see you. Its like being thirsty, why do we get thisty? Its that simple don't make it complicated." When she heard the irritation in my voice she got annoyed and backed off. I keep meeting these silly chicks with 1000 questions lately. I think in their minds it tests my sincerity, but all it really does is test my ability to come up with BS on the spot. Anyone else experiencing this crap?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

You should have said "Well, I wanted to see you", she'd get the message pretty quick.

Yeah, I got that sh!t before, it was from an immature girl who eventually started "stalking" me by text message.

 

[( . )( . )]

i know this all to well, and it annoys me no end.
the reason being is in my experience chicks turn into amature cops in the beginning with there constant questions, this seems to be just bait, trying to get you to answer them in a supplicative AFC manner, putting you on the spot and basically luring you into exchanging mindless drivel.

Then she asked what do you wanna do when you get here, why me, why are you attracted to me? The questions went on and on from there.

let her know you dont do the 20 questions routine quick smart

 

[bp1974]

I think that when they ask a lot of questions, it puts them in control - you're on the back foot, trying to come up with answers. Doesn't matter if you're trying to come up with C&F answers, or mysterious answers, the dynamic is that she's acting, and you're reacting.

That's where it's subtlety as a test lies. Shes not testing you by what your answers are, she's testing you by whether you put up with being inanely questioned by her or not.

I think the best way to deal with this is to take a deep breath, and don't answer whatever question she just asked. Then turn it back round. Say something like "So do you want to see me tonight?". If she persists, then say "I'm not playing 20 questions. Do you want to see me tonight?". If she pouts, you know she's immature and may not be worth the trouble.

Stop reacting to her questions, and start acting on what you want from the conversation.

bp1974

 

[xblitz44x]

I think it's insecurity on their part. As if they constantly need to be reassured and need to hear how much you care. It's bullshyt and I'd just tell her to calm down with the questions. Try not to show her you're annoyed by it, because apparently she's cautious that you might split anyway, so if she see's you're annoyed it might cause her back off because she's worried she's going to get herself hurt. Amazing.

-Blitz

 

[JohnJones]

I agree with blitz and it took me a long time to figure this out.

I've seen the girl create the situation herself then get spooked because she didn't like how it went: if you give too much reassurance, she may flake but too little, she may still flake.

 

[Jay_VCU]

I remember reading a tip that if she asks you a question, answer quick and ask her a question. Get her on the defensive.