Why the F*ck are you having problems with women?

[Buddha_Mind]

g0ddamn you all (backbreaker, mr positive, pairsroyal, collusus) hit this **** on the head -- SOLID RESPONSES I WOULD REP YOU ALL.

Mental masturbation!

I'm guilty of it bros! I over-analyze damn near everything because I'm all intellectual and cerebreal and ****!

Double-edged sword!

Life is a balance between thinking and action! Both are important! Too little or too much on either end is gunna cause some trouble!

STAY POSITIVE DUDES. WE HOLD OUR INNER STRENGTH. YOU KNOW WHATS BEST FOR YOU.

 

[backbreaker]

g0ddamn you all (backbreaker, mr positive, pairsroyal, collusus) hit this **** on the head -- SOLID RESPONSES I WOULD REP YOU ALL.

Mental masturbation!

I'm guilty of it bros! I over-analyze damn near everything because I'm all intellectual and cerebreal and ****!

Double-edged sword!

Life is a balance between thinking and action! Both are important! Too little or too much on either end is gunna cause some trouble!

STAY POSITIVE DUDES. WE HOLD OUR INNER STRENGTH. YOU KNOW WHATS BEST FOR YOU.

Ironically enough, and the reason I know this all too well is beucase this is an issue I have in just about every other faccet of my everyday life.

**** that normal people don't even think about drives me up the way. I can't function, and when I say I cant' funcion I mean, i literarlly get to the point of hyperventalting if my schedule is not broken down to a minute by minute basis, i have to knwo exactly what I am doing at all times. But of course, there are times when this isn't very pratical like, yesterday I was unusually tired when i got home from the gym and wnated to take a 1 hour nap, but dmamit that's not in the schedule. so then I go to a list of just like, okay this is the important **** i need tod o today , this is the shtie I want to do today and this is the **** i do to kill time. but then when I do that, i get manic and nothign gets done beucase i don't know what to do lol. this is the ongoing war within my mind. lack of flexibility and calm ness or more flexibility and manic.

I over think my sales pitch, i tinker with **** that works well to the point where I don't end up doing anything at times. That's kinda the curse of always wanting to improve on things, sometimes you go the wrong way

but with women, you see one that you like, talk to her. simple as that.

 

[Solomon]

I'm fat

:kick:

 

[InnerHappiness]

Posts in this thread really hit home. I found myself spending most of my free time going through threads. I have been making out/hooking up with women lately, much more than before.

However, I realize there are many other aspects of my life that needs attention, mainly my career. I talked to a millionaire today, he was working 12+ hour days at my age, doing what I was doing. Sadly, I only spend a fraction of that time.

Going through the general discussion, there are many that are looking for a quick and simple solution to their current situation. They will never grasp the mindset, just a quick fix and later will come back with more questions.

For myself, spending more time on this site is futile. I must apply the advice given by many great posters. My perspective has changed much these past 2 months, it's time to experiment. Thanks all.

tl:dr - I'm going NC with the SS community

 

[Die Hard]

Meh... I read here all the time. Especially on my phone when I go to bed and always when I'm travelling to work.

I enjoy it, get stimulated by it and learn from it everyday!

 

[Gro0ver]

Just get the basics right:

- Knowledge of "red pill" theory and game (but also the ability to critique it and understand that it's not all relevent/should be applied)
- Regulate your output to the extent that is comfortable and natural (e.g. ****y/funny, good text game, etc)
- Being physically fit and active
- Wide array of hobbies and interests
- Understanding of your strengths and weaknesses and what type of women you attract
- Creating opportunities to meet women and test what you've learned regularly

...and the women will follow. No need to focus too much on one particular area, you want to be improving them all gradually with time.

Get the basics right, get a solid foundation and always be pushing forward. And never give a f*** too much. I believe that's it in a nutshell. Now that I've been doing the above for awhile I'm finding that I'm getting a good supply of plates continuously without having to make too much effort or even cold approaching or anything like that.

 

[typical]

What I think happens on internet forums, this one, and most all, is that folks tend to post problems and issues they have. If a person starts reading, and learning, and then base their whole view about women on just what they read, they just see the problems.

Same with feminism, etc. As men, we live in a time where we are perhaps the most free we have ever been. We can do whatever we want, whatever we choose.

For example, at 39 years old, I don't want to get married, and I don't want to have children. 40 or 50 years ago, that would seem very eccentric. The path to manhood back then was to get out of school, get a job, get married, white picket fence, kids, etc. Most women followed that path too. Yes, there was better wife material back then, but how many men felt trapped in lives that we predetermined for them?

In our times, we can do whatever we want. If you want a wife, you can find a woman that will fit, if you want to. If you want easy sex, lot's of loose women as well.

Tom Brown Jr said it best. In life, there is two types of people. Critics, and Doers. The critics will always sit back and criticize the people out doing things. The doers don't have time to be critics, because they are out doing whatever they choose to do.

I can't agree more with this its smack bang on, it's something I think everyone is guilty of doing from time to time and that's become a critic instead of the person doing the action.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I can't agree with him.

Being able to "do whatever you want" is the precursor to any fallen society throughout history, and it will be the same for us.

"If you want a wife, you can find one that will fit". No, you can't. That's why we're all here. You can find a wife, but not one that will be an adjunct to your life unless you hit the lottery figuratively speaking.

"Lots of loose women"... Is this really good for mankind? I don't think so.

If I lived in a house with walls lined with Hershy's chocolate bars I'd be happy for a week, then I'd get obese. Extrapolate that out.

 

[backbreaker]

Posts in this thread really hit home. I found myself spending most of my free time going through threads. I have been making out/hooking up with women lately, much more than before.

However, I realize there are many other aspects of my life that needs attention, mainly my career. I talked to a millionaire today, he was working 12+ hour days at my age, doing what I was doing. Sadly, I only spend a fraction of that time.

Going through the general discussion, there are many that are looking for a quick and simple solution to their current situation. They will never grasp the mindset, just a quick fix and later will come back with more questions.

For myself, spending more time on this site is futile. I must apply the advice given by many great posters. My perspective has changed much these past 2 months, it's time to experiment. Thanks all.

tl:dr - I'm going NC with the SS community

trust me this is a battle i hve with myself quite often asa others here will attest to lol.

you don';t have to necessairly leave the site; for all the **** in this forum this site does a hell of a lot of good.

all we are saying is that, learning has to be in balance with doing; youc an't just have just one. if you are here soaking up information and not combining with your everyday practical knowledge of what you see for yourself, you are no better off than when you first got here

 

[zekko]

The dumb jocks/meatheads/ models clean up with women. Maybe men need to pick up "hobbies" like listening to top40 music, watching sh1tcoms or dancing to relate to these empty headed "programmed" women like someone else said.

Right, there are certain kinds of hobbies that lend themselves well to meeting women. Mike taking a ballroom dancing class, for example. I used to play in rock bands when I was younger, and that translated to a lot of different women for me. Not because they were like "oh, wow, a rock star". It's just that it put me into a position where I was able to meet a lot of girls, and a lot of people in general.

Sitting at home reading a James Joyce book may help widen your perspectives, but it's not going to attract women to your door. Being a well rounded person is something you should do for yourself, anyway. Maybe if you go read the book at a Starbucks it might attract some girls, lol.

Then you have men, who, they have the other **** in their life down, like they have a good career and they work hard, but they are just, not interesting and have no clue with women

Well, so much for "get your life in order and women will flock to you". Actually, anytime I hear the phrase "women will flock to you" I pretty much write it off as BS. Because I've never found anything on its own that will make women "flock to you", unless they were predisposed to do so anyway (whether it be because of looks, wealth, social proof, whatever).

Also, a lot of guys have their sh!t together AND are interesting, but when it comes to women they are clueless (as you say). They may be interesting, but they may have trouble conveying it. Or they may be interesting, but not in such a way that women find interesting (generally speaking).

"If you want a wife, you can find one that will fit". No, you can't. That's why we're all here. You can find a wife, but not one that will be an adjunct to your life unless you hit the lottery figuratively speaking.

That stuck out at me as being wrong also. Quality women are too rare these days to say "if you want one, you can get one". Unfortunately, that kind of puts the lie to "abundance mentality". Unfortunately, abundance mentality works best if you're only looking for short term sex.

Besides which, the way the culture is these days, I can't say there is any woman I would trust enough to marry, no matter who she is. At this point in my life, I have too much to lose. The culture today does not value marriage vows, especially from the female perspective. I wish I could say it was otherwise, but it's not.

 

[backbreaker]

Well, so much for "get your life in order and women will flock to you". Actually, anytime I hear the phrase "women will flock to you" I pretty much write it off as BS. Because I've never found anything on its own that will make women "flock to you", unless they were predisposed to do so anyway (whether it be because of looks, wealth, social proof, whatever).

Also, a lot of guys have their sh!t together AND are interesting, but when it comes to women they are clueless (as you say). They may be interesting, but they may have trouble conveying it. Or they may be interesting, but not in such a way that women find interesting (generally speaking).

one thing i have always wanted to ask you and I will do so now point blank; why do you try so hard to be difficult? why are you so hell bent on taking extreme points of view?


i cannot stress this enough; i am not taking about dating a girl in a relationship or blowing her mind out in bed or being able to successfully spin 5 plates at a time. I am simply talking about, being a normal guy and having normal women, look at you and say "humm.. he looks interesting"

that's not hard to do. it really isn't. A guy who takes care of himself, can dress like an adult and isn't' a bum as long as he just doesn't have any deformities or what not, is not going to have a problem getting moderate interest from the opposite sex. I stand behind that beucase i have seen it wtih my own 2 eyes my entire life. Now, what he does with that interest, that's why we are here. and you make it sound like some draconian task or some ****. Even guys who are clueless with women, are still able to get them interested in them. **** just about every guy I know is fvcking clueless with women and just about none of them have any real problem finding dates and chilling with girls or what not. they aren't suave or players or anything and in most cases the girl probably even runs the ship but that's not what i'm talking about. you are making it sound like, to get a woman to look at you is like one of the 7 tests of time or some **** and it isn't.

it's that very type of point of view that degrades people into non action and bitterness.

Sitting at home reading a James Joyce book may help widen your perspectives, but it's not going to attract women to your door

no it's not. but once you actually meet a woman, the fact that you have a broad scope of interests, women do like. There is a very good reason why i slept with at least, well over 50% of the girls i went on dates with. I do not understand why you are aruging with me about this it's fvcking common sense. it really is.

it's like you and others are just, fvcking hell bent on being negative nancy's about dating. if that's the case why are you even here


in other words, and I think this is what peeves me off.. guy comes to the site, just a normal dude. works at his job and he sees the secretary everyday as he goes to work. he likes her. he thinks she likes him. she talks to him and flirts with him a little just harmless stuff. the guy doesn't know how to come at the girl so he comes here and thinks he is going to get some quick pointers.

and here you come telling the guy that he doesn't have a shot in hell beucase he's not rich/super good looking and that all women are slut buckets and ****. take that **** somewhere else man. seriously. I dont' know what your life experiences have been with women but you make this **** 10x more complex than it is and unnecessarily degrading. And the fact that i am even talking to you like this shows how much it peeves me off beucase i actually respect you. that behavior/ yoru attidue is counterintuitive

 

[Warrior74]

My life sucks. But I really don't have a problem with women. My problem is sorting out my life. Women are on the backburner as an active pursuit. I have way more important personal issues and financial issues to sort out. Bringing a woman into this mess as anything other than a fvck buddy would just be bad for everyone involved and only complicate my life further.

 

[lifeislearning]

I think backbreaker, buddha mind, atom smasher, colossus, and a few others get what I'm saying. Of course I know this is a forum about women, and when I first found it I was the one posting the "how do I get her back" sob story on the general forum. This forum can be a rare light in the darkness for guys who usually don't get the "you deserve better" support after a breakup.

Most of us should be long past that point.

Even in this thread I see long lists of the failures of women and how they just don't make quality girls anymore.

What nonsense. Sure, it is tough to find quality women, and most of them aren't worth your effort, and that is why we should keep the focus on our own lives, the only thing we can control. If a woman isn't smart enough or whatever enough to understand/appreciate/respect what you do, why the hell are you talking to her?

If you believe all women fall into this category, there's either something seriously wrong with the women in your area, or something about your view of women is flawed.

Lately I've been struggling with drawing the line between having fun with girls, and not wasting my time on those who don't deserve it. If I am able to charm and seduce a woman, I no longer think "Yeah stud, you're the champ," but "How many guys have done the same thing?" I get so much more turned on when a girl stops me out of principle, rather than failed advances. I know you're thinking, "A woman of principle, how rare!"

Absolutely. That's why we have a forum like this. It's like the girl who only dates douchebags, and can't figure out why all her boyfriends have been horrible. If all the women you date are substandard, what's the one common element in that equation?

A quality man who lives and acts on his virtues is MORE likely to attract quality women. Not guaranteed to, but more likely.

Found this in the archives, and it fits so well.

1.If your life revolves around women you don't really have a life.

 

[lifeislearning]

My life sucks. But I really don't have a problem with women. My problem is sorting out my life. Women are on the backburner as an active pursuit. I have way more important personal issues and financial issues to sort out. Bringing a woman into this mess as anything other than a fvck buddy would just be bad for everyone involved and only complicate my life further.

Probably the coolest thing I've heard all week. :crackup:

Love the honesty. Hang in there buddy

 

[zekko]

one thing i have always wanted to ask you and I will do so now point blank; why do you try so hard to be difficult? why are you so hell bent on taking extreme points of view?

I think the problem you're having here is something that I often do myself. I read something you said which I found interesting, and it inspired me to say something else on the topic. What you said gets kind of lumped in with about 10 other posts that I read that said something very similar, and I wrote out what I think about it. It's not that I was trying to attack you personally, or even trying to argue with you really.

But I've felt this way before too, when someone responds to something I say. I may feel like they're trying to refute me or attack me, when what is really happening is that they're taking my comment as a jumping off point for what they want to say.

I don't feel like I take extreme points of view, though. I feel like some stances that you read here are extreme in themselves and I try to move them back toward the center (For example, the idea that all women fvck bad boys in their 20s, then marry a chump in their 30s, all the while fvcking a bad boy behind their back. I've given up at tilting at that particular windmill, however).

As for going out of my way to be difficult, I may have a problem with that. I rarely accept what people tell me, I have to make up my own mind about it. And if what they say doesn't match my experience, I will say so.

i cannot stress this enough; i am not taking about dating a girl in a relationship or blowing her mind out in bed or being able to successfully spin 5 plates at a time. I am simply talking about, being a normal guy and having normal women, look at you and say "humm.. he looks interesting"

Having a girl look at you and say "humm...he looks interesting" is a lot different than someone saying "women will flock to you" or "women will be beating down your door". I've been reading quite a few posts where guys will say "I started working out now women are flocking to me" or "Get a hobby and women will flock to you".

I'm objecting to this "women will flock to you" idea, because I have not found any one thing that will literally make women "flock to you". Because if there was one thing I could do that would make women beat down my door, I would do it lol. Although I'm sure that would get old fast.

that's not hard to do. it really isn't. and you make it sound like some draconian task or some ****. Even guys who are clueless with women, are still able to get them interested in them. **** just about every guy I know is fvcking clueless with women and just about none of them have any real problem finding dates and chilling with girls or what not.

See, now I agree with you completely. Most guys I know have a girlfriend or whatever, or if they are more into just getting laid, they have their little stables of slvts or whatever, or know how to get the one night stands. Getting women is a lot easier than they make it out to be here, where you have to fold flap A onto flap B, then stand on your head while you recite the alpha oath, etc. At the same time, it will never be as simple as they make it here, either, where it falls neatly into a formula. Everybody is different, every girl is different, every guy is different. I've never made any claim of being a player, I don't even have any ambition to be a player. But my girlfriend finds me interesting.

The main thing to take from this place is to avoid the AFC mistakes (and you don't have to go overboard about it) and to put yourself out there, and get experience. Most guys are not going to be able to get every hottie they want, but they'll get some.

no it's not. but once you actually meet a woman, the fact that you have a broad scope of interests, women do like. There is a very good reason why i slept with at least, well over 50% of the girls i went on dates with. I do not understand why you are aruging with me about this it's fvcking common sense. it really is.

it's like you and others are just, fvcking hell bent on being negative nancy's about dating. if that's the case why are you even here

I agree it's good to be a well rounded person, I think I even said that. I was just pointing out that some hobbies will draw women moreso than others. By the way, at one point I was considering getting a saltwater tank, but I decided it looked like too much of a pain in the @ss to mess with. But they're definitely cool, and I'm sure any girl who came into your house and checked it out would find it interesting.

I don't think I'm negative about dating though, except I do buy into a good deal of the misandry laws/don't get married attitude that's going on now. The culture (and the current morality) is in a bad place right now. IMO.

As for why I'm here, that's a question I've asked myself more than once lol. Most of this stuff is aimed at younger guys who go to clubs. Someone recently said they come here mainly for entertainment, and I think that fits me pretty well. I like message boards, and for the last several years at least, this one has caught my attention, and imagination.

 

[backbreaker]

I think the problem you're having here is something that I often do myself. I read something you said which I found interesting, and it inspired me to say something else on the topic. What you said gets kind of lumped in with about 10 other posts that I read that said something very similar, and I wrote out what I think about it. It's not that I was trying to attack you personally, or even trying to argue with you really.

But I've felt this way before too, when someone responds to something I say. I may feel like they're trying to refute me or attack me, when what is really happening is that they're taking my comment as a jumping off point for what they want to say.

I don't feel like I take extreme points of view, though. I feel like some stances that you read here are extreme in themselves and I try to move them back toward the center (For example, the idea that all women fvck bad boys in their 20s, then marry a chump in their 30s, all the while fvcking a bad boy behind their back. I've given up at tilting at that particular windmill, however).

As for going out of my way to be difficult, I may have a problem with that. I rarely accept what people tell me, I have to make up my own mind about it. And if what they say doesn't match my experience, I will say so.


Having a girl look at you and say "humm...he looks interesting" is a lot different than someone saying "women will flock to you" or "women will be beating down your door". I've been reading quite a few posts where guys will say "I started working out now women are flocking to me" or "Get a hobby and women will flock to you".

I'm objecting to this "women will flock to you" idea, because I have not found any one thing that will literally make women "flock to you". Because if there was one thing I could do that would make women beat down my door, I would do it lol. Although I'm sure that would get old fast.


See, now I agree with you completely. Most guys I know have a girlfriend or whatever, or if they are more into just getting laid, they have their little stables of slvts or whatever, or know how to get the one night stands. Getting women is a lot easier than they make it out to be here, where you have to fold flap A onto flap B, then stand on your head while you recite the alpha oath, etc. At the same time, it will never be as simple as they make it here, either, where it falls neatly into a formula. Everybody is different, every girl is different, every guy is different. I've never made any claim of being a player, I don't even have any ambition to be a player. But my girlfriend finds me interesting.

The main thing to take from this place is to avoid the AFC mistakes (and you don't have to go overboard about it) and to put yourself out there, and get experience. Most guys are not going to be able to get every hottie they want, but they'll get some.


I agree it's good to be a well rounded person, I think I even said that. I was just pointing out that some hobbies will draw women moreso than others. By the way, at one point I was considering getting a saltwater tank, but I decided it looked like too much of a pain in the @ss to mess with. But they're definitely cool, and I'm sure any girl who came into your house and checked it out would find it interesting.

I don't think I'm negative about dating though, except I do buy into a good deal of the misandry laws/don't get married attitude that's going on now. The culture (and the current morality) is in a bad place right now. IMO.

As for why I'm here, that's a question I've asked myself more than once lol. Most of this stuff is aimed at younger guys who go to clubs. Someone recently said they come here mainly for entertainment, and I think that fits me pretty well. I like message boards, and for the last several years at least, this one has caught my attention, and imagination.

:gives zekko e-dap:

 

[Slickster]

1. Average guys way overvalue themselves.

2. Undervalue quality women who don't rate high enough on the HB scale.

3. Overvalue hot women despite obvious character flaws.

4. Push for sex way too soon.

5. Unwilling to improve themselves or lack the patience.

6. Seem completely oblivious to all of the above yet are willing to wait it out hoping for some one in a million chance to bone some girl way out of their league.


The analogy I use is it seems like most guys would rather walk around town dreaming about driving a Ferrari when there is a perfectly good Honda they can afford sitting right in front of them. Learning on that Honda is fun and may even earn you the possibility to upgrade later. Even more important though is that Honda teaches you about all the qualities you want and don't want in your next car. Sadly the guy waits around forever walking everywhere and watching the Ferraris zoom by.

 

[backbreaker]

1. Average guys way overvalue themselves.

2. Undervalue quality women who don't rate high enough on the HB scale.

3. Overvalue hot women despite obvious character flaws.

4. Push for sex way too soon.

5. Unwilling to improve themselves or lack the patience.

6. Seem completely oblivious to all of the above yet are willing to wait it out hoping for some one in a million chance to bone some girl way out of their league.


The analogy I use is it seems like most guys would rather walk around town dreaming about driving a Ferrari when there is a perfectly good Honda they can afford sitting right in front of them.

lot of truth to this.

the bigge to me is number 3. guys give hot women way too much leeway. way too much.

most guys won't walk away from a hot girl if there is even the most miniscule chance that she will fvck him, regardless of how small that chance is, regardless of her character flaws or what she has done to him.

Its like that dave Chapelle bit where they are in the airplane and everyone behind the other person is talking **** about the person in front of them, with the indians and the black people and the white dad and his daughter. it's like guys will look at hot HB 8.5 woman and want tog et wtih her, and she will not be interested and he will be talking about how everything sucks and ****, and he might know 1-2 HB 5's orw hat not that would suck him bone dry but he doesn't pay them the slightest bit of attention, all the while not realizing the same reason that he doesnt' want to have sex with the hb 5 is the same reason that the hb8.5 doesn't want to have sex wtih him. that concept flies over the head of just about every avg guy I know.

 

[Warrior74]

Probably the coolest thing I've heard all week. :crackup:

Love the honesty. Hang in there buddy

You know, I've been living in honesty for a while now. The first step is to to really take a hard look at yourself. Stop believing the bull**** you tell yourself to protect your ego.

I'm not as good looking as I pretend to be. (although that confidence does help with the ladies). I'm not in the shape I need to be in. I've been bitter about women for a while. I can be very negative and kind of a d1ck. I'm broke. I know all of my faults.

The hard part is fixing them. That's the work and I realize that I'm kinda lazy. It is like Slickster said.

The analogy I use is it seems like most guys would rather walk around town dreaming about driving a Ferrari when there is a perfectly good Honda they can afford sitting right in front of them. Learning on that Honda is fun and may even earn you the possibility to upgrade later. Even more important though is that Honda teaches you about all the qualities you want and don't want in your next car. Sadly the guy waits around forever walking everywhere and watching the Ferraris zoom by.

I see that in a lot of the guys I know and I recognize that in myself. It's easier to blame everyone else for your problems with women and life. Now, if I was in the shape I wanted, had the income I wanted, dressed the way I wanted to dress and addressed my own personality issues, and I still had a problem getting women, then I might feel I have the right to ***** about things. But I haven't covered my end first. So I can't really ***** can I?

And yah I'm a fat guy and I find it hard to want girls on my own level. We all try to cheat biology and get something out of our league. I know from experience that if I am pulling a girl out of my league I am getting either damaged goods, someone who is trying to use me, or I just got lucky and it's not going to last unless I make major concessions on my principles (basically put up with a lot of crap). These are just the facts of the dating market. The only way is for me to fix all of my **** and then I'll be a couple of points up in the market and things will level out. That's the hard work most people don't want to do.

I'm at my office right now sending emails, contacting clients and working on my websites when all my friends are at the pubs and summer events. And I'm STILL procrastinating. I have no one to blame or to save me but myself. My problem is, after a lifetime of bad habits, and trying over and over again to change, I'm having a hard time actually making the changes stick. I'm starting to think that it's just hopeless at this point and that change is not really possible. And yet I still keep struggling to try.

The point of SS is this. How does one change one's self for the better and stick to it? That's what I use this site to motivate me to do.

 

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To say a few things on this post by lifeislearning. It's similar to "Got 99 problems, but a ***** ain't one," so then it's a great idea to focus on improving those other 99 problems to get your own life more together, and then this will also make it easier to meet women as well. There was a time when I had an apartment, but I did not know about approaching women then so I made no effort at all to even talk to women (plus there wasn't much time left to when I was in sports and studying for hours) and I even rejected a bunch of girls who asked me out (and now years later I very much regret the fact that I rejected these girls because I "had to study for good grades"). Then, the last few years I am "really good at Game/approaching women," but other aspects of my "situation sucks" with NOT having those areas of my life together/handled (and not to complain about the economy either), such as a vehicle broke down and didn't have the money for another vehicle yet (thus limiting other job prospects where I would have to commute) and NOT having my own apartment (to be able to bring women back to), and because of these I stopped approaching. Thus, I had to step back and begin to solve these other larger issues (money for: food, vehicle, apartment, dentist, dating). I read in 3 books that were published before any Game blog that said to make your own mission in life (and not just women) your top priority (this would involve getting your own life togehter). I had to change financially (get money for a vehicle, moving to another town, and my own apartment to have a place to be able to bring women back to). I had to get back into exercising more like I used to. Improving these areas then also improves meeting women (such as in the logistics of having my own apartment to invite women back to where I have cool things to show them). Props to : lifeislearning/Buddha Mind/backbreaker/and others. I make a To-Do-List, but now I don't try to micro-manage it too much to end up doing not much, so I now just list the item (such as, Go Out and Approach 2 women today) and if I in fact did this that day then I know I did the actions to achieve this result and if not then I did not. I have had to change my F/H/R ratio. Financial/Health/Relationships. I now spend more time on F (career for money) and at least 1 hour a day on H (Exercise) and then less time on R (meeting women), however by improving F (money for my own apartment) it will greatly improve the results with R (women). I spend less time on the internet and more time out in public (business/networking/talking to real women). I looked into Online Dating (POF/OKC), and I could say "Come over and we can, you know,...read a book," but there's not many girls on those in my area (say out of 10, 4 could be guys with fake profiles), so I deleted my accounts, and I decided I have much better odds out in public (even at clubs where at least I know I'm talking to real women in person where they can also feel my masculine seductive vibe and thus feel a connection and be attracted to me right there). So, now I'm going old school game, and cold approaching women (100 in a month could be my goal). As Solomon was saying, improving F (Financially/career/networking/social circle) is beneficial to meeting women. I am off all "social media" (FB, etc) and have re-allocated all of this time to improve F (money for vehicle, apartment, dating)and H (Exercise : Lift 4 days and HIIT cardio 3 days) to make myself feel better/get stronger/and increase energy. At a mall the other day I talked with 2 attractive women and saw many attractive/thin American women (yes there is some hot/thin women in America and I was interacting with them in America in person). There is women outside in public to meet and let's also as men get the other areas (Financial/Exercise/etc) of our life together starting today.