Why some girls want FWB only?

[Dreama]

Why is that some girls only want to be friends with benefits?

What makes them want that?

I thought all girls want relationships. Was I mistaken? Do they only want sex? This is confusing. It seems that some of them want casual sex, some want less casual which is "friends with benefits". and some want relationships. Are they being hypocrites?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Its about the checks that the guy pass.

Good personality+ ugly= friend

bad personality + hot= fvck buddy

good personality+ good looking= relationship

Of course there are many variables as well as friends approval, just like you may fvck a girl but dont want to be seen with her so it happens to them or she is a ho so you are fine banging her but you dont want anybody to think you're investing in her.

 

[Dreama]

bad personality + hot= fvck buddy

I really want this to be proven to me.

What evidence can you bring?

even an anecdote from a hot woman is acceptable. (maybe in some female-only forum ?)
like a woman saying "because he was hot and good looking, I got wet, and I really wanted him to take me home and fu ck me"

"he approached me, he was dumb and creepy but I only wanted him for his body..."

 

[Heisenberg]

I disagree that it's all about the guy passing he checklist (though that is part).

It depends on where these women live and the culture around them. Western women in their 20s who live in big cities are caught up in the independent young professional/Sex In The City lifestyle and believe they don't have time for a relationship... They're too busy working on their career, being sexually liberated, etc - this is what they tell themselves anyway. I read an article by a woman who once fell into this category, saying her and many others hit their mid 30s alone, with lots of career and social achievements but no love in their life (while other women and men have already married and started families). They of course then freak out and marry whoever off POF or whatever.

All that said, these super independent modern women, if George Clooney came up to them, would they forget all this non-relationship talk? Of course.

 

[Dreama]

"I really like guys with tattoos but not for relationships because I'm afraid they'll beat me." - Ex Girlfriend.

some truth in it, but take it with a grain of salt.

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Tattoos-245101.html

 

[Alvafe]

some truth in it, but take it with a grain of salt.

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Tattoos-245101.html

if that is the case then you shouldn't even make this topic, because if woman tells you she only want a FWB you shouldn't take her serious and consider it a ploy to make you pursue her for a LTR or simple she want to have "fun" and ride the carossel

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Social conditioning definitely has something to do with it, and because of this, the problem is that women are sleeping with men too soon. There's no "getting to know you" phase first, there's no natural connection being made. Women will make a two second decision when they meet you on whether or not they're planning on banging you. And when there is a guy that goes the 1950's dating route, he gets lost in the shuffle. She's already banged 2 new guys by the time their third date arrives, so in her eyes, he's seen as a beta chump, therefore he ends up getting flaked on. What he thought was something that was progressing smoothly, is now dead in the water. He doesn't know where it went wrong, so he goes to the latest PUA website and learns things like ASD, LMR, and speed seduction. Next thing you know, he ends up with a bunch of ONS's and FB's, but no real relationships. The world of today.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Emotionally unavailable usually just ended an LTR, dumped or dumpee. They wanna get down to business & f*ck & don't want just jump into another relationship right away. Expiration dates on girls like this vary, can be a quick couple month fling, I think 6-7 months is the longest I've gone.

I think these broads typically understand game better than most, they weed out beta chumps on a weekly basis.

 

[Zarky]

Why is that some girls only want to be friends with benefits?

Please point me to these women :yes:

 

[mrRuckus]

Social conditioning definitely has something to do with it, and because of this, the problem is that women are sleeping with men too soon. There's no "getting to know you" phase first, there's no natural connection being made. Women will make a two second decision when they meet you on whether or not they're planning on banging you.

Sex is the natural connection. The problem is that the connection is weak when she's made that bond with dozens of different guys. I think it has very little to do with how fast, but how many.

 

[Rival]

I really want this to be proven to me.

What evidence can you bring?

even an anecdote from a hot woman is acceptable. (maybe in some female-only forum ?)
like a woman saying "because he was hot and good looking, I got wet, and I really wanted him to take me home and fu ck me"

"he approached me, he was dumb and creepy but I only wanted him for his body..."

Man I had so many ex girlfriends want FWB...even a couple I picked up in class...we started as FWB..then she eventually pushed for A LTR...you keep stringing em alone...They always would ask me...what am I to you? I would say your a really awesome friend who I'm attracted to. Then they would suck me off...LoL.. Usually though all my exes hate me after we break up..so the bad personality/hot does = FWB in a lot of my cases.

 

[Sino Zane]

Well it depends on the vibes that you give off to the woman.

If you're a decent guy with a good personality, have things going for you, relatively attractive, but don't try to immediately get into their pants, their gonna view you as relationship material.

When you're viewed as relationship material by a woman, she cares about your perception of her and can see being with you long-term, so she doesn't wanna mess it up with you by having sex with you too soon due to fear of you thinking that she's too easy and thus not relationship material. So, they take their time with you; they take their time in getting to know you before messing around with you.

Then there are the attractive guys who push for sex as soon as possible. These guys get laid by communicating a sense of understanding the woman, and when you combine this with consistently pushing for sex, you can see why these guys get laid quicker.

I'm about getting laid fast - **** a relationship. Nothing lasts forever anyway, and relationships are no different.

 

[Dreama]

So if looks and being ribbed and muscular matter that much,
Then why they hell the seduction community preach the, looks do not matter so much.

Why are there so many books and DVDs about "sexual attraction" if becoming hot and making girls wet is as simple as hitting the gym and getting a six pack and some tattoos maybe.

 

[In2theGame]

So if looks and being ribbed and muscular matter that much,
Then why they hell the seduction community preach the, looks do not matter so much.

Why are there so many books and DVDs about "sexual attraction" if becoming hot and making girls wet is as simple as hitting the gym and getting a six pack and some tattoos maybe.

Looks definitely matter if your looking for the quick fvck. If your really good looking, you'll actually have a bit of a hard time with relationships in terms of girls trusting you and believing you have loads of girls in the background and shes just one of many.