I will do a long and separate post about the realities of social circle game but in recent years, I have noticed that a lot of pickup guys like RSD with Luke have been pushing social circle game hard onto everyone. On here, I've seen a lot of guys also talk about how cold approach is the devil that will get you arrested and that you have to invest in a social circle. As someone who has been involved with social circle game and done cold approach, just like
@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 has, I wanted to give some real insight into all of this.
Most pickup guys ironically did cold approach wrong to where it became street harassment.
The best example of this is British lunatic Sasha, to anyone watching, please do not be anything like this imbecile. Just watch the first minute, this is how you get banned from campuses and arrested:
The problem is, a lot of pickup guys did "cold approach" this way. What they often did was borderline harass women that wanted to be left alone and overtime, this led to them getting into trouble such as the Toronto mall fiasco (you can read about it). Same with Julien at RSD who went way overboard being vulgar. There is nothing wrong with randomly talking to women during the day but you took a bunch of socially awkward outcasts, told them to be bold, and you got the weird creepy PUA who doesn't understand social norms.
So overtime, pickup got into trouble with articles going after pickup artists and Julien even making it to CNN. Where am I going with this?
Social circle game started being pushed so pickup artists could cover their a$$ and appeal to normies.
Pickup was under such a microscope and in so much trouble that major pickup brands like RSD had to push towards making guys sociable enough. The truth is when you take a videogame shut in and ask him to run game after hyping him up with bold motivational talks, what you end up getting is a spam approaching borderline rapist. So RSD and other major brands started to push "social circle game" and put up those looney videos of trying to connect with people on a social level. It is not because they genuinely believed any of that, it is because they had to cover their behinds, same with other pickup artists being born-again Christians.
Now, the very brands that told men to cold approach and learn game started to shame cold approaching. Little did they know that there is a difference between chatting up women in real life that you do not know versus just being an obstacle that keeps getting in her way like Sasha did in the first minute in the video above.
Finally, cold approach is freaking hard and the game itself is rough if you want to raise your notch count.
Unless you are filthy rich to where you can have models sourced to you or a celeb, the game is tough. Cold approaching, no matter how good you are at it, is a low success rate game. Now this does not mean you should never try it and if you stick with it long enough, you will start to have a regular stream of women come into your life. However, and this could be worth its own thread, most men have no business in the game.
Very few men, less than 5% were meant to sleep with tons of women. Most men who get into cold approaching will burn out within 6 months at max. The rejections pile up, the flakes, and then the exhausting hours spent focusing on getting good. 95% of men will never make it but that is true for ALL game avenues. Cold approach is rough but for the few men that make it, it gets good.
I will not exaggerate when I say this but
cold approach is freaking tough. Yeah, you need to do 100s in order to get a lay and it takes a special kind of guy with a thick skin to not get flustered or defeated by it. Guys have made it work for them and racked up 100s of lays because of it.
However, "social circle game" is not practical for most men after college.
If your goal is to get a lot of lays, social circle game is not even remotely practical for most men. RSD talks about becoming the man in nightlife and as someone who has worked at a nightclub before, believe me, they are bluffing. Nightclubs and nightlife establishments are about money and nothing else.
Ironically, in order to get good at the kind of social circle game RSD preaches, you first need to be reasonably good at cold approaching. You have to be able to bring girls to a club which means you have to convince multiple girls you have good rapport with to come out with you. Most men will not be able to do this unless they have sisters with a lot of friends or if they are dating a girl with a lot of friends, which, unless they are in an open relationship, defeats the purpose of it all. The kind of game RSD and other social circle gurus speak about requires a ton of financial success and a heavy lifestyle investment.
I am talking being out till 5 AM with girls here, something that is not practical for most guys.
Finally, why?
Because everyone wants the easy pill. No one wants to admit that less than 5% of men, if even that, will have a life of constantly sleeping with above average looking women. The game is a freaking grind that no one wants to accept. Except for the very rich with ideal situations set up for them, sleeping with lots of different women is tough. First, you need to do the work to be the best version of yourself and then you need to approach and put yourself out there.
Social circle is sold as an easy quick-fix fantasy. Oh just make friends with the club owner and you are set, if only people knew how impractical the advice was.
