Well, I'll try to get to the point somewhat quick, but bear with me....
To start off, i'm 24 and my gf is 23. We have been dating since last July, and it has been great ever since. We went 9 months without anything to complain about except not seeing one another enough. 2 months ago things got rough, and she just wasn't herself.
Finally after a few days we talked, and then broke up. We broke up for a month, and I tried to help her and us by figuring out what the problem was. In a nutshell, they were things we BOTH needed to do better, and it was things like calling more, being more open (as in telling her I had a good time that night instead of waiting the next day to tell her) Taking her out more then I did, etc. On V-day I took her to the Casino cause neither of us have ever been. Not Vegas, but in CO. We had a nice scenic drive, gambled, then came back and I made her dinner. That night after dinner NOTHING happened. Now sex isn't in the picture for the both of us, but not even a make-out session. Barely even a kiss.
Well, I found out that she was upset about that night cause I didn't take her out, as in out to eat. I just thought something else would be a little nice. Guess not.
Now on top of all of this she was taking 6 classes and just graduated college a few weeks ago. So we decided we would not see one another till after school was out. She was not herself, stressed, and everything in between.
May rolls around, and she decided we would go out again, but take it one step at a time. She told me things I need to do, and vice versa.
So last Wed I took her out to where she wanted to eat, and we saw Shrek2. That whole night was awkward. I was affraid to kiss her, hug her, or even hold her hand. That night I asked her what was wrong, why this is so weird, and why its like we don't even know one another. She didn't say much, so I kept asking what we needed to do to get rid of this awkwardness. Not much on her end, but "I don't know"
I mean almost a year together, and one stupid month screwed things up. No one cheated on anyone, no one abused anyone, it was just a lack of communication on both our parts. Stupid things that can be fixed easily. Oh, you want to go out, great, we'll do it. You think i'm not open enough, sorry, i'll try to do better. What ever the case it was fixable.
Anyway i've made an effort to call 3 or 4 times a week while she is at work, leave her a message, and ask how she is doing. I e-mail her, leave a voice mail poem about how i'm thinking of her, and even wrote he one.
Basically I have been doing EVERYTHING she has asked, and told me that needed to be done.
I've been working very hard at this to try to get us back on track, and now I get nothing from her. Not once has she called me to say hi, or tell me she is thinking about me. Not once have I gotten a nice e-mail, and I didn't even get a thank you last week for dinner and the movie.
What's happening is she is totally going against what she wanted to happen. 50/50. I'm working on what I need to work on, and she is working on nothing but upsetting me.
I told her we need to forget the mudslinging (not much) 2 months ago, put it behind us, work on what we said we would, and then move forward. Instead were moving backwards. And not because of me either. I really don't want to put any more effort into this if she isn't going to appreciate it like she said she would when we broke up.
I haven't even heard from her since a week ago and i'm getting a little upset.
This shouldn't be awkward at all but it is. I even had to ask her if I could hug her last week, and kiss her cause that night was so awkward. She would walk faster then me, she would hold things in her hands, etc. Body language that says stay away almost.
I have no idea what to do, and if we do see one another today or tomorrow, I don't know what else to say. I don't want a brick, I want a person who cares, wants to be with me, calls me, etc. All the things I do back, and all the things she wanted more of.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Maybe help on what I should say when I see her next, or what I should do. I thought last Wed I made myself pretty clear but it doesn't seem that way.
To start off, i'm 24 and my gf is 23. We have been dating since last July, and it has been great ever since. We went 9 months without anything to complain about except not seeing one another enough. 2 months ago things got rough, and she just wasn't herself.
Finally after a few days we talked, and then broke up. We broke up for a month, and I tried to help her and us by figuring out what the problem was. In a nutshell, they were things we BOTH needed to do better, and it was things like calling more, being more open (as in telling her I had a good time that night instead of waiting the next day to tell her) Taking her out more then I did, etc. On V-day I took her to the Casino cause neither of us have ever been. Not Vegas, but in CO. We had a nice scenic drive, gambled, then came back and I made her dinner. That night after dinner NOTHING happened. Now sex isn't in the picture for the both of us, but not even a make-out session. Barely even a kiss.
Well, I found out that she was upset about that night cause I didn't take her out, as in out to eat. I just thought something else would be a little nice. Guess not.
Now on top of all of this she was taking 6 classes and just graduated college a few weeks ago. So we decided we would not see one another till after school was out. She was not herself, stressed, and everything in between.
May rolls around, and she decided we would go out again, but take it one step at a time. She told me things I need to do, and vice versa.
So last Wed I took her out to where she wanted to eat, and we saw Shrek2. That whole night was awkward. I was affraid to kiss her, hug her, or even hold her hand. That night I asked her what was wrong, why this is so weird, and why its like we don't even know one another. She didn't say much, so I kept asking what we needed to do to get rid of this awkwardness. Not much on her end, but "I don't know"
I mean almost a year together, and one stupid month screwed things up. No one cheated on anyone, no one abused anyone, it was just a lack of communication on both our parts. Stupid things that can be fixed easily. Oh, you want to go out, great, we'll do it. You think i'm not open enough, sorry, i'll try to do better. What ever the case it was fixable.
Anyway i've made an effort to call 3 or 4 times a week while she is at work, leave her a message, and ask how she is doing. I e-mail her, leave a voice mail poem about how i'm thinking of her, and even wrote he one.
Basically I have been doing EVERYTHING she has asked, and told me that needed to be done.
I've been working very hard at this to try to get us back on track, and now I get nothing from her. Not once has she called me to say hi, or tell me she is thinking about me. Not once have I gotten a nice e-mail, and I didn't even get a thank you last week for dinner and the movie.
What's happening is she is totally going against what she wanted to happen. 50/50. I'm working on what I need to work on, and she is working on nothing but upsetting me.
I told her we need to forget the mudslinging (not much) 2 months ago, put it behind us, work on what we said we would, and then move forward. Instead were moving backwards. And not because of me either. I really don't want to put any more effort into this if she isn't going to appreciate it like she said she would when we broke up.
I haven't even heard from her since a week ago and i'm getting a little upset.
This shouldn't be awkward at all but it is. I even had to ask her if I could hug her last week, and kiss her cause that night was so awkward. She would walk faster then me, she would hold things in her hands, etc. Body language that says stay away almost.
I have no idea what to do, and if we do see one another today or tomorrow, I don't know what else to say. I don't want a brick, I want a person who cares, wants to be with me, calls me, etc. All the things I do back, and all the things she wanted more of.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Maybe help on what I should say when I see her next, or what I should do. I thought last Wed I made myself pretty clear but it doesn't seem that way.
And not have to worry about what my gf would say if she found out. lol.