PUA guru Tyler Durden: "The average guy not only lacks the skills that are necessary to become with good with women. He lacks the skills to do anything productive with his life." (link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWoAvqhODJs&feature=player_embedded
We are a society that thrives on instant gratification. Everything that is wrong in our lives, we want fixed NOW. We want a "magic pill" for everything.
This is one of the single greatest downfalls of my generation. Kids play video games for hours a day. Shoot, kill, get a high score, and your self-esteem goes up within a 10-minute period. Rinse, recycle, repeat. Once you get bored of that, go on your computer. Watch porn, jerk off, finish, and your sexual gratification is increased within a 10-minute period. Rinse, recycle, repeat. The average teenager today, so I have heard (in a TED talk by therapist Philip Zombardo), watches 50 porn clips a week.
No wonder there are so many socially-clueless, kissless virgins and shut-ins all across the Western world. The patience and persistence to change breeds success, but this is impossible for most people because a temporary, quick-fix solution is available in some form or another.
I will admit, I fall under this category. I give up easily, lose attention quickly, and rarely finish anything I start. I want to get good with girls, but am afraid to approach, afraid to talk to them. I am shy, introverted, neurotic, plagued by anxiety and self-limiting beliefs. I will do more to avoid pain then gain pleasure. I'd rather permanently stay in my shell then practice my social skills over and over. If I get one or two rejections and feel really bad about it, my momentum will be completely cut off and I'll drift back into my old, self-defeating ways. This is ultimately my Achilles heel.
So members of Sosuave, how can patience, persistence, and self-discipline be developed? Is this a socially-pervasive problem of my generation (~say, born 1985 and later)? Have these qualities been set in stone throughout our childhood? To what extent can we really work towards changing?
How can an individual learn not to give up easily? It is one thing to tell someone "Never give up. Try, try again", but it is another thing to actually intrinsically develop the ability to do so.
We are a society that thrives on instant gratification. Everything that is wrong in our lives, we want fixed NOW. We want a "magic pill" for everything.
This is one of the single greatest downfalls of my generation. Kids play video games for hours a day. Shoot, kill, get a high score, and your self-esteem goes up within a 10-minute period. Rinse, recycle, repeat. Once you get bored of that, go on your computer. Watch porn, jerk off, finish, and your sexual gratification is increased within a 10-minute period. Rinse, recycle, repeat. The average teenager today, so I have heard (in a TED talk by therapist Philip Zombardo), watches 50 porn clips a week.
No wonder there are so many socially-clueless, kissless virgins and shut-ins all across the Western world. The patience and persistence to change breeds success, but this is impossible for most people because a temporary, quick-fix solution is available in some form or another.
I will admit, I fall under this category. I give up easily, lose attention quickly, and rarely finish anything I start. I want to get good with girls, but am afraid to approach, afraid to talk to them. I am shy, introverted, neurotic, plagued by anxiety and self-limiting beliefs. I will do more to avoid pain then gain pleasure. I'd rather permanently stay in my shell then practice my social skills over and over. If I get one or two rejections and feel really bad about it, my momentum will be completely cut off and I'll drift back into my old, self-defeating ways. This is ultimately my Achilles heel.
So members of Sosuave, how can patience, persistence, and self-discipline be developed? Is this a socially-pervasive problem of my generation (~say, born 1985 and later)? Have these qualities been set in stone throughout our childhood? To what extent can we really work towards changing?
How can an individual learn not to give up easily? It is one thing to tell someone "Never give up. Try, try again", but it is another thing to actually intrinsically develop the ability to do so.