Why Men Will Ignore Red Flags and What You Can Do to Stop

[logicallefty]

The entitlement is real. What did you do? Agree & Amplify?

Last time I said “It has never served me well to rush into commitment that fast but otherwise I would like to see you again”. She said “ok” but then got really clingy so i cut her loose. Women i date now is not that way at all.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

I think a man needs to experience a crazy or BPD atleast once in his life.. That experience will definitely wake him up and force him to make wiser future decisions on women

Yes I agree with this. Don’t completely write them off because they’re exciting and real people too. Like there is a person behind all this mental illness and you should connect.

 

[Divorced w 3]

This thread should point towards Anti-Dumps machine. Women say and do all sorts of stuff, action is all that matters.

 

[Hal9000]

It can easily become an addiction. It's best to enjoy her for a short time, then make a quick exit.

Also, so many men equate the hotness of their women as a big part of their validation as a successful man, similar to how they might view their car or house. It's admittedly a somewhat intoxicating feeling to have a girl on your arm that turns heads everywhere because it makes you feel like you're the man. That's great until she's making your life miserable and you are faced making the decision to give all of that up and starting over so too many guys swallow their pride and put up with it for way longer than they would if she wasn't hot.

 

[Hal9000]

I think a man needs to experience a crazy or BPD atleast once in his life.. That experience will definitely wake him up and force him to make wiser future decisions on women

Totally agree. And hot crazy women can be a lot of fun as long as they don't know too much about you and you're just looking for hot crazy girl sex, which is some of the best for sure. Lol

 

[soulforge]

Also, so many men equate the hotness of their women as a big part of their validation as a successful man, similar to how they might view their car or house. It's admittedly a somewhat intoxicating feeling to have a girl on your arm that turns heads everywhere because it makes you feel like you're the man. That's great until she's making your life miserable and you are faced making the decision to give all of that up and starting over so too many guys swallow their pride and put up with it for way longer than they would if she wasn't hot.

This is a great point. Guilty of that myself. A 47 year old man with a 24 year old hot girlfriend. Some dudes would chop off a limb for that kinda validation.

Nothing wrong with having a young girlfriend, you just gotta make sure bich isn't crazy lol

 

[SW15]

Men ignore red flags due to thirst for the pussie.

Lately I have noticed that many women are ready to be exclusive after as little as one date. Of course I would never do that after one or even several dates, but it seems like they want to “Lock a man in” at feverish speeds now. One woman i was talking to even said “If we hit it off after we meet, we are only going to date each other. I don’t share”. wtf!!

Yes have experienced this. I have also found the ones that try to lock you down immediately or begin talking about serious commitment immediately, generally turn out to be the crazy ones.

I haven't seen this. Perhaps I'm interacting with saner women.

 

[soulforge]

Men ignore red flags due to thirst for the pussie.





I haven't seen this. Perhaps I'm interacting with saner women.

You more likely are.

The ones who are trying to lock down dudes ASAP are more likely to have been pumped and Dumped, passed from pillar to post.

Dude might turn out to be a serial killer, she will try lock down Ted Bundy within 3 weeks lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

I might be in the minority here, but I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. Follow through the motions of a relationship, which is what gravitates women toward me. From there, I’m smart enough to know when to cut bait.

If you play games early on, you set the stage for her to do the same. What has worked best for me is to move forward as if I’m already planning a relationship with her. If she does something that’s not acceptable, I withdraw attention and have them figure out why the sudden change in affection. I’m more EQ and SQ than IQ so I think I’m able to pick up the nuances when dealing with women and their emotions.

I like the approach. I think however you have to be a bit coy upfront but you simply don’t ever admit about being coy. Where I have been burned is obviously letting the cat out of the bag related to any strategic decisions made in the dating process.

If you boil it down to forcing action over verbiage, which means creating situations which require a committed response on her side, you can always have the feedback you need to determine her intentions.

Then from there, as you said, reward her with your time and energy, reduce or remove the same if unwarranted. I have tried before to use logic and I will tell you speaking for myself, the only two things that ever worked are what I said above, either giving my time or taking it away, it’s the only language they understand.

Put a girl in the penalty box so to speak (go no contact) for 48 hours that’s really into you and you’ll watch her start moving mountains to make it right.

 

[soulforge]

I like the approach. I think however you have to be a bit coy upfront but you simply don’t ever admit about being coy. Where I have been burned is obviously letting the cat out of the bag related to any strategic decisions made in the dating process.

If you boil it down to forcing action over verbiage, which means creating situations which require a committed response on her side, you can always have the feedback you need to determine her intentions.

Then from there, as you said, reward her with your time and energy, reduce or remove the same if unwarranted. I have tried before to use logic and I will tell you speaking for myself, the only two things that ever worked are what I said above, either giving my time or taking it away, it’s the only language they understand.

Put a girl in the penalty box so to speak (go no contact) for 48 hours that’s really into you and you’ll watch her start moving mountains to make it right.

I actually tried this. Removed attention, literaly ghosted her for bad behaviour, she went crazy and turned up at my damn door, demanding to talk.

Anyway like you said, she definitely corrected her behaviour, for a while, then went back to acting crazy lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

I actually tried this. Removed attention, literaly ghosted her for bad behaviour, she went crazy and turned up at my damn door, demanding to talk.

Anyway like you said, she definitely corrected her behaviour, for a while, then went back to acting crazy lol

Cops have a nice and simple process: ask, tell, get. Ours is ask, tell, take away. I don’t like to play Kreskin, not something that worked well for me.

Really what the best way to look at it is just saying and doing what’s best for us. Simpe right? If being in a mutually considerate relationship is what’s best for you then do it. If it isn’t then do that. Lol.

The only reason I see it differently is because I am in sales and I enjoy it broken down. All sales is anyway is applied psychology.