Why looks is so far down the list of attraction

[Jay kay]

"Lets face it"... alot of guys who have confidence issues concerning there physical appearance. Your self-esteem might have taking a hammering way back when your were a kid, a teenager and possibly continue on in your adult life. If you really want to improve your overall apprearance you could join a gym, change your style of clothes and that should boost your confidence if you not happy with your physical appearance. But in my opinion even guys who women consider good looking still have a hard time believing it themselves.

You don't even have to change your appearance at all, you have probably noticed lots of guys who are just plain average or ugly as sin and yet they can still attract beautiful girls. These are the guys who don't give a ****, they are comfortable with themselves and because of that girls want to spend time with them.

For years i use to ask myself, what the **** is that ugly guy doing with a hot babe like her. It use to piss me off so much seeing guys that are so ugly, dressed in rags get HB'9 and 10's. But once you realise that its not about looks as you already mentioned, you will feel alot more confortable and confident about yourself.

If your self-consious about your appearance, girls can easily detect your insecurities alot faster than a guy can. So get over it. Ok look at it this way..."why do attractive girls spend so much of their waking hours, fine-dining themselves? .....Because they want to look attractive to people. Attractive women are alot more insecure than men because they put so much time and effect into their appearance to look sexy for us.

They are validation junkies...ha ha. To me attractiveness is a state of mind. For example take a look at David X he is a fat old man in his 50's and he has a relentless and carefree attitude that gets him almost any girl of his choosing. Go to youtube and type in david x montreal seminar and watch his videos. It will teach you alot that even Mystery or Tyler don't cover in their seminars. Another good example would be Sean Stevenson who has dated several beautiful women and he is only 4 feet tall and is in a wheelchair.

You should always remind yourself of how handsome you are, and that your getting better looking each day. You might not believe it the first time you tell yourself, but if you keep it up your mind will eventually accept it as truth and you will subconciously start beleiving it.


All the best,

Jay

 

[mikel]

Good post in a few ways but, I think your looks actually carry alot more weight than you think. While I know that women are attracted to different things than guys(obviously) how many women would you consider dating, if they were butt ugly? I mean, they could be funny as hell and good people. But you would never find out because she was ugly and you didn't care to find out.

Physically Attraction has alot to do with it but not everything, and almost any guy can make himself more attractive in some ways.


GL

 

[Obey Propaganda]

Agreed.

Stubble + Good Looks = Rockin' the Panties Clean Off.

"We're going doooown, in a spiral to the groooound!"

 

[DonGorgon]

For young hot women 18 to 22.. looks tend to be the number 1 mandatory attraction factor especially when it comes to instant hook up and quick FU(KS.. older women tend to start wanting money ... really old women dont care cause demand for them is very low..

 

[Captain]

Especially in high school, looks and a good body are very important. If I went to the beach for a few hours, I would get a dozen or so girls waving to me and smiling. Of course, back then I didn't know how to approach, so nothing ever really came from it, unless they approached me (which some of them did.)

For younger women looking for hookups and ones partying at clubs, looks are very important again. If you look good, approach them, and don't make any huge mistakes, you can get with them that night.

For all other situations, good looks will just get your foot in the door. A woman is more receptive to a good looking man approaching her than she is to a not-so-attractive man approaching her. She may see you, like what she sees - then you've already got a little bit of attraction without even meeting her.

 

[edger]

older women tend to start wanting money

You mean they start wh*ring(prostituting) themselves out.

 

[edger]

I agree, looks don't matter to most attractive women, as far as what I've been able to observe. I also agree, in high school, looks matter to them, but once they're out of high school, the whole dynamic changes.


It's very difficult to uncondition ourselves that looks don't matter to most attractive women, because our whole lives we were taught that they do matter.

 

[jocca]

True to a point but being good looking will never, ever be a hinderence to you in attracting women, especially in clubs/ parties and at the very least gets your foot in the door, thus all thing being equal the better looking guy will always win out.

keeping the attraction over time (for a LTR) is more based on your game and confidence imo. Atleast thats what I've found in my experiences.

 

[Sir_Turtle]

Psychology test prove that looks actually do matter just as much as men in practice. While women will claim that looks are unimportant more often than men their pattern on behavior on blind dates does not support this. When 700 some college freshmen were paired up at random by far the highest variable that could determine attraction was looks.

Tests report that looks begin to matter less as the relationship continues. But you simply can't escape the fact that looks will help you get in the door, and if you don't have looks you need a unique and entertaining personality to make up for it.

 

[jocca]

Above was exactly what I was trying to say but better written, cheers