Why is she ignoring me after ons/first hook up

[TheGambino]

I look sharp, but still a belly and fat on my chest, I feel fit though and got my confidence and skills on point.

Approached her yesterday at the club, whispered funny stuff in her ear and told her that she smelled great. Had small talk about nonsense in the club and let it at that point, went back on enjoying, drinking and talking to other ladies.

I see her later in a local pizza house around the corner. She is not drunk, had only 1 or 2 drinks and totally on earth. Approach her again for small talk, tell her that her eyes look amazing, that she is beautiful and invite her to my place. She agrees after thinking a bit and shares her pizza with me.

I drop my friend of at his house and take her to my crib. We start making out after a minute or 5, I f8ck her roughly. She is only 19 years old and not super experienced. She tells me, I look experienced.

I choke her neck, **** her hard and quick. I make her cvm a couple of times with my fingers and f8cking. And she enjoys it super hard, making noises and cvmming. I make her deepthroat me, basically kind of hardcore for the first time....

After that we cuddle and she asks me about my most romantic experience. I tell her about a moroccan girl that I met on vacation, did a road trip with her, and her mom yelled at me, a whole story. Told her that I dont feel anything for her anymore since its years ago.

The only thing about that, she could think, ''oh thegambino still feels affection towards her, its going to be hard to beat that'' or so.

Anyway I make her open up to me too and she tells a lot of stuff about herself and we have a great convo.

Then she tells me to take her home, (after cex). I tell her that i want to see her again and she assures me that it will happen.

I text her ''hey sweet dreams baby, thanks *thegambino" She reads it in the morning, no answer.

I call her at the end of the day after work an hour ago. (we had cex yesterday night/morning) and she doesnt pick up.

Whats going on? What went wrong? Am I overthinking to quick ?

*In the car back to her house to drop her off
Thegamb: what do you like in a man?
Her: uhmmmm, tall, long hair, great shape

I am short, almost bald atm and kind of out of shape since i dont workout like I used too...

Just saying..

 

[spred]

Maybe she did not like the rough sex outside that ocassion.

 

[Dingo]

Sometimes women just want the ONS for their own reasons (already in a relationship but not ready to end it, they have no interest in beginning any kind of relationship, etc).

Sometimes women appease to avoid situations. Sometimes they might agree to see you again just so they can avoid the talk were she admits she is just interested in a ONS and never wants to see you again.

Usually if you're good with women and they do something that makes no sense, it is because they are diverting your attention away from something else. Many times you may never know what that something else is.

Bottom line, you made your move, you invited her out, you did your job. If she doesn't respond, there is little you can do but shrug it off and move on to the next.

This...

Maybe she did not like the rough sex outside that ocassion.

You gotta romance them and work up before you start choking... lol

 

[marmel75]

Sometimes they are just in the mood to get rocked. You might not be her type but you were good enough to fill her needs at the time.

I would have let hwr come to me, if you rocked her world like you said you did she would definitely be in contact

 

[TheGambino]

Sometimes they are just in the mood to get rocked. You might not be her type but you were good enough to fill her needs at the time.

I would have let hwr come to me, if you rocked her world like you said you did she would definitely be in contact

I rocked her world but maybe she felt super slvtty afterwards

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Baby ****, bad sex, ex bf called, and or bigger better prize.

Next.

 

[Von]

I rocked her world but maybe she felt super slvtty afterwards

Only a woman know if you rocked her world.

Even if you did rock it, you could just have been a momentary pleasure.

You need to NEXT and Spin...

Remember SS teaching: there is no sense in trying to find logic behind a woman action.

It's pointless to "wonder" it just "happened" so accept and move on. Be a Man

 

[TheGambino]

I guess... still not sure about the whole situation..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I guess... still not sure about the whole situation..

Probably a one nighter.

 

[sazc]

She won't call you back because:

"after that we cuddle and she asks me about my most romantic experience"

You fvcked her hard, you did you. You didn't give a sh1t about what she wanted, you just took what you wanted.

WHY would she be interested in hooking up with a selfish a$$hole again?

Just because (you think) she came a bunch of times doesn't mean she wants to get manhandled by a stranger again.

 

[Glassguy]

tell her that her eyes look amazing, that she is beautiful

Why would you give her such compliments so early on?

After that we cuddle and she asks me about my most romantic experience. I tell her about a moroccan girl that I met on vacation, did a road trip with her, and her mom yelled at me, a whole story. Told her that I dont feel anything for her anymore since its years ago.

Why would you have such in depth "romantic" convos after you just pulled her to your house and smashed her?

Anyway I make her open up to me too and she tells a lot of stuff about herself and we have a great convo.

You make her open up to you? Why? Do you want to be her therapist or the guy she calls at midnight when she wants to smash after being out with her gf's for a few drinks?

I text her ''hey sweet dreams baby, thanks *thegambino" She reads it in the morning, no answer.

Sweet dreams baby? Thanks for what?

I call her at the end of the day after work an hour ago. (we had cex yesterday night/morning) and she doesnt pick up.

You are being very clingy and coming across as a relationship hunter. If this chick just got out of a long relationship, do you think she is really looking for another relationship right now? She just wants to have fun. These romantic talks, sweet texts, etc are scaring her off because she feels that you are going to be pushing for something serious in the near future if she keeps talking to you.

Best thing to do is back off and let her come back around if you havent ran her off already. If she contacts you, keep it upbeat and fun and do not keep making these mistakes.

 

[17 shots]

You're over thinking... give her some space and spin plates

 

[flowtheory]

Don’t talk about other romantic experiences with a different women than the one who is laying next to you!
If she asked “what’s been your most romantic experience?” You explain the story about how you and her met then had rough sex. Paint your and her story vividly. Make her feel excitement for your connection.

No need to text her after all that. That’s her job. You came off a bit clingy afterwards.

Don’t ask her her type of guy. You make yourself her type. All women dream in ideals. Step out of HER fantasy.
Because by her describing what she likes; you learned it’s not you, which will only bother you subconsciously.

Give space. Could have messaged her the next day “last night was fire” leave it there, then let her do her part.

Take the woman off the pedestal. Because she’s up there right now.

How to get over this? Go get some more numbers and change your thoughts around this current one so you don’t run on the hamster wheel with a scarcity mindset which you are currently living in.

And...
“This to shall pass”
She won’t matter in 5 years, so don’t give it more than 5 minutes of your valuable time and attention.


At the end of it all.. she’s 18 and probably just wanted to experience a ONS and you were a good option.

You succeeded. You did a lot right. And there’s some things you need to learn. Keeping growing

 

[Roober]

Sometimes women just want the ONS for their own reasons (already in a relationship but not ready to end it, they have no interest in beginning any kind of relationship, etc).

Sometimes women appease to avoid situations. Sometimes they might agree to see you again just so they can avoid the talk were she admits she is just interested in a ONS and never wants to see you again.

Usually if you're good with women and they do something that makes no sense, it is because they are diverting your attention away from something else. Many times you may never know what that something else is.

Bottom line, you made your move, you invited her out, you did your job. If she doesn't respond, there is little you can do but shrug it off and move on to the next.

Was talking with a woman about this lately. She basically said what you described. Women will tell lies or do anything to get out of a precarious situation. The lady is was talking with is 100 lbs 5'4 and she basically said, "look at you roober. Your about 6'1 200 lbs. If you wanted to , you could do anything you want to me if we got stuck alone." Says that she (and likely all women) have to play the game.

Things such as...
"I'm on the rag"
"Let's hook up tomorrow"

This is what confuses dudes. They hear the words then wonder wtf happened. What they failed to realize is that, that woman didn't feel safe and had to do whatever she could to get herself to safety.

It makes a lot of sense why men get so confused and why women would lie. And it likely spawns stories like this one. Imagine someone held a gun to your head, your going to do whatever you have to do or say to get out of that situation...

So to the OP. Whatever you thought you did right was possibly completely wrong. If you had done it right, you wouldn't have made a thread wondering why she wont respond

 

[marmel75]

She won't call you back because:

"after that we cuddle and she asks me about my most romantic experience"

You fvcked her hard, you did you. You didn't give a sh1t about what she wanted, you just took what you wanted.

WHY would she be interested in hooking up with a selfish a$$hole again?

Just because (you think) she came a bunch of times doesn't mean she wants to get manhandled by a stranger again.

I disagree with this. Most women LIKE getting manhandled the first time. There is no real emotional connection they just want to get fvcked hard. The whole "make love to me" thing doesn't normally kick in until the 4th or 5th time where you have to alternate back and forth between the two styles.

Most women like when men are aggresive...pulling hair, spanking their ass hard and "taking" what they want. It's a huge turn on for most of them. Why do women have "rape fantasies" otherwise or enjoy being tied up and forced to do whatever the guy wants to?

Bottom line is they like being dominated, its in their nature.

 

[TheGambino]

I disagree with this. Most women LIKE getting manhandled the first time. There is no real emotional connection they just want to get fvcked hard. The whole "make love to me" thing doesn't normally kick in until the 4th or 5th time where you have to alternate back and forth between the two styles.

Most women like when men are aggresive...pulling hair, spanking their ass hard and "taking" what they want. It's a huge turn on for most of them. Why do women have "rape fantasies" otherwise or enjoy being tied up and forced to do whatever the guy wants to?

Bottom line is they like being dominated, its in their nature.

I enjoy it myself, getting a boner at work atm while reading this and thinking about friday lmao.

And yes its the way to go marmel, women love it.

 

[Glassguy]

On a side note, the realtor has kept in contact but I haven't pursued. She stopped by my business to pick up a window that she ordered for a flip house that came in. She was really decked out as she had a couple of showings this afternoon. When she was here I had 4 or 5 other customers in the office, so I carried the window unit out for her and she told me that she was sorry about my dad and gave me a big hug. For a second I thought she was going to move in for a kiss lol.

As soon as I walked back into the office I noticed that she had left her credit card on my desk, so I ran it back out to her. As soon as I opened the door of her suv her face lit up and she said "did you miss me already" and I handed her the credit card.

3 minutes after she left she texted me "You should have waited until your customers all left and then told me about leaving my credit card there so I would have to come back and get more of those great hugs".

So I told her to swing back by after her first appointment. Her response was "I will be there, should be about 45 minutes from now. I will hurry!"

So we will see. Definitely a different story line than what I shared with you earlier this morning. I feel like I just need to mourn the death of my dad for who he was, not play the what if game of why he allowed himself to separate from me, my sister and my daughter these last 2+ years and accept it and move on.

 

[TheGambino]

Okay, Should i try 1 text like: hey whatsup? Today or Tomorrow.. no respond = next..

I added her on Snapchat saturday and she added me back though

 

[Von]

Okay, Should i try 1 text like: hey whatsup? Today or Tomorrow.. no respond = next..

I added her on Snapchat saturday and she added me back though

You back at the AFC mode...

Why would you do that?

Why would her accepting Snapchat have any value ? She can just accept and ignore you.... or be none-responsive.

You are heading back in the needy/afc mode.

Go back to Basis, reread the DJBible.

Kill your need of validation with work on yourself and finding new love interest

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

First I agree with the others that you seem far too concerned about whether she hits you up again or not. Girls show their intent with actions, not words - her saying she wants to see you again means nothing. She might have been saying it to get out of rejecting you or an uncomfortable situation.

Secondly, you made the whole thing about sex - and pretty extreme sex at that. Nothing wrong with that, but at the same time you can't expect her to want some sort of fulfilling relationship when your entire relationship with her thus far has been about casual rough sex.

Imagine you f*cked a girl on the first date...is she going to want an LTR with you? Probably not.