Real deal
Online dating should be used as a tool to supplement the women you meet in real life
I have used online dating and also approached women IRL. I think online dating if you know how to present yourself or are good looking you will clean up very well. I have a few good looking buddies who do very well. But what if you're not that good looking? or slightly overweight such as myself? I think it's been established here and even guys like Espi and Buk would agree that whether your out of shape gaming IRL or online will be hard. If you're 40 and under you should be doing approaches and then supplement online dating.
Big Nuts said:
Online dating is for attractive men. You must be a 7+...anything lower and it's war pigs or nothing! If you're short, you're also at a disadvantage, women are just as judgmental as men. Just hunt shorter women.
Statistically, the average woman online is 1.5 inches taller than the general female population, and the men are 1.5 inches shorter than general male pop.....so it's a wild goose chase for tall women and short men....hence, the difficulty for both groups.
I don't think height matters as much as people on here try to make it seem. On my profiles I would list myself as 6'2 (I'm really 5'11 1/2) and while some women have commented how "tall" I am in person I don't think it has been the it factor, women can't tell the difference
AAAgent said:
I agree with OP but there are outliers. The concept of online dating is great. It's meant to be used for people who are too busy to meet men and women outside of their responsibilities. For busy women, online dating makes sense as they get to meet other busy guys (theoretically). In reality, busy men don't need online dating. Busy men are successful men and are either in high demand or soon to be. They will have women flock to them and find them. THese men have reputations in their social circle and word usually gets around. If you were rich or had a nice car in highschool or college, word would spread around fast until you had mad bitties coming back to talk to you asking for a ride or trying to get closer to you so you would buy them something. Busy women on the other hand are usually unattractive and automatically unappealing to men (not to mention intelligence, pay, and many other factos that make busy women unattractive).
The people who really use online dating are women who are sick and tired of leaving the dating game in mans power and wait for the right man to approach them. They take it into their own hands and pick and choose who they want. It's dating paradise for them except what they don't know is that they're basically picking the leftover trash (no offense guys who use online dating) of the quality men pool. Alpha's go and get what they want, while betas get the leftovers and fight over the scraps.
The men who use online dating are not the ones who are too busy, you're lying to yourself if you say that. If your busy enough to do online dating i'm sure you can spend a few minutes of your day to introduce yourself to a girl you find attractive and get a conversation going, then ask for her number or even insta-date. The guys who use online dating are the ones who are too scared to approach girls in real life, afraid of rejection, too lazy, etc. Online dating is the easy way out for them without having to face the hard rejection of being ignored cold in person, given dirty looks, and all the other harsh realities men go through in order to develop into being men (going after what they want). These are the guys that want to get laid without working for it and ultimately they don't develop the necessary skills like social conversation skills, time management skills, diffusion, etc. They guys want their cake and eat it too, similar to feminist who want men to be men but do everything they can to remove them from power.
If i was a woman, i would not use online dating. I have a girl friend who uses it all the time trying to find the guy of her dreams, and she just won't listen when i tell her she's searching for alpha's when there aren't any to be found in online dating.
Golden Post
I had a few people comment on why I resort to online dating. The truth is I want easy ass. I'm lazy. I will say though that my most frustrating and bizarre experiences with dating has been with women whom I met thru online dating. The truth is most of these bizarre situations happened with dealing with bottom shelf/trashy women that I had no business dealing with, nor that I would approach IRL. I have women turn me down online or diss me, who would gladly give me a rimjob in the middle of a bar had I approached them in person. I don't live in a big town and I use to go out a lot. I noticed most of the women in my area who resorted to online dating where
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The undesirables--Overweight, single moms, homely looking women etc. These chicks would go out with their girlfriends and they would be the weakest link. Men would not pay attention to them. But online it's different that girl who was not noticed at a bar on POF/OK Cupid she is a 10. While online has skewed these women sense of worth deep down they know the men are not top tier men
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Bottom Shelf women-- women who have burned up their social circles, are socially awkward, STD's (very common especially herpes) etc, the only way you would know of course is by dealing with them.
Also I use to go out with a guy, the guy was great at online dating. He would get numbers, date's, and even fucc buddies/hot girlfriends thru online dating. The guy though wasn't a KJ and also loved approaching, but when the guy got rejected a few times IRL he would literally not go out for months upon months but he would do online dating. I have no problem with guys having a niche but it irked me how the guy would let rejection sting him so hard that he would have to take 6 months of from meeting women. I think a lot of guys on sosuave who use online dating don't approach women in real life, and it's very evident by the posts especially the last 3 years here. If you have problems talking or dealing with women IRL you will be able to hide it for a bit online but eventually that will come out. If you're under 40 you should be doing approaches and use online to supplement your game
p.s. There are "Alphas" online these guys are in the top 20% banging Multiple
NEW chicks (yes multiple) chicks weekly, going on dates daily, getting 10+ messages a day, having women pay for them or fly them out etc.
These guys are rare but they exist