alphaace said:ok pete101, your getting a little out of hand, i suggest you check yourself in somewhere and stay a while.
Dont you mean Drift King?
alphaace said:ok pete101, your getting a little out of hand, i suggest you check yourself in somewhere and stay a while.
If she cancels or flakes or pulls some silly stunt to not meet up, is NC'ing at that point too late?Eternal87 said:This is SchoolBoy responding, due to maximum posts allowed.
It won't work because NOTHING you do will increase interest. I can't give you a scenario simply because I can't fortune tell or read the future. But what I can say is, whatever you have planned whether it be to beg, plea, make her feel like old times, make her feel like you DESERVE her, act ****y/funny etc... Whatever it is, it's not going to work because she's not interested. When a woman is attracted to a guy and has high IL, everything he does it attractive and cool. But when a woman has low IL or is unattracted, everything you do is lame and unattractive.
It will make it worse because by seeing her at all on Thursday, you're showing neediness and desperation. Whether you show it or not on the actual day. It's already implied when you begged her to see you. I know you feel like you need closure, but you need to learn some self control.
She made it clear to you that she's not interested. The fact that you keep clinging around her like a puppy dog is not only disrespectful to her decision but disrespectful to YOURSELF. You don't need to get her back, she will come back if she wants to.
The problem with people who have oneitis is that they feel as though they need to CONTROL the situation and the woman. This is due to fear, when people fear, they feel the need to control. And your actions are very controlling trying to sway her decision to be with you. Just let it go and let her have some time to think. She may even miss you within that time. But you need to stop the neediness and clingyness.
You getting mad at her was enough for her to wanna leave. It was your way of trying to control the situation and her behavior. she obviously doesn't like it. And you think another controlling act will change her opinion about you?
Quit trying to control the situation and learn to control yourself. Once you understand that, you'll be on your way.
Is NC the only way for her to get rid of those bad feelings and think more/less emotionally about it?DonGorgon said:Simple... cause its easier for her to cross you out emotionally if she only focuses on the negative memories of you.. e.i. you become "the evil EX" that she is glad she is not with anymore.. women create their own realities based to convenience..
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Remembering the good times does nothing for a girl's IL. In fact you only draw attention to the bad things in contrast by doing this. Even if you could force feed her nothing but fond memories for a month it wont do a thing for a girl who's put you behind her. Accept this my friend.Confused said:Will she ever focus on the GOOD times?
What I meant was with No Contact etc, will she miss you and remember the good times you had?Rollo Tomassi said:Remembering the good times does nothing for a girl's IL. In fact you only draw attention to the bad things in contrast by doing this. Even if you could force feed her nothing but fond memories for a month it wont do a thing for a girl who's put you behind her. Accept this my friend.
Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never what you thought it was.