Re:
Believing is Seeing.
Remember this...
Whatever you believe, materializes.
Over the weekend, my gf and I were having a spat. In the past, we were very up and down. I would be quick to show her where the door was, and she would be quick to drop everything, or be a bit upset and then we'd work things out. But her never-ending question was..."How do we stop this?" (Referring to some certain disagreements...) The obvious questions is, YOU JUST DO WHAT IT IS YOU WANT. You just stop doing it. There isn't a SPECIFIC, logical strategy that gets you from POINT A to POINT B. It just stops if you WANT it to. Thing is, most people don't want "that" thing to stop, they want it to "change." Or the person to change...
That's what guys today want in society...the change. To blame problems elsewhere. The real ANALOGY to use is like...all the men are Out To Lunch, and the Women are at home partying it up, acting how they want to act, getting away with whatever they want, BECAUSE MEN ATTRACT AND ALLOW THE EXACT REALITY THEY LIVE IN.
Whenever I was in a bunch of arguements with women it was for the following reasons...
1) Normally it was stupid. Almost ALL disagreements are dumb. Rarely do you do anything INTENTIONAL to hurt someone close to you. You wouldn't do it to a friend. You wouldn't do it to family. So why would you do it to a girl? Right, you wouldn't. I explain this point first to her. It wasn't that I tried to hurt or disagree or confuse her, rather, SHE MISINTERPRETED the situation, OR, HER EXPECTATIONS were off base and not properly communicated to me.
2) If this UPSET is not confronted like the demon it is, it will fester in your past and it will scar your future. An injury or hurt or pain like that, which either you or your friend/partner DO NOT confront and foregive, will change your perception of that person, thereby changing the future perceptions and the outcome will then flow INLINE with exactly what you think. If your perception is now one of hurt, instead of love (pure, true love - i.e. the source of what we are), then you will bring about the circumstances you hold in your mind and heart. No 2 ways about it. You will ATTRACT that.
3) Each new day is a new moment. Each moment is unique. If you aren't CREATING new, exhilirating moments, then you are creating boring, unmemorable moments that will pave a life/relationship of mediocrity, or worse pain and upset. This is uniform for all people, regardless of sex. So don't let women cop out because they "are different." The fundamentals of humans are not that different.
---------------------
Why are things like what you perceive them to be? BECAUSE THAT is how you PERCEIVE THEM TO be?
Do you honestly believe a man who surrounds himself with many women will care of what circumstances you guys think about, bring about, create, or attract?
No!
Anytime a woman says to me..."If you do X, or Y, or Z to any other girl she'd dump you..." I consciously explain..."I do not care, I wouldn't date a girl of that type, or I'd be glad she was gone anyways, I wouldn't want a girl of that type."
Men, YOUR LAW, YOUR VALUES, YOUR VIRTUES, are UNIFORM, UNIVERSAL, SOLID, GOLD, LAW. Word is bond.
Men, you are ALLOWING and attracting EXACTLY what you believe/think, therefore IT reinforces itself. It compounds. You get more of it. No 2 ways about it.
It isn't that this is how it has to be should be, evolved this, or anything else. It's how you think it is. If ENOUGH guys thought ONE way, then things would appear one way. And if enough guys thought another way, it would appear another, different way, depending on what you think.
---------------------------
It's about what's right. What you want. And generating and living by what you believe and dying by what you believe. And you only die physically.
If anything, MEN are too easy to turn over. Too indulgent. Too easily seduced. Too easily coaxed. All skills native to women, that you can't compete on.
Case-in-point, my recently divorced MILF aunt was approached by a sleeze bag guy from her recent past wanting to date her. Their friendship never truly blossomed because as she was getting divorced, he was busy knocking up some sloot with kids with 3 different men, him being the 3rd. Obviously I being the protective, eldest nephew stepped in. The flags should have been obvious TO her, but weren't as a recent divorcee with 4 kids. They were...
-He banged a woman, stupidly, who had kids with other, different men.
-They weren't getting along.
-This guy is hyper-possessive and always worries that my aunt has my X-uncle over.
-He pushes to hard for the relationship.
She wants to be NICE about letting him down, but their relationship is almost strictly confined to the phone, and the occasional run-in in town. I told her...
"You can't offer objections on HIS playing field. Tell him you're done. You don't want a relationship. Please don't call. Lose my number. I'm not interested in you in that way. Pure, straight, strict rejection is the only way."
Same way with women, guys...their questions, their actions, their looks, their feelings are not-so cleverly disguised ways to feel you out, to motivate and manipulate you. However, guys today THINK they have to do what OTHER people want like some emotional slave. And that if they don't, they're a bad guy. SO WHAT! Be the bad guy! Bad is only a PERCEPTION. It's perception from the vantage point of the party you wronged. It's not even a chink in your armour.
STOP ATTRACTING A REALITY YOU DO NOT WANT. For every relationship you think does exist poorly, a great one opposite that exists, too. SO GO BELIEVE, CREATE, ATTRACT, ALLOW, AND FIND IT!
------------------------
You often wonder why is the news this way...The news is this way because if it can get enough people to BELIEVE "this is the way the world is," enough people will bring it into existence to make it so. And believing and attraction preceed ACTION. That's how the LAW works. If you believe the law of attraction works, you'll attract what you want AS YOU ACT TOWARD it. If you confidently believe you'll learn to sell well, take the steps, study, read, etc, and take action, then you will become great, JUST BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT TO BE SO IT WILL BE SO. So if the news is horrible, and PEOPLE accept that WE MUST have war, we must have dependence on oil, that we must have shytty politicians, etc, etc, they won't do much to ACT in a way proper to BRING about a better reality. Make sense? BUT, if we believe we can have a better reality, deserve a better one, and we take the steps to do so, NOTHING can stop us. Same with this woman situation...
It isn't entirely as one would think. It's merely the byproduct of PAST, NEGATIVE thoughts and actions, hopefully running it's course. Observing current reality with any level of force will bring more toward you.
A-Unit
