Why is it girls always say they want a nice guy?

[crossboss]

I still don't get this, I know it is not about being a 'nice guy' but the desparation and neediness is what turns them off. Then there is a balance of nice guy, that people talk about. Where you can be nice, but be confident and a man. A man that turns them on, is what they want. Why aren't girls truthful.

Why though is it girls don't say what they really want?

 

[Sam Adams]

Probably because they don't know what they want or they saw too many disney movies as a kid and believe they are just waiting for the day prince charming comes.

 

[The Deacon]

You can be a good guy and get the girl. Just cause you have a dose of testosterone, doesn't mean that you can't be "nice." Steve Young is a good guy, and he's a friggin' stud.

When girls say "they want a nice guy," what they're really saying is they don't want a sleazebag. The guy has to have some testicles, too.

 

[regular_guy]

I think what they mean is that they want a nice guy, but he needs needs to have an edge (i.e. balls).

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

A girl says she wants a general "nice" guy(possibly to the extreme) it is because its what she logically wants. But what she needs is a guy who isn't that. Because, the latter guy turns her on as he has the traits of a strong man...whom she, by nature, is suppose to have sex with and wants to. Its a biological thing.

The key i believe is to be nice, but really in terms of being a good guy socially not a doormat, but rock her world(having a sexual vibe-the badass she wants). Any guy who says otherwise are tunnel minded and its flawed thinking u HAVE to be an all around prick to get her. Which all out pricks, sure some may be happy with life, i don't think the majority are and its not the best way to be.

Regular Guy and the Deacon are spot on.

 

[nismo-4]

They think life is a fairy tale.

Life is not the story of Cindarella, dammit. Women don't know what the hell they want. I wouldn't recommend asking them for advice on getting women, cuz you're AFC for doing that, and you will be lost in translation.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

Why aren't girls truthful.

Why though is it girls don't say what they really want?

Remember this: attraction is based on emotion, not logic.

When you ask a woman what she wants she will of course respond logically and that is where the contradiction comes from.

 

[Mad Manic]

Because it sounds bad if they tell the truth. The truth being they want a tall good looking white guy in the same class as them.

MM

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Why though is it girls don't say what they really want?

What makes you think that they know what they really want? Especially when the masses are "nice guys" with "bad boys" coming in a close second?

 

[Answers]

Women want a man they respect.

They want a strong character who treats them right when they follow his rules but won't tolerate them not following his rules. A man who is willing to walk away.

 

[Eaglecreek]

Why though is it girls don't say what they really want?

Do you know what you want? Now think about it serieusly? She doesn't (eather). You (might) have a vague idea just like women. They aren't lieing to you when they say she wants a nice guy, but her defenition about a nice guy is totally off that of your defenition of it. Also a guy doesn't only need to be nice, its just a good quality, some content, good appeal etc are good to have aswell.
If you don't agree then answer this: Would you go out with a girl thats kinda fat and who's alwayse boring you by saying you look good etc? Or would you go out with the ok looking to even good looking (its just an opinion if somebody looks good or not...) girl who's intrested in the same kind of sports, music, etc like you ? I wouldn't have any problem choosing. It just happens that most of the time this guy happens to be a jerk, or he does something that makes her say he is while its just she who's gossiping like all women do... (self-pity is something you'll find very frequent in women, especially the ones who like to gossip)

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

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If you don't agree then answer this: Would you go out with a girl thats kinda fat and who's alwayse boring you by saying you look good etc? Or would you go out with the ok looking to even good looking (its just an opinion if somebody looks good or not...) girl who's intrested in the same kind of sports, music, etc like you ? I wouldn't have any problem choosing. It just happens that most of the time this guy happens to be a jerk, or he does something that makes her say he is while its just she who's gossiping like all women do... (self-pity is something you'll find very frequent in women, especially the ones who like to gossip)

Very good point which is seldom addressed. It's why so many guys end up with women who aren't their type, they don't go through qualifying the woman other than he thinks she's attractive and she is allowing him to show interest. They seldom get to the point of looking for similar interests.

 

[MushroomGod]

Probably because they don't know what they want or they saw too many disney movies as a kid and believe they are just waiting for the day prince charming comes.

In Ciderella Prince charming just wanted to hit it, he was like "Midnight!? WTF I wanted to tap that glass slipper wearing ho!" In the little mermaid the chick wants legs just to ****. She knew she wouldn't get anywhere without a vagina. And we all know snow white was giving 7 little BJs a night.

 

[Tear Gas]

because how would it sound if she said "i want a guy that ignores me, doesn't return my phone calls, fcuks me like an animal, and treats me like ****!" yea doesnt sound too right. They just watch all those ***** ass dating movies and start getting ideas and ****..never listen to a women's advice on ANYTHING, unless it's tips on how to cook/clean/laundry etc etc..

 

[MacAvoy]

Why is it that a guy wants a women who constantly wants sex but in reality wouldn't settle down with a well known slvt? Would you marry an escort? Fantasy and reality are two different things.

 

[DonJuan11]

Why aren't girls truthful.

Because they have what we want and we have to work for it to get it.

 

[ChrizZ]

to not be labled as a slut

 

[DJVladdy]

thank you Chris.
If you havent done so, check out the videos on worthy playboy.com,
very interesting

 

[potato]

Actually most women do want a nice guy, prefer a nice guy. They just want one that turns them on. No woman ever rejected a guy for being nice. They reject guys for being physically unattractive, for having a dorky personality, or for being personally or socially incompatible. When a woman rejects what is here normally referred to as a nice guy she is essentially saying, “You are a nice guy and all but you don’t turn me on.”

 

[reset]

They seldom get to the point of looking for similar interests.

Just be careful with that, because if you have certain tastes and she has certain tastes and they are the same you may feel it's so uncanny that it was meant to be and forget the rules. Not YOU, obviously. But me. Because that's exactly what I went through. The fact that our interests and chemistry seemed to be so right on after a while, blinded me, and I let stuff slide because "I couldn't let such a good thing go".



But the interesting thing was, in the beginning, when I didn't know her, (and yes was qualifying her), those interests were intriguing but not enough. She just got to me and acted so fascinated by me having similar interests... hmm I think I'm describing oneitis formula here. I'm learning. :trouble: