Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
captain55 said:
Yeah because nothing screams "I'm on top" like a juvenile attempt to hurt her feelings, that's so bitter. Just admit she's got to you, put a marker on this point in your history and move on.
Why is being a player seen as a good thing?
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Yeah because nothing screams "I'm on top" like a juvenile attempt to hurt her feelings, that's so bitter. Just admit she's got to you, put a marker on this point in your history and move on.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
I don't think being a player is a good thing. An actual player is a bad person who plays everyone not just women for whatever personal gain he wants.
On the other hand, a guy whos labeled a player by women is someone who doesn't put up with their sh1t an just treats them what theyre worth (pvssy) so they label him a player out of spite and bitterness so other girls don't go at him. Whether to tarnish his rep or have the man all to herself.
At least that's my theory
On the other hand, a guy whos labeled a player by women is someone who doesn't put up with their sh1t an just treats them what theyre worth (pvssy) so they label him a player out of spite and bitterness so other girls don't go at him. Whether to tarnish his rep or have the man all to herself.
At least that's my theory
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
:crackup: WTF? She's got to be nuts to even take someone serious who talks like this.... And you're trying to tell us that you learned this here?captain55 said:
That's the thing... This is your own strange game... Not something taught on this forum. This isn't even player game... This is just straight up @sshole stuff (if you're not just trolling). And yes, any woman that response to this loves abuse...captain55 said:
PS: She's from POF!
So, how does your original thread apply? You're gaming her in your own strange way, and I guess it worked - - - I do the same thing (have my own unorthadox game)... But I don't blame this board if it doesn't work for me on a woman.... Or start saying "man if i was just beta about the whole thing - everything would be fine."captain55 said:
That is nonsense...
zekko
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Not all women are into players. Some will drop you immediately if they find out you are. As RoyalFlush says, these tend to be higher quality women. Self respect is a rare thing.
Players appeal to three types of women:
1. Women who are just looking for a quick bit of fun, either because they are not ready to commit themselves, or because they want to cheat. They know players will be unlikely to get serious, and will also have no qualms about escalating quickly.
2. Women who are players (slvts) themselves. Birds of a feather flock together.
3. Women who think they can take a player and change him so that he will commit to them. These women tend to be self-deluded.
Players appeal to three types of women:
1. Women who are just looking for a quick bit of fun, either because they are not ready to commit themselves, or because they want to cheat. They know players will be unlikely to get serious, and will also have no qualms about escalating quickly.
2. Women who are players (slvts) themselves. Birds of a feather flock together.
3. Women who think they can take a player and change him so that he will commit to them. These women tend to be self-deluded.
The reason players are so successful with women is basically down to their abundance mentality.
In short, they have lots of options, so they don't need any one woman. And this alone is extremely alluring!
Think about it. What do most guys do if they invest all their time in one girl and she starts getting cool, stops responding to texts or flakes? They suddenly feel this sense of loss or emptiness, which leads to desperation to try and "win" her back. Their ego needs that girl's attention, she is his only prospect of sex, or love. The girl has all the power, the guy looks needy and kills all attraction.
Now what about the guy who has several women on the go? If one starts acting cool or flakes, he pushes her aside and gives the next one his attention. He doesn't need any one of these girls because he has others, and has the ability to go and get others. His confidence is unfazed by a girl going cool on him, because his ego is getting its fix from elsewhere and his sexual needs are being satisfied by other women.
Women like a challenge, they like the chase, they like uncertainty and emotional ups and downs. A player gives them all of this, keeps them guessing, keeps them working for his attention. And the more time and effort a woman invests in a man, the harder it is for her to walk away.
In short, they have lots of options, so they don't need any one woman. And this alone is extremely alluring!
Think about it. What do most guys do if they invest all their time in one girl and she starts getting cool, stops responding to texts or flakes? They suddenly feel this sense of loss or emptiness, which leads to desperation to try and "win" her back. Their ego needs that girl's attention, she is his only prospect of sex, or love. The girl has all the power, the guy looks needy and kills all attraction.
Now what about the guy who has several women on the go? If one starts acting cool or flakes, he pushes her aside and gives the next one his attention. He doesn't need any one of these girls because he has others, and has the ability to go and get others. His confidence is unfazed by a girl going cool on him, because his ego is getting its fix from elsewhere and his sexual needs are being satisfied by other women.
Women like a challenge, they like the chase, they like uncertainty and emotional ups and downs. A player gives them all of this, keeps them guessing, keeps them working for his attention. And the more time and effort a woman invests in a man, the harder it is for her to walk away.
LiveFreeX
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Don't be a player, be a man in control of his life.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
BumpTheException said:
A lot of guys on this site not only pedestalize women, but also men who get laid a lot. Those guys 1) have really low standards and fvck anything with legs and 2) think they are a boss because they fvck multiple chicks. A guy who judges his self worth based on how much he gets laid is sad and immature.
If you want to be a one-woman man, then don't let this site call you a faggot. I applaud you for wanting to be better and realizing that this player shyt is not always worth it.
That being said, you should not gauge your self worth based on what this chick says either. Be true to yourself and enjoy life. It's all going to end some day, might as well have fun while it lasts.
If you want to be a one-woman man, then don't let this site call you a faggot. I applaud you for wanting to be better and realizing that this player shyt is not always worth it.
That being said, you should not gauge your self worth based on what this chick says either. Be true to yourself and enjoy life. It's all going to end some day, might as well have fun while it lasts.
Why can't it be something more along the lines that you can work together to take EACHOTHER into account simultaneously? Why not have NEITHER one of you do anything without an enthusiastic agreement. And if an agreement for EITHER of you can't be met right away you brainstorm with abbadon til one is accomplished and in the meantime its do nothing for either of you. I'm sure there is a win win scenerio to any situation if you both respectfully come to agreements that your both happy about without having an angry outburst, being dishonest, or being disrespectful towards eachother. After all if you actually cared for the woman and she actually cared for you... Then neither one of you would want to do something the other would disapprove of and you could both find ways to meet eachothers needs with honesty and integrity and respect.PlayHer Man said:
Its pretty simple... And my wife and I are getting much better at it, but actually Doing it is hard when we are all programmed to be selfish of our own feelings when we are upset instead of taking your partner into consideration (both guys and women I'm talking about here) both men and women get caught up in their anxiety in the moment and lose all rational congnitive thinking. Women are more prone to this than men are and there for since we are aware that they are we can curb it and respectfully help them be aware of their emotional state and not let ourselves slip into their world when they go there. Which is where being "pook" like kicks in and takes over the frame and all other times you both agree to take eachothers feelings into account at all times. You become INTERdependant when your ready to settle down.
Epi
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
HyperAnalyze
Don Juan
This has got to be one of the most twisted threads I have read...
First off.
Women want to be with a man who has the ability to attract other women while being in a relationship but won't.
This conveys abundance and value for a man who is highly desirable.
A man can still be an alpha and choose to be in a relationship in my opinion.
They say the man who can attract women is not nearly on the level of the man who can keep a woman forever.
The problem lies in masculinity deteriorating over time while getting too comfortable being in a relationship, thus the woman over time, loses attraction for the man and sh!t tests him to no end.
Relationship or not. A man has full control over his life and always spins plates.
First off.
Women want to be with a man who has the ability to attract other women while being in a relationship but won't.
This conveys abundance and value for a man who is highly desirable.
A man can still be an alpha and choose to be in a relationship in my opinion.
They say the man who can attract women is not nearly on the level of the man who can keep a woman forever.
The problem lies in masculinity deteriorating over time while getting too comfortable being in a relationship, thus the woman over time, loses attraction for the man and sh!t tests him to no end.
Relationship or not. A man has full control over his life and always spins plates.
It's true about this being a big thread in romance novels. Of course, you have the AFC rom coms where the sweet loser wins the girl, but the type of romance fiction that gets women hot is filled with drama and turmoil, and the man being emotionally unavailable.Social_Leper said:
I have to admit, whenever I've got into a relationship I've dropped all my plates, been totally faithful and given them all of my attention...BUT this has never really worked out for me. I'm at my best when I'm playing the field and exploring my options. This is when women gravitate towards me most and the more plates I have spinning, the more attention I get from other women and the more relationship prospects I get too.
VikingKing
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Women want men, that other women want.