Steve,
I appreciate you posting to promote yourself while also make an attempt to give back. Yet, the article(
http://www.authenticpua.com/blog/10-reasons-why-pua-forums-wont-help-you-get-laid/) in that link I think misses the mark completely. SS is the only forum I am a part of, so it is the only one I can comment on, but around here, this is the sentiment and spirit I found:
Guys selflessly spending their time to uplift and encourage each other out of the dark sides of relationships with women and themselves.
Of course there are questions, of course there are PU tips and tricks, of course there are a few trolls and liars. Yes, some of the summary and categorization of personalities could be considered accurate but only shallowly.
1) The Blind leading the Blind:
Would you say the same about a university? I know some of the greatest knowledge I have gathered from this life has been from peers, not from professors.
Sometimes shared experience breeds more wisdom then proven evidence.
2) Vocal members sticking up for each other:
This is called
comradery. When someone befriends you, to help you, and pull you out of a dark place or thought, you tend to respond with gratitude, loyalty and action. Calling someone’s success with woman a myth or qualifying any of us by post numbers or reputation is such an incredibly obtuse observation that my anger turns to pity for you. It means you have not experienced what the support of men helping other men be the best version of themselves can add to your life. Your quote
“ Its very often NOT based on their ability with women” YOU are correct! but again, you missed the mark Steve. NO ONE around here needs each other to defend their ability with women. Actually quite the opposite. Even the most seasoned relationship and women “gurus” as you put it, also come here to share the MISTAKES as well as successes.
If anything, those that defend each other, defend one another’s character not some superficial reputation. Again, comradery.
3) Look, I sort of addressed this already above. Yes, throw out enough generalizations and they are bound to encompasses every one. That’s the point though. Everyone is welcomed! All personalities have something to share and something to give. It is up to the individual to decipher the value.
4) Little Proof:
You want proof? Be authentic on SS.
Authenticity can spot authenticity. Authenticity can also spot BS. Yes, I am sure we all wonder about each other and whether or not the girl is as pretty as they say. Or is this situation even real? It’s a natural part of the anonymity and mystery of the venue in which we are communicating. Yet, vetting each other (which does once in a while take place) is too cumbersome most of the time. Again, though, what’s the harm in flexing your humanity to trust and help someone regardless. The idea is, even if one person is lying and embellishing,
the advice and the spirit in which the advice is given is still real. And, it is there for someone to extract and use in the future. Long after people move on from the site the help that they once offered keeps giving to others. So who cares if it was true or not. 99% of everything you have ever read in this life cannot be proven. Religious text, learning textbooks, and even fiction novels all have wisdom and “truth” to make you a better version of yourself. Those that spend time trying to prove or disprove it are those that are truly lost. Validation comes from consideration and application. Cynicism poisons truth that one might seek.
5) No incentive:
Ever scratch your own back Steve? Did it feel as good as when someone else did it. Could you even reach? Or, did you just rub up and down against the corner of a door jamb? The men on the forum give because they once received. It is capitalism but the currency is different. The advice is not free dude. Far from free. It took pain, frustration, sometimes tears, years, suffering and the darkness of self-exploration in what can be a very cold world to develop.
It is given back because it was once given forth. It is reciprocation. Because what is freedom when you share it with no one?
Intelligent self-interest drives the world to war and suicide. Ask anyone you can poll. The top, the pinnacle, the peak, is the loneliest place you will ever reach. Only two outcomes have ever existed for that pursuit throughout all of human existence. Death, or reaching back down the mountain to bless those below you. Which do you see at SS?
You would do well to stick around Steve. Open your eyes my friend because you will only receive what you perceive.
