why have relatinships with girls when you know they won't last?

[jbbrain]

madgame

j'ai jamais entendu ce mot lascard..c'est tu un mot francais ou bien donc quebecois?

 

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by jbbrain
Everybody,

Thanks for the replies. I know that my thinking is a little jaded. Deep down I know my main purpose in life is to live IN THE NOW and enjoy every day. This is especially important because not much in life is certain, but one certainty we do have is the uncertainty of tomorrow. I also know deep down most things in life aren't forever, and it's the desire to believe the opposite that makes us miserable.

Regardless, I just found it depressing that I'm turning a whole new leaf in my life, and as this can be very exciting, it also means I have to leave behind some things I wish I could have for a while. It's disheartening to know some relationship I'm in now will one day be only a distant memory..experience as some ppl label it..

But such is life, and I have to be realistic about it. I know that by not using conventional reasoning is to defy the life we have been given.

Thanks for the insights.

You're welcome!!
Oh, and one more thing:Australia-summertime-visit. I'll even charge off peak tour guide rates

 

[ShortyBrown]

Try cleaning out your inbox darling

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
Try cleaning out your inbox darling

Is she coming on strong, or what? LOL!

 

[CLOONEY]

jbb, I disagree with most people here on this topic. I beleive that you get in a relationship with someone in order to have longterm goals together and grow together. People may see this as "weak" or "AFC", but ultimately it is better for both parties.

You have to sit down with this girl and talk about the bad words that seems to be "the future", honestly after doing it you will feel much better and open communications is a MUST for a succesful relationship!

In western society, there is one beleif that seems to be a BIG BIG MISTAKE!! Everyone one lives in "the now" this is the latest rage, the coolest thing etc. But honestly that is just an excuse because they are too afraid to conquor the present in order to set up a successful future. This is also why in the western world people do not have long relationships and most of all are NOT COMMITED! If a girl is like this, I dont want to be with her. And to tell you the truth most of my long term relationships have been with girls from other nationalities, girls who have just moved here from other countries etc. They realise that like anything with a great reward in life is not to just live in the now, the best things in life are the hardest to get. You must really truly work for them.

Good luck, talk to her and let us know how it goes, take it easy mate.

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
jbb, I disagree with most people here on this topic. I beleive that you get in a relationship with someone in order to have longterm goals together and grow together. People may see this as "weak" or "AFC", but ultimately it is better for both parties.

You have to sit down with this girl and talk about the bad words that seems to be "the future", honestly after doing it you will feel much better and open communications is a MUST for a succesful relationship!

In western society, there is one beleif that seems to be a BIG BIG MISTAKE!! Everyone one lives in "the now" this is the latest rage, the coolest thing etc. But honestly that is just an excuse because they are too afraid to conquor the present in order to set up a successful future. This is also why in the western world people do not have long relationships and most of all are NOT COMMITED! If a girl is like this, I dont want to be with her. And to tell you the truth most of my long term relationships have been with girls from other nationalities, girls who have just moved here from other countries etc. They realise that like anything with a great reward in life is not to just live in the now, the best things in life are the hardest to get. You must really truly work for them.

Good luck, talk to her and let us know how it goes, take it easy mate.

Bro, I didn't state anything that diverges from your own beliefs. In fact, I can indentify with you a lot. I most definately intend to get married and raise children in the future, and believe in love. The greatest gift of meeting a woman you really love is what comes FROM that union - your children. Now THAT is a love that is completely unshakeable. It's like a 5000-pound iron safe. I look forward to it every day - it's just the bumps and hiccups along the way (meeting the wrong girls) that I don't look forward to.


It takes character to take responsibility in a relationship. I honestly think that 95% of people here (who preach all that indiscriminate 'NEXT!' crap) are irresponsible and haven't had much MEANINGFUL relationships (meaning going beyond sex and good times).


A 'Don Juan' isn't necessarily a man who is a lady-killer. The way I see it, he is a thoughtful and resolute man who takes care of those within his responsibility, like his children and woman. I have a lot of respect for good fathers. Half the guys here who brag about fvcking women and all that are still in development as men - their stuck in limbo. Whether they choose to wake up is upto them.

 

[Señor Fingers]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
I beleive that you get in a relationship with someone in order to have longterm goals together and grow together. People may see this as "weak" or "AFC", but ultimately it is better for both parties.

Very good point! However, I think this comes into play further along in the relationship, at least a year of foundation before you plan a real future together. In the first few months, there should not be this sort of pressure ... Its a fine balance of enjoying the moment and taking responsibilty of your actions and their effects on the future. Nothing AFC about that!

 

[jbbrain]

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