Unlock the Secrets to Dating Success

New to the SoSuave forum? Start your journey to becoming a dating rockstar with our essential guide.

This comprehensive resource will give you the tools and strategies you need to overcome obstacles, build confidence, and attract the women you've always wanted.

Don't let another day go by without taking control of your dating life - start now and get ready to experience the success and fulfillment you deserve.

Thanks for visiting, and I look forward to your success!

Why don't really friendly, attractive, and smart girls

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,114
Reaction score
136
Age
43
Location
Manhattan, NY

JPlaya

Banned
Joined
Apr 29, 2011
Messages
458
Reaction score
5
No, I've never seen them with boyfriends and my sister is the same way.
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,377
Reaction score
2,696
Location
Texas
"I don't want to date anyone right now" is chickspeak for "I don't want to date YOU (ever)".
 

Doctrine Dark

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2011
Messages
69
Reaction score
3
Location
Philadelphia, PA
Maybe it's something you never see, but I see many of these types of women (some that I actually know) with boyfriends, or going home with guys after a night out. So yeah, what Iceberg said.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,116
Reaction score
4,727
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
JPlaya said:
date or hook up with anybody
Any decent looking female, even if she is SINGLE, is not necessarily celibate. She probably has some "secret lover" or ex or f*ck buddy stored in her phone. They exchanges text messages, and he probably comes over her place every so often. Girls hide their secret hookups from other guys. They want YOU to THINK they are all celibate and innocent. When asked about her "single status", she will say something likes "...she is just not that interested in having a boyfriend after breaking up with Steve six years ago." PLEASE DON'T be fooled by this dude.

The funny thing is, the more friendly she is, the more likely she is to be taken. She might not be OFFICIALLY taken, i.e. has a boyfriend that is public knowledge, but if she's her happy cheerful self, she's getting laid somewhere somehow. It's all done under the radar.

I'm exaggerating slightly to make a point, but this is largely true.

I'll give you a real life example. I know this good looking, friendly, intelligent 21 y/o girl. She "broke up" with her boyfriend about a year ago. She is going to school full time. But she still goes over her ex's house once or twice a week "to study there because it's close to school." If anybody asked her, she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's not interested in dating until school is over.
 

Deadly_Ripped

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 29, 2003
Messages
626
Reaction score
26
Let me ask you another question...

Why don't ugly fat people date or hook up with anyone?

The question I asked is wrong for the same reason as yours. You make several incorrect assumptions.

1. You assume that if hot girls were hooking up with people, that you'd be around to witness it. Let me ask you, do you tend to hook up in public, or to talk with many people about your hookups? Only desperate people seeking validation brag to anyone and everyone about their sexual exploits, and hot women generally don't seek that kind of validation.

2. You assume that you know a reasonable cross-section of the hot female population to make this observation. Let me ask you, do you have many or even a few hot female friends? If you do, then you should probably ask them about this.

3. You assume that just because hot women don't date or hook up with just any guy that they don't hook up or date at all. They have standards, but, as with most people, their standards can be met and are probably met far more often than you'd like to believe. It's a big world full of a lot of people and 75% of women by the age of 19 are no longer virgins.

They date, they hook up, and in fact they may have a lot more sex than you, but you shouldn't expect them to run and tell you about it. Real life is not a pornographic film with peep holes, orgies, and exhibitionists around every corner.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Nutz

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 22, 2008
Messages
1,584
Reaction score
72
JPlaya said:
date or hook up with anybody
They do, with me. Seriously, I'm with a girl right now that's just as you described. They're out there, you've just got to take the time to find them. Too me about 4 years to find one I liked and met my standards (so far).
 

PapiChulo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 30, 2010
Messages
1,295
Reaction score
61
Location
Canada, eh?
Also ugly, stupid, bland women get it somewhere too, they are just more prone to cling to some sucker who can't do better that much more. I honestly haven't seen women like you describe all that often at all - they are rare.
 

JdelaSilviera

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 10, 2010
Messages
569
Reaction score
41
Yes, that´s my experience too. The hottest girls, usual are much more picky, and have less boyfriends though life.

Also they don´t need to have a fvck buddy, for many people sex is not an obsession.

Of course there´re some that are single but fvck other guys, ons etc.. But I know from experience what you are saying.
 

luckster

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 28, 2011
Messages
61
Reaction score
1
Location
All over the place
JPlaya said:
Why do I have to suck
Because you think you do. Take action.

I've seen you start a lot of threads lately and read most of them. From what you say, you sound like you're working on yourself physically, though your "approach journal" is as empty as it could be. You're not going to "stop sucking" until you take action. These threads can't help you anymore.
 

ArcBound

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 15, 2009
Messages
1,529
Reaction score
114
Location
U.S. East
Like attracts like.
 

bugsquish

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 23, 2003
Messages
569
Reaction score
13
Age
45
Location
UK
I just recently started seeing this girl who has been celibate since she broke up with her last bf back in January. She's hot, savvy and fun. But she's a bar maid and works unsociable hours. When she goes out, her brother is usually there with his ****blocking friends who have crushes on her. So she really hasn't had any opportunity to meet anyone until now. I was just in the right place at the right time to slip past the ****blockers and make a move.
 

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,116
Reaction score
4,727
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
JdelaSilviera said:
Yes, that´s my experience too. The hottest girls, usual are much more picky, and have less boyfriends though life.

Also they don´t need to have a fvck buddy, for many people sex is not an obsession.

Of course there´re some that are single but fvck other guys, ons etc.. But I know from experience what you are saying.
Agreed. There are no 100 percent rules in the game. There probably are some good looking girls that are celibate at times and they don't care/mind. I just wanted the OP to not assume they're celibate. They're usually hooking up somehow, but not always.
 

leeraconteur

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 13, 2011
Messages
36
Reaction score
0
Many smart chicks don't need to be with a guy 24-7, though many will mess around when it suits them. They are busy with school, career, business, etc.

Also, smart chicks can see through KINO and your PUA in 50 milliseconds. Trying to Peacock with a smart girl is a good way to humiliate yourself when she sees through it.
 

Myrrdin

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2010
Messages
123
Reaction score
5
Location
Middle of Nowhere
leeraconteur said:
Also, smart chicks can see through KINO and your PUA in 50 milliseconds. Trying to Peacock with a smart girl is a good way to humiliate yourself when she sees through it.
Dude, what? KINO is THE ultimate weapon in MAN's arsenal. The power of touch is what sets you apart from her FRIENDS!

Peacocking can also be done with style. If you want to peacock and don't want to do it like Mystery then hit the gym. A bulked and ripped body is THE most effective way to peacock.

Keep reading before you give advice :)
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top