Why doesn't she answer?

[Antigravitation]

Sometimes I'm 90% to 100% sure that a girl likes me, but when I send them a SMS-message they just don't answer me.

Like right now. There's a girl now that I wonder if she likes me, she might.. but I guess she might have other admirers as well. I don't know right now. All I know is that she doesn't answer a message I sent her and I'm not sure why. It frustrates me. She acts a bit weird towards me.

And its not the first time. Why do girls do this?
Is it a sign of tease or something, or is it more a sign that I should leave her alone?

Should I wait, or should I push on? Or should I leave her alone completely?

Can somebody who's a bit more experienced explain what she is doing?
Its very frustrating.

 

[Igetit!]

Sometimes I'm 90% to 100% sure that a girl likes me, but when I send them a SMS-message they just don't answer me.

Like right now. There's a girl now that I wonder if she likes me, she might.. but I guess she might have other admirers as well. I don't know right now. All I know is that she doesn't answer a message I sent her and I'm not sure why. It frustrates me. She acts a bit weird towards me.

And its not the first time. Why do girls do this?
Is it a sign of tease or something, or is it more a sign that I should leave her alone?

Should I wait, or should I push on? Or should I leave her alone completely?

Can somebody who's a bit more experienced explain what she is doing?
Its very frustrating.

There's not enoguh information here to give you a helpful answer.

You're telling us the outcome/the results of you trying to gain her interest.

We need to know how things came to this point.

So answer these questions...

How long have you known her?
Have you met her in person,or is this online?

PLEASE answer this next one AS ACCURATELY AS POSSIBLE...

When you FIRST MET HER,what did you say to her? How did you go about trying to set up a date,or get her interested in you?

How often do you two talk,and MORE IMPORTANTLY,what do you talk about?

It would be VERY HELPFUL if you could answer these questions precisely.

 

[Antigravitation]

Fair!

Well, I've known her for a couple of years. Been in class with her and everything. She's kind of a friend. I haven't really dated her I am sad to say. Flirted some though. I know she has liked me previously, and probably to an extent still, and I kind of have admitted to liking her too. It kind of was a thing that never hit off while we were in class, which was unfortunate.. but there you go.

We don't live at the same place anymore.
But we've had some contact on the net later and I guess there's still some tension there. Something. I kind of want to try to see if it could work between us, but right now she doesn't answer me my SMS, which was basically just asking how she are and how she likes her new school. Nothing really awkward.

And I don't really know why she doesn't answer back, while she is very active on facebook. Its gone two days. So I'm a bit confused. Is it a sign of rejection or is it a sign of tease? Could she aim to frustrate me?
Is that a thing girls do?

 

[Igetit!]

Fair!

Well, I've known her for a couple of years. Been in class with her and everything. She's kind of a friend.

A couple of years??? Well no wonder.

This has friendzone written all over it.

You said she's kind of a friend. Well you got that right.

And I don't really know why she doesn't answer back, while she is very active on facebook. Its gone two days. So I'm a bit confused. Is it a sign of rejection or is it a sign of tease? Could she aim to frustrate me?
Is that a thing girls do?

These questions can't be answered because you never answered the questions I asked you.

I CLEARLY asked: WHAT DO YOU TWO TALK ABOUT when you speak to her?

I CLEARLY asked: How often do you two talk?

We need information from you to give useful information to you.

If you don't do your part,then we can't do ours.

Nevertheless,I don't think it really matters now.

My "guess" is that she only sees you as a friend (your words),but she senses that you may be romantically interested in her,so she's backing off a bit.

She's known you for years in a nonsexual way,similiar to a brother/sister relationship. And now all the sudden,it's like her brother starts trying to hit on her.

EWWWWW!!!

I'm off to work.

Hopefully one of the other posters can give you the advice you're looking for.

Peace!

 

[Antigravitation]

Ugh, this is not helpful at all.

As I said, she has been romantically interested in me for a long while. Pretty obviously. She's not a friend-friend. You got it wrong. She's had some kind of crush on me for very long. For two years. I know this. We've fooled around some, but nothing seriously. Its not really that, I'm sure she's still into me in some kind of way, although its more cloudy these days. Its quite complex to explain the whole situation in a post. I really hoped I didn't have to.

What do I talk to her about/how often. Umf. I've known her for two years! Its not really easy to summarize, and I don't think its really that important. And if it is, I'm really not sure if I could explain it that easily.

You might be right that she don't want me to hit on her now though, and thats why she doesn't answer. Depressing that you seem to think so. I don't know. I'm 50/50 to this now. But I find her a bit teasing and weird towards me at the same time. Difficult to explain. She could just as easily be interested and she's just trying to get a reaction out of me. Or something. So its headachingly confusing.

My question is more general. Do girls sometimes aim to frustrate guys they are into?

 

[Ease]

No.

I highly doubt she is romantically interested in you. Girls dont have a mission of frustrating you, but we confuse their behaviour and misread it sometimes which frustrates us. Romantically interested is different from friendly attention. Wanting you to ask her out is different from telling you that you look good in a photo. Its not that easy!

You might think she is interested in you, but in actual fact you are probably more friendzoned than you think. You're going to have to do a friend zone escape with this girl. You've known her for 2 years and you're going to ask her out now, thats why its not working.

Answer the questions if you actually want help lol. How often do you talk, what do you talk about etc

As for the text, if she doesnt reply when you say 'hi' then maybe her fone is broken. But if you said 'lets go on a date next thursday', then your obviously screwed.

 

[Antigravitation]

Well, you might be right partly about it being late. I don't know anymore. Hm.

But no, I don't think I ever was in the 'friendzone' with her, like you both seem to suggest. I think you guys are way too uptight about the word 'friend'. Like its an alarm for wuss or something. You got the wrong idea! She's been very interested in me the last year. Safe as a bank. Its not really a secret.

So no. I'm not trying to date a girl that only has been a close friend for 2 years. There's been lots of chemistry and so on.
She has guys that are just friends. Lots of them actually. I'm not one of them really.

Its probably true that girls put guys into friends and people she's interested in, while some guys hits on their female friends when desperate, which probably isn't smart. I wasn't that kind of friend to her.

Quite contrary. It was obviously something serious going on, she had a serious crush on me just a couple of months ago. But I was so busy then and then it kind of dissolved because we both moved away. A bit sad. Thats when things got weird.

As for how often we talk. Ah well. We don't live at the same place anymore. We're just both on the net, like facebook and so on. She's in a very attentionseeking mood on the net these last weeks. And she talks to friends of mine on facebook which she rarely ever talks to, or jumps up in places she know I would look, which I find curious. While not really talking to me. I'm not sure what to make of it anymore. She's not your normal type of girl either. I thought she was PERHAPS signalling interest. Thats why I tried sending her a message.

And no, haha, I didn't ask her out on the text message. I just sent a message asking how her school was, and how she was doing. Very formal.. and more friendly than flirty. I didn't want to scare her. Intimidate her. But she still never answered.

But I kind of would expect a formal answer even if she wasn't really interested. Something. The fact that she avoids answering it is rather odd either way.

But I guess it could mean both shyness, or a game/test or something... or simply a sign of rejection. I'm confused.

 

[Joe Stud]

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