Why do you want beautiful women?

[LDBaha]

I've been listening to some Zan stuff. Honestly if you haven't Go get it.

I decided to be more honest with myself.
So I started thinking about Why do I want/love beautiful women. Why do I want a girlfriend that is hot or super hot?

Is it because the chemicals in my body go nuts when I see a gorgeous girl? Yes.
But on the other hand, a gorgeous girl that I do not find appealing doesn't do anything for me.

I once dated a beautiful model, tall, skinny beautiful, but I felt almost zero attraction for her. I have no idea why, and it has happened several times in my life.
I just recently met this hot tall blond (taller than me i'm 5'8) beautiful with a killer body and I just didn't find her attractive TO ME.

So I've been thinking a lot and I really can't put my finger on what I want...

So Apparently I want a connection with someone, I want someone who I have chemistry with. But that can't be it because I've met several girls who I have GREAT chemistry with, playful banter and stuff but they aren't pretty enough for me to actually date them.

so What is it that I want? I want a beautiful girl that I also have chemistry with. But why do i want that?
Do I want a beautiful girl to impress my friends? A Trophy Girlfriend?

because honestly I don't want that but when I picture myself with -x- girl as my girlfriend I can't help to think about my friends/family meeting her and me being proud of her.

So do I want a beautiful fun girl for just being a beautiful fun girl? Do I love woman for loving woman or just for the benefits (ego benefits) they bring?

Anyone else struggles with this kind of thing?

Honestly what I want, in my mind. Is To love women for who they are, to love beautiful girls because they are beautiful girls and not because I want to have sex with them or because I want to show her off.

Anyone can give me some advice on how to get rid of all that crap and just cleaning up these desires?

Am I making sense?

 

[Five To One]

I want a girl who im attracted to. Meaning I would enjoy having sex with her(duh).

For me its about 75% looks and 25% personality.

Its different for everyone and it just sounds like personality weighs in quite a bit for you.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

I want a beautiful girl because shes the definition of feminine. I see past the beautiful and get to know them because of their personality. I think we all want a beautiful girl because it makes us feel like were action heroes, and that we caught the best that nature has to offer. We want what is rare, and what is rare is more valuable, and in a obese America, that is valuable. We are attracted to them because we sir, ARE MEN! But the only way to see past the beauty is to talk to pretty girls all the time like a normal human. You get desensitized. Beautiful girls shouldn't boost your ego that much, that's what hobbies and good times are for haha


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[LDBaha]

That's very interesting the way you put it.

Exactly. Girls aren't made to be your life, they are there to enhance it. So I guess its OK to feel proud or have an ego boost because of a beautiful girl but it has to come from the core

Like saying "I'm so proud of myself that I worked hard on myself and I became this great person and that allowed me to make this GREAT connection with this girl... etc etc" and take pride in that.

As you can see I'm sorting out my thoughts as I write them down here.

Here's the thing. I love a gorgeous girl but a gorgeous girl with personalty stops being gorgeous to me. I guess I am a fan of beauty but beauty as a whole.

Like When You see a painting for the first time you actually look at the whole painting (gestalt theory) and then you take the little pieces and details in. After i look at a painting and I go "wow" I start seeing things I dislike I might even start saying "i don't like this painting anymore"

Same is with a beautiful girl. So That's what I want, I want the feminine the beautiful girl that's beautiful in everything (or almost, no one is perfect)

I'm a very picky person. I'm not a perfectionist I'm not looking for a perfect 10.
I could be in a room with 100 hot girls and just pick 1 because "there was something about her" something that drew me into her, not just her looks.
And this happens every day in my life. I could be at my college and be surrounded by beautiful girls (tons of them over here in Venezuela) but in between all that beauty I am able to pick out one that I cant even explain why.

A friend of mine recently told me "dude why are you into that girl so much? there are hotter ones" and I couldn't answer.

I like who I am becoming. I am an admirer of women, a lover of women but I don't actually need them or need their approval...

 

[Prodigy746]

Personality plays a huge role for me when it comes to girls. I would rather be in LTR with a HB7 with great personality than a HB10 with bad personality. Now if we are talking about one night stands than a 7 doesnt have a chance over a 10.

My reasoning behind it is this. If i am looking for a LTR and i have this perfect 10 that i spend 30mins to 1hr having sex with her per date but i have to spend 4-5 hrs with her doing different things being bored out of my mind and listening to her complaining. Furthermore her beauty will fade over time and i am left with her bad personality only. If i have a 7, i can still have sex with her and enjoy it and really enjoy her great personality the other 4-5 hrs we spend on a date.

To summerize
HB 10 (1hr of fun/per date) < HB7 (6 hrs of fun/per date)

After all you know what they say about sex "If its good , its really good... if its bad, its still good).

 

[Bigdada]

I don't like girls that people consider typically "beautiful". your definition of beauty is MUCH different than mine. I don't find Anna Kornakova the least bit attractive, I wouldn't give Angelina Jolie a second look, and tall blonds with long legs are boring.

Me personally? I like short, chubby (NOT fat, or BBW, god forbid, but I mean a little bit of a tummy--like, 135lbs) Mexican girls (about 5'3-5'5) who have dark skin, beautiful pearly whites and cheeks you can just pinch...I guess "cute" is more what I like. I personally don't find the media's idea of hot attractive. I want my cuddly mexican girl who is a good 6 inches shorter than me, with nice dark hair and a cute face--screw supermodels. They are so fake looking and so dime a dozen, there is nothing unique looking about them, so why do so many people think they're hot?

okay, THIS girl, I must admit, is Fine as hell: http://www.freshnews.in/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/deepika-padukone.jpg

but the other girls on the maxim list? I mean, THEY ALL LOOK THE SAME!!!

http://www.maxim.com/89StacyKeibler/2008-Hot-100/gallery/24909/2463.aspx

http://www.maxim.com/30JulianneHough/2008-Hot-100/gallery/24842/2463.aspx

http://www.maxim.com/83WhitneyAble/2008-Hot-100/gallery/24901/2463.aspx

http://www.maxim.com/21AmberHeard/2008-Hot-100/gallery/24832/2463.aspx

what is so hot about Any of these girls?

 

[Bigdada]

in fact, that's probably why stereotypical so called "hot" girls find me attractive, because I never pay any attention to them what so ever!

 

[Black suit]

Do you notice how ****ing flat-chested the last two of those maxim girls were. Eww!

 

[LDBaha]

Hmm.
I've come to the conclusion that when I think of a beautiful girl I don't necessarily mean "hot" but truly beautiful

I like that. I can probably tell that to girls when they see me talkng to other girls and will probably make them swoon xD

 

[mtlwlu]

I recently started seeing a girl who I find to be a 9 (in my eyes) but her personality is easily a 11, its the first time I can honestly say her personality trumps her looks. So that makes her a solid 10 in my books.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Everyone wants someone who is good looking. But, that always doesnt matter. Its how you and the other person connect. If you like a average looking girl. The more you like her; the better looking she will get in your eyes.

 

[Mr CIDH]

Tastes differ, girls that make me fall outta my chair of hotness, do nothing to my bro and vice versa.

How do people here rate women, lotta talk about HB7-HB10, but since tastes differ (even me and my bro don't agree on who is hotter amongst women) how do you give ratings. Media standards or personal taste?

I dont like tall women.. so tall & skinny supermodel would not do for me. Shorties are hot.

 

[Bigdada]

I dont like tall women.. so tall & skinny supermodel would not do for me. Shorties are hot.

Amen. which is probably why I like Filipino women so much. they got it all, lol

 

[Damascus]

I wan't beautiful women because they are adorable and make me feel good when i see them!

 

[Warrior74]

Let's not nerd it up guys. The wisdom is already out there...

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

One man's 10 is another man's 3 and vice versa. Go after what YOU find attractive. end of.

 

[LDBaha]

Actually the original post i made was more directed towards having a girl just because she's hot, not because you REALLY like her. Like you just want to show her off.

The idea was to discuss that.

I happen to feel that I go with hot chicks because I love them and how they look but also that EVERY other guy wants them too.

So my issue is that I'm not sure if I am doing it entirely on my own or because I want other people to say "wow that guy is awesome he has a super hot gf"
Part of me wants the chick becuase she's super hot, the other part wants her because I know she is wanted...

am i making sense?

 

[MisterMcGee]

Yeah, they are used as arm candy to boost your confidence and self-worth in some cases. Imagine being an amazing sexy DJ guy, and going out with a girl who is kinda meh...
Usually when I see a cool looking attractive guy with a 5-6 girl, I see the guy as being lower value subconsciously.