"Why do you like me?" she asks...

[theshist]

I've been searching thru the site, but I'm not finding much about how to respond to this question (So... why do you like me?). My first few responses were pure C&F, but now I'm runnin out of ways to dodge the question, and she's being very presistant about this... she won't drop the subject. What do I do??? and more imporantly what does this mean, is she tryin to take "us" up another level??

 

[MDgood]

I figure that by the time a chick asks that question, her IL is sky high in you, and you don't need to apply the C&F.

I say something that takes advantage of the high IL, plus gives her a signal that she can move in closer. I smile, look her in the eye, and say something like, "Because you're just cool, that's why."

 

[iqqi]

well...why do you like her?

 

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by theshist
I've been searching thru the site, but I'm not finding much about how to respond to this question (So... why do you like me?). My first few responses were pure C&F, but now I'm runnin out of ways to dodge the question, and she's being very presistant about this... she won't drop the subject. What do I do??? and more imporantly what does this mean, is she tryin to take "us" up another level??

if you're consistently getting this question, she's a little insecure about how you feel/herself. So have a chat to her and do a little re-assuring.

 

[Bonhomme]

It's a good sign, unless ...

she has real insecurity problems. Then she might just be a drag, and her comments will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Shorty's right. She may need a bit of reassurance.

This is a definite indication she probably thinks you're out of her league.

 

[iqqi]

confession

I can see how this question can make it seem like the girl is insecure, but I have asked this question myself.

Why? Because I wanted to see how well they have gotten to know me in the time we have been together. I know what my best qualities are, and they are personality traits. So if he is like "you got a tight ass, your eyes, ect, ect." then that says something. I want to see if they REALLY like me. So I guess its more of a test, if anything.

The more I think about it though, I guess it is not that smart of a question. Men suck at expressing themselves! Many times they don't get the question. When they answer it "wrong", I keep that in mind, and don't judge them on it.

 

[Bonhomme]

I'd flunk with flying colors!

Ususally it would be hard to resist giving a blatantly dumb answer like "B-O-D-Y!", or something like that.

But really, it's hard for me to go out with someone at all when it's not blatantly obvious from what we discuss and what we do.

 

[Bonhomme]

Double post

 

[( . )( . )]

well...why do you like her?

she swallows

if you're consistently getting this question, she's a little insecure about how you feel/herself. So have a chat to her and do a little re-assuring.

your right about the insecure bit, thats no reason to have a sit down reassuring chat, keep her on her toes.

aww sh!t i can see it now :

her : why do you like me
him : * ok put her mind at ease, talk to her*
him : because you mean the world to me, and by know means should you be feeling insecure about us. ( or something equally sad )
her : .........Next

This is a definite indication she probably thinks you're out of her league.

and this is bad, how?

 

[dionysius_d]

Q: Why do you like me?

A: I dunno.. I just do at the moment.. I can't promise i will in the future or next week. But right now, hmm maybe.


Q: Why do you like me?

A: Why do you need to know?

 

[Bonhomme]

It's not bad.

Her thinking you're out of her league is usually good.

But it can be a sign of self-esteem that's too low. That's not good.

 

[BrWnSugaMan]

Yup,

Everyone hit the nail on the head except for the girl -- go figure.

 

[Duke]

Eh... back when I was King AFC, one-itus asked me that. At the time, she believed I was infatuated (I was), and I kept telling her all this mushy crap about how I liked her.

When she hit me with the question, I couldn't come up with an answer. She was cool, but being the analytical moron I was, I tried to create a checklist for her .
The end result was a lot of silence and her thinking that I was after her body.

Nowadays it would go like this:
Her: Why do you like me?
Me: I don't know and I don't care. I just do.

 

[Don Rageta]

Q. Why do you like me.

CF. Well up untill now i thought you were a secure girl that didn't ask questions like 'do i look fat in this' or 'why do you like me' but now i have to say because of your ass.



She will be shocked and probably laugh and the question is succesfully dodged

 

[Don Juan Marco]

ha ha, yeah man...that's the BIG test question!!!
Beware of what you're anwser is. One "wrong"word and forget
it. She wants to hear she's the one. So tell her.
She wants to hear she's special cause she has everything what you look for in a woman....So tell her.
She wants 2 hear about a possible future with u. Be carefull here.

But always, always..always...use this line:

Look baby, only once in your life, if you're lucky, you will meet the one that makes u say "Damn". You're that one. If u don't want me
fine, I'll just walk away. I can't stand it being around you knowing we will never be 2gether. I know what I want in my life and I want you.

I can't remember this line failing...ever!

Good luck man!

Marco

 

[Don Rageta]

DJ Marco, that is quite possibly the most AFC line i have ever heard on this site, and i remember the guy that begged the girl that LJB'd him and then said we'll be friends and then wear her down. remember Urkel, i think i have actually heard him use that one. i don't doubt it's possibly worked for you but that could only have possibly worked on a girl with a really Really, i mean REALLY Low self-esteem. anyhow 'theshist' you should think up c/f responses for any question you want to dodge. its the most proven method of dodging the question. or i guess you can tell her how amazing she is like marco says.

to quote George Costanza, 'gotta have Hand'

 

[comote]

I don't know anything about ss, but I think that this question would be a great way to segueway into a pattern. I would be interested to hear what the ss'ers here have to say about it.
I guess I would probably try telling her we have this great connection and other bs like that.
Actually I think DJM's line is not that bad, if you say it right and change the wording a bit to make that focus her feelings rather than yours.

 

[ApocalypseCow]

Her: Why do you like me?
Me: Who said I liked you?

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by ApocalypseCow
Her: Why do you like me?
Me: Who said I liked you?

Absolutely perfect!

 

[STR8UP]

I got the exact same thing a couple of days ago.

She first asked me "So, what is it that intrigues you about me?"

I said "Oh, so now you're an intriguing person, huh?" (Like she shouldn't be flattering herself)

So she rephrased it "What is it that you like about me?"

From that point I knew there wasn't any way of getting around it, so I basically just told her the truth and peppered my answer with humor so it didn't seem too serious.

Then I turned it around on her, and made her keep coming up with things she likes about me even when she ran out, lol.